from the Google Book, "Old English Country Cottages," which contains
some sketches by Helen Allingham and other 19th Century English artists.
Red Roof, by Joseph Kim
In a Christian home, the husband is a leader only within the will of God contained in His Word, the Bible. A man cannot arbitrarily make up rules and laws and commands that do not fall in line with God's Word.
He is there to lead his family closer to God's Word, not to lead them away from it and endanger their souls. He must not give orders that violate the scriptures or cause the wife to disobey God's ultimate commands.
The New Testament book of Titus, chapter 2 outlines the activities of women in the Lord's church, showing how the older women are to teach the younger women to care for their families and to be keepers at home, "that the Word of God be not blasphemed."
If a husband teaches otherwise, and sends his wife to work, he is going above God, and the Word of God is blasphemed. By putting pressure on her to work outside the home, he discredits the Word of God, and shows a very poor example of manhood to his neighbors and relatives. . He is also violating God's word in 1st Timothy 5, verses 7 and 8:
And these things give in charge, that they may be blameless. But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
If a husband truly understands God's word, he will not hint, ask, pressure, demand or command his wife to "get a job." He is less of a man if he does, because he is expecting her to be a provider. The Christian husband is supposed to be the provider.
When the wife becomes a co- provider, she takes on the responsibilities that God has given to her husband. The man loses a piece of his masculinity and will be forever dependent on his wife's salary, and she forfeits a part of her natural womanliness by leaving the feminine concerns of the home that were designed for her by God. The husband becomes dependent upon her salary and loses his sense of urgency and drive to earn a living.
Instead, a Christian husband should be dependent upon his wife in the ways that require her feminine strengths to care for and guide the home. Her work at home advances his health and well-being so that he may be motivated to make provision for his family.
Christian women have a spiritual obligation to be keepers at home: Titus 2:5. When a woman goes to work outside the home, there is great neglect of the family, the house, and other home-based obligations.Being home protects her from the stresses of other people's work schedules and other people's demands and dominance over her time and life. Being home provides her with the freedom to be creative in her management of her time and her work. If a man really wants to protect his wife, he should not send her to work where she will be under the authority of other people.
Where God has already spoken, no man can over-rule. Where God has been specific, we are not free to make up another law that contradicts it. Titus 2 is direct: women should be taught to love their husbands and children and guide the home. Being keepers at home gives them more time and the opportunity to extend this love and watch over the things that go on in the home.
Since Christians are supposed to be different from the world, being a keeper at home will let a woman's light shine to a world walking in spiritual darkness. Her example of dedicated home-keeping will be a stabilizing factor in a confused culture. A man whose wife is home should be very proud of the fact that she is doing this on his provision, whether it is a small income or a great one.
The husband as a provider and the wife as a keeper, guard and guide of the home is like the sun and the moon being in their rightful places, each one doing its job but both working together for the good of the earth. The man and woman in their rightful roles will bring blessings to the home. Although we might not "see" all these blessings, we must remember that many spiritual blessings, such as the favor of God, love, peace and happiness abide in a home where God's law is obeyed.
The New Testament contains these lovely words from the book of Titus, chapter 2. I have removed the numbers of the verses (which were actually added some time after the translation of the Bible), to allow it to be read as a whole, without the numbers in the sentences.
But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:
That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.
The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.
In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity,
Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you. Exhort servants to be obedient unto their own masters, and to please them well in all things; not answering again; Not purloining, but shewing all good fidelity; that they may adorn the doctrine of God our Saviour in all things.
For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ;
Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works. These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.
Notice the men are told to speak the things of "sound" doctrine and be "sound" in faith. Requesting their wives to support the family and seek paychecks through employment, is not sound doctrine and does not show faith in God's Word, His pattern for life, or His commands. Pressuring the wife to work shows ignorance of the Word of God. It also shows a man who is under peer pressure from other men, usually in his place or work, because they have their wives working, too. (At home, a woman does work!). What this is all about, is the desire for money.
These days, there are erroneous religious teachings being spread about obedience. False teachers declare that a woman is obligated to go to work outside the home when her husband wants her to, because she should obey her husband. When the apostle Paul was told by a government authority that he should not preach the word of God, he replied, "We ought obey God, rather than man." Acts 5:29 These days, if a man asks his wife to get a job, she will comply out of fear that he will leave her if she doesn't, and yet, when a husband asks a wife to stay home, even Christian women will refuse. My opinion is that people pick and choose what they really want to do, regardless of scripture.
Men are not authorized to teach something contrary to God's law. A woman's ultimate authority is the Lord, and if she is wise, she will not ever go against God's word, but instead, teach her husband by her good example in obeying the Word of God. The words of 1st Peter 3, verse 2, explain that a woman can teach her husband by the good way in which she lives. Adam Clark, 18th century writer and Bible scholar wrote, concerning this:
There is nothing more powerful, next to the word of God, to win people, than a good conversation, and the careful discharge of relative duties.
