Monday, January 05, 2015

A New Life


                                
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It is a different life for me and others whose mothers have passed on. My thinking pattern will change. It is quite a shock, as many of you have experienced.  

No longer will I be shopping with her needs on my mind, wrapping a package, going to the post office, sending letters, and no more conversations about our lives and what we each remember about everything. I automatically pray for her each night and have to stop myself!  A life is more than just the existence of a person. It effects many other people and areas of life.

 Our  loved ones determine many times what we will do or think in a day. Even talking with other family members about things to say and do with Mama in mind will cease.   So, when a person leaves this earth, it makes a big difference in other people's lives. I am sure you know that.  I am so lonely for my mother and wonder if that will ever cease.

We are making our arrangements to go be with the family and trying to write down an itinerary of who we will see and when and where and places we want to go.   I will keep in touch as best I can and of course, post pictures. I will still get email and skype.

I pray for all the readers and bloggers that come here and I hope you will pray for our safe trip and safe return.  

Lydia




25 comments:

Teresa V. said...

Dear Lydia,
I have learned in just the two months since my daddy has died, that the longing really never goes away. A friend of mine told me comfortingly that she still misses her father every day, even after 40 years. So that is how our parents live on in us- not just because we know they are in Heaven, but they are with us in our memories, our love for them, and in our own personalities shaped by theirs. In a way, they live on in that Mom- or Dad-shaped hole that can't be filled by anything else. May God give you comfort and peace.

T

Colleen said...

I hope your trip brings you some comfort. I will pray for you and your family for safe travel and during your trip.

Julian said...

Praying for comfort and strength. Christina

Susan said...

I lost my mom suddenly over 30 years ago. It will get easier through time. The Bible tells us there is a time for everything. This is your time to mourn and as you do, dwell on the lovely things about her life and the times you spent together. I have found that all the pictures and mementos do not make me feel better. It's the little daily rituals that mom taught me that make my life more pleasant and comfort me. Most of all remember to take care of yourself. Spend time with loved ones and friends and get a lot of rest. You are in my thoughts and I pray your trip will be a comfort to you.

Unknown said...

Praying for you dear sister. Kelly

Anonymous said...

My prayers follow you as you get ready to travel Lydia. Be at peace knowing that, yes, sadness is with you, the joy of knowing where your mother is and the fact that you will see her again, is quite comforting. Safe travel... Mari

Arielle said...

I don't think I've ever commented before but this moved me to do so. I will be praying for you and your family. Be with them, know your mother is in a better place, that her love is always with you, and we will be here when you are ready to come back. <3

Anonymous said...

Lady Lydia, your mother lives on in you and everyone whose life she touched. You will be reunited some day, in the meantime, you can still talk to her everyday. Godspeed!

in His peace,
Miriam

Anonymous said...

My mother died when I was 26 and my father died 7 years ago when I was 41. Both died tragically and both were unhappy people, non Christians. The pain of their loss is exacerbated by the unhappy memories of how lost and miserable they were.

Knowing your mother lived a long full and happy life full of hope and faith can be a great comfort to you now.

God's Blessing and Prayers to You and Your Family. L.S.

Andrea R said...

I hope you have a trip filled with good thoughts and wonderful memories, and healing times with the ones you loved, and those who loved your mother.

I'm praying for you, and for your safe travels.

Much love, dear friend!

Lynn said...

I am happy for you that you will be going to be with your family in Australia.
When do you leave? Can you share that?
I too , along with all the others here, will keep you in prayer for completely safe travel and strength of heart during this time of huge hurt to your heart.

A very warm hug....Lynn

Lynn said...

Teresa....I appreciate your comment...it is very true.

Lynn

Unknown said...

A thought I have had is that I want to be the best mama I can be. My mother is still alive but unfortunately she was never able to be a real mother. She was abused most of her childhood by tyrannical parents and is very empty of nurture and love. I am SO SO Thankful for mentors like you Lydia because I myself would not have learned had it not been for you. I know you also are an amazing mother. Will keep praying. - Kelly

living from glory to glory said...

Dear Lydia, I am just so blessed by your words of how you said it seems like things will change with all the dynamics and relationships from the passing of your Mother! I believe it is a very true statement! And your words and love that has been permanently instilled in your heart and life does affect us all today!
As the lost will change many things...
Praying often for your travels and all the details!
Lovingly, Roxy

Christine said...

Prayers for comfort I lift up for you and your family. Thank you for being such a kind blessing to so many of us. Christine

Anonymous said...

Dear Lady Lydia, bless your heart for such a beautiful blog post at this most difficult time. I will be praying for you and your family.

Jenny

Christine said...

Prayers are being said for you and your family. Yes, it is a new life after a parent goes to Heaven.

I keep thinking of your stay with her last year and all the wonderful things you did for her. She was loved!
What a gift for both of you.

Peace!

Anonymous said...

It's hard losing a mother - especially a good mom like you had. My mom was far from perfect, but I still grieved the loss and still do. We lost my mom and dad, and hubby's mom all within a year. We all of a sudden felt like orphans.

Mary said...

Lady Lydia, my deepest condolensces on the sudden loss of your mother. As others have said there is a time of healing. I keep my Dad's picture by my bed so I can see his smiling face doing what he loved best-fixing his tractor. I still miss him so.

Please know that you are in prayer. Mrs. Wilson

Michelle said...

You are much loved, and I am praying for you and your husband. I pray that you will have a safe journey, a good visit with family, etc. I think being around other family at this time can be comforting and strengthening.

Valerie said...

So very sorry for the loss of your precious mother. Will be thinking of you and sending prayers your way. Blessings, Valerie

Anonymous said...

I wish you a comforting visit to my country, Australia and hope that you will be able to remember and also let go. Blessings, Caroline

Mrs. Cote said...

You are in my thoughts and prayers for safe travel and comfort. I wish there was something I could say that could take this pain. Just know we mourn with you right now.

God bless,
Mrs. Cote

Lydia said...

If the one who tried to post a lengthy complaint about a mother would please email me I would appreciate it. I will not be posting it until there is some clarification about a few things you wrote. Thank you.

Kentuckybranch said...

Dear Lydia.
God bless you and your family at this time of loss.

It is good to know that your mother was a Christian as that in itself gives comfort during the changes you are mentioning for your life.

I have always enjoyed your mentions of your growing up years and the things both of your parents taught you or showed you how to be creative in your life.

May your trip go smoothly so that no other stress occurs for you at this time.