When a husband asks his wife to bring in an income, he is asking her to disobey the word of God and to neglect her home. The word of God is blasphemed when Christian women are distracted from their main purpose described in Titus 2. Her response should be to fully carry out the duties of home keeping and to do it well, giving him a good example of a Christian woman's duties to the home and family. I observed a woman whose husband once attempted to say jokingly, that she should get a job. She responded, "I'd do that, honey; I really would, and with all my heart, but first I must finish the laundry, ironing, cooking, sweeping, gardening, teaching the children, cleaning, paperwork, sewing, mending, knitting, teaching younger women, sorting the family mementos..." She named off more things on her long, long list of things that needed to be done at home. Another woman told her husband, "You do a MUCH better job at providing for the family than I ever could!"
When a Christian husband humbly wants to obey the Lord in all respects, he will not ask his wife to do things that violate her own commitment to the Lord and His teachings in Titus 2.
There was a time when most people on the earth, even those not religious at all, would not argue about the women being allowed to stay home and be in charge of the inner workings of the household. Most people thought it was as natural as breathing the air. If anyone asked a woman, "Why do you stay home?" or "What do you do all day?" they would have been treated as though they were a dunce, and given a scathing glare. You simply did not ask questions like that of the dedicated, hard-working makers of homes.
Little by little, through modernist thinking and teachings in women's studies classes, the freedom of women to be home as caregivers to their husbands and guides of their children, has been eroded, until now, even Christian preachers have been heard to say, "I think it is okay for women to be home, unless the family needs a second income," "Women should be home unless there are no children," or "Christian women should be full time homemakers, when possible."
The "when possible" phrase becomes the exception clause that is added to Titus 2. I can't imagine these men using the "when possible" phrase regarding really important doctrinal matters, but when it comes to money, the fake exception clause comes in handy. Imagine adding this fake exception to the verse commanding a man to provide for his own. I do not see such exceptions in the verses of the Bible which command men to provide for their families and women to be keepers of the home.
The scriptures do not give husbands authority to turn their wives into co-providers. When a man asks a woman to "help-out" financially, there are a number of ways to do this without leaving her post at home and working elsewhere. These include preventing the income from going out as fast as it comes in by reducing expenses. Many women can stay home, but do not want to do without visits to the nail salon, hairdresser, restaurants, daily coffee's at drive-ins, several vehicles, extensive travel expenses, shopping at high-end clothing stores, and entertainment. These things can all be substituted in other ways that will not involve the wife going to work, which can perhaps be explained in a future post.
Thinking Housewife has posted a pointed poem by one of her readers on this very subject.
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Someone commented about this post on another blog, which has good advice on it for women at home. After all is said, written and studied, it is up to the woman to develop a personal belief about the matter. No woman will ever be forced by the church members (at least, the church I am a member of) to stay home. This decision is always left up to the individual and no pressure is ever exerted on anyone to do anything they do not wish to do. Each couple should seriously study the scriptures as to how that decision will influence others. They should not claim that a preachers wife or any other church member told them what to do. The scriptures are available for everyone to ponder and to digest. I encourage everyone to develop their own personal conviction based on scripture.
I will add that when you take on any work responsibilities other than your home duties, you give up your freedom to be "just a housewife." If you go to work, you may find it impossible to ever return home full time again. Also, you do not have to be debt-free or have every expense accounted for. You may find when you stay home, that bills get paid, and you will find that at the end of a month at home you are nowhere nearer to living under a bridge than you imagined. One thing many women and men do not consider is that being a homemaker is largely a matter of faith, and with it may come unexplainable success.
Please enjoy the links from the little pictures below each post (they change when you refresh the page), my blogroll, and other features here, while I am busy. I hope to return to more regular blogging soon, but in the meantime, I am involved in some special projects. I also have a blog of paintings and books at http://www.lovelywhatevers.blogspot.com/ , which I will be updating soon.
This is a little play-cake for a child's kitchen, made of fleece and poly-fiber-fill stuffing. If you are familiar with sewing with felt, you can make the same things using fleece. Polar fleece is a little more flexible than felt and has a softer look, but the choice is yours.
I did not make a pattern for this because I used a teacup saucer to trace the circle, and then cut a fourth section out of the fabric circle to make the cake look like it had been cut. I measured the other pieces as I sewed, and also made a slice of cake, which is not shown here. You can get directions for a slice here.
Since I host a Ladies Tea once a week in my home, I like to have an interesting centerpiece each time, and this cake will be just the thing. Little leisure-art bits like this are great for gifts for those who like them. After the tea, someone might go home with the centerpiece of the week, or I may send it by mail to someone who likes it.
Only occasionally to I find a movie that I feel I could recommend to others. A friend told me about The Lightkeepers because she knew I liked Edwardian costume, so I watched this movie just to see the hats and dresses on the ladies and found it to be a good story, with a happy ending.
You've probably seen the egg-shaped decorated cakes in bakeries and grocery stores around the country. This dainty little sewing project is a replica of these egg-cakes, and only takes a small of amount of time to make.
It is made of polar fleece but any fabric can be used. This one is a pink egg shape, stuffed with polyester fiberfill, trimmed in rucking, and topped with a rose and leaves that look just like the icing in the real cakes. Here is how to make one:
With a pencil and double layer of fabric, draw around the cardboard egg pattern which is included in this post and then cut out the fabric. Machine or hand-stitch a small seam around the edges, leaving a gap big enough to insert stuffing.
When filled sufficiently to your preference, stitch up the opening, and then cut a long strip of fabric about 3/4 to one inch wide. Make the strip two times the circumference of the egg by wrapping it around the outer seam twice to get the right measurement. This is called ruching, which is a simple kind of ruffle. To make it, knot a long piece of thread and sew a running stitch , using long stitches down the middle of the strip of fabric, pulling it to gather slightly as you go.
Check to see if it fits the egg, wrapping it around the seam line once, before you knot the other end. Loosen or tighten the gathers as needed and then tie off.
Attach the ruching trim to the egg by sewing through the middle of the ruching again, through the seam of the egg, covering the seam, all the way around. It should look a little like piped icing.
Using another piece of strip, approximately 3 inches long, (or use the pattern provided) sew a gathering stitch at the lower end.
Gather up the piece like this,
and pull up the thread and tie off.
Then, roll the gathered piece so that it looks like a rose,
and stitch the lower edges together.
Lay the rosebud on some felt leaves from the pattern. Put gathering stitches down the middle of the leaves before attaching the rose, and pull up the threads slightly to give the leaves some shape, and to make them look like icing. Or, take a stitch in the back of each leave to give it a puckered look.
Imagine what a white bowl filled with these eggs in lemon yellow, mint green, baby blue or white would look like!
Print the pattern out on card stock, or trace around an egg-shaped card for your guide.
Part of the enjoyment of making something like this is the cost: just a few cents if you use little bits of fabric and trims you already have. You can scent them by spraying some vanilla cologne (available at Dollar Tree) into the fiberfill before you stitch up the seam. It is tempting to make a lot of these, but one of them will make a nice package topper or little gift to include in a package for someone.
The fabric eggs you see below are sold in a popular catalog online:
These velvet eggs are from Victorian Trading Company - The trims are made of wool and chenille trim. I tried to figure out how they were made but ended up just inventing my own, as you see in the above demonstration! These are about 6 inches long by 5 inches wide, and my eggs are almost as big. So you see, if you make these cloth eggs, you are making something that sells for about $12.00 apiece online!! Make some of my fleece piped-icing eggs for your etsy shop and sell them for your nest-egg!! Check out my chicken pattern here.
These small stuffed hens can be made from scraps of fabric and any trims you can find. This one has tail feathers of stretch trim and a beak made from heart shaped buttons.
This one has a comb and wattle made from this metallic rick-rack, and tail feathers from white eyelet cotton gathered trim.
The eggs can be made two or three dimensional, depending on how many pieces you sew together.
Here is a close-up of the hen next to the matching kitchen curtains, showing the wings attached. Crafts like these are whimsical accents when you use left-over scraps from curtains and table cloths. If you make matching tea-cozies or potholders and other things, it makes a humble kitchen look co-ordinated.
Go to Martha Stewart for instructions on how to make these eggs, if you want something different than the cloth eggs.
Click on the pattern, then "save" and print on card stock for your template.
Fabric scraps at least the size of the paper pattern
Trims and buttons, sequins for eyes if preferred, embroidery floss for eyes, eyelet ruffle or other kinds of ruffles.
Fiber fill tuffing
thin scrap of batting for the wings.
felt fabric for beak, wattle and comb, if preferred.
With pencil, trace pattern on doubled fabric on the wrong sides (fold fabric with right sides facing each other and wrong side out.
Cut out the card stock or paper pieces and lay them on the fabric, and if necessary, tape them down with clear tape or pin them to keep from moving while cutting.
If preferred, just trace around the pattern with a pencil and then cut out the fabric.
Sew the hen around , leaving open at the "x's".
After sewing around the chicken, turn it right side out, and press with the iron to make the seams smooth.
The gusset is not necessary but you can insert it at this time. I found that just by stuffing the hen a little more full at the bottom, it would sit just fine with out the gusset.
After stuffing, sew the gathered lace around both sides in three rows.
If inserting a gusset, cut a cardboard piece and put it inside the hen in the same place as the fabric gusset.
Cut two pieces for each wing, and sew around it. Cut an X on one side of the wing and turn it right side out. Then stuff with a piece of matching batting that has been cut to the same size as the wing.
Stitch along the stitching lines of the wing to make it look like feathers.
Attach the wings by the x's by making small over-cast stitches.
Sew several rows of ruffled trim on the tail, by hand or machine, turning it around to the other side also.
Sew the beak of whatever trim or fabric you like, and add the wattle and comb of preferred material or trim.
(pictorial tutorial may appear later)
The larger hen in the middle is made of felt with seams sewn on the outside.
You can also use this pattern to make cards from scrapbook papers and card stock, or make large chickens from heavy paper by adding a stand on the lower edge. If you want to make chickens that fit envelopes, just reduce the pattern and make a template.
These egg cards are quite easy and fit nicely into a square envelope. You can buy a box of pastel envelopes of this size at Walmart or the Dollar Tree. In the above photograph you see the card, a smaller, gift-enclosure card, and a gift tag with a hole punched. Each one is decorated with a rose image cut from Anna Griffin scrapbook card-stock. The paper used is regular print type card-stock, in white. Write your greeting on the inside of the card.
Here is a pink set, including some smaller eggs (pattern included), which can be used for table confetti, or as interesting enclosures for the card. I've put the K&C butterfly stickers with the same shade of pink on each egg card. K&C is an English company and you can find the stickers at JoAnnes. Often they are reduced in price or you can use a coupon to get them nearly half price.
You can make your own butterfly clip art by cutting several layers of a hand-drawn butterfly, and putting them together with special tape.
Here is a set of blue cards from the parchment marbled card stock shown below, using Dollar Tree stickers.
From right to left: parchment marbled pastel card stock, Anna Griffin printed scrapbook card stock, and K&C stickers. It is not necessary to buy anything for these cards. Just use what you have, and cut decorations from bulb and seed catalogs that have good quality paper. This projects looks good made with children's construction paper, too.
The Anna Griffin pack is printed on each side of the paper, so the card will open up to another color. This is one of the prints from that stack.
Click on the patterns for a larger view, and then on the window that pops up, click "save." Save this to your pictures and then print on card stock. It is difficult to trace around a paper print-out, so I would recommend you use a heavy paper like card stock. Cut out the templates and trace around them with a pencil on your favorite papers. Cut out and decorate with stickers and other things, even sewing notions such as little ribbons and rosebuds.
If you do not want to purchase envelopes to fit this craft, or cannot locate them in any store, here is a pattern you can use. Print or paste it onto a heavier piece of paper or card stock, and use it as your template. Trace around it on thin scrapbook paper or computer paper. Make envelopes to match the color of the cards.
Here is a picture of some of the ideas I had for these cards, using scrapbook paper. One of the eggs on the printable template page is slightly smaller, so that you can put it on a larger egg and make a border around it, as you see on the card below.
These new bulbs appeared to brighten the overcast days.
Something else new is lightweight coat I have been sewing, for spring or autumn:
This pattern recommends using a light-weight wool. I made mine in a thin, inexpensive fleece. The pattern is made for a lined coat, but you can skip this if using fleece and you just need a spring coat that will not be too heavy. It has a close fit, so you may need to sew a muslin copy first to try on. This is is for an advanced seamstress. Buy a pattern like this when the fabric store has a 99-cent sale. This is not a good sewing project for beginners.
Pink fleece dress-coat with princess seaming and stand-up collar. It has a detachable hood. The cost of fabric and buttons, all purchased at a discount, was approximately $25.00.
These are the buttons that will be used on it:
Sometimes these can be purchased at a discount by using a coupon from the fabric store which gives 50% off your total purchase.
The coat would look nice in other pastels like blue, yellow or green, and also in white.
One Of The Family is one of Cotman's most famous paintings, and depicts a delightful family around a table eating a meal. The models used by Cotman for this scene were an actual family, named Street, who lived in the north of England. The child on the bottom right of the picture emigrated to New Zealand when she was sixteen, and now a whole family of descendants of this child in New Zealand proudly own copies of the painting.
For the benefit of those using braille keyboards that do not pick up photographs and paintings, the description of this painting is as follows: A family sits at a long dining table, on which is a thick pie of some kind, and something that looks like a plate of cheese. The window is opened and the mother is holding out an apple to a family pet, a horse. In one corner is a Grandmothers, slicing some bread and in another stands a man hanging up his coat. The children are eating with enthusiasm. Readers can add their own observations in the comments.