Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Stanley and Lydia Talk About the Home and Homeschool Trends on Video 25

 

Hello Everyone,

Thank you so much for your kind donations and the phone calls of support. I want to support you back by this message from my husband.

In this video, Stan talks about some of the things the new homeschoolers on the block need to be aware of regarding socialization.

Also, as homeschoolers, we are deeply involved in educating the intellect, but sometimes forget about love and kindness.  We teach our children to serve others, but let us not teach them to check it off the list of do-good things just to make them earn approval or to say they have done their duty. Let us educate the heart and understand emotions.  

In mentioning the multi-generational living, I am of course not insisting that you develop relationships with parents and grandparents who are not interested or who are a bad moral influence, being too liberal or who don't believe in what you are doing.

No matter what your circumstances, you can still be kind, compassionate, tenderhearted and loving toward them. What I mean is: avoid blunt, sharp and unfeeling replies that come across as cold and unfeeling. They will then conclude that your way of life with all its religion and home schooling makes you a hard-hearted person.  It also brings reproach upon the Lord and upon His church when your responses are not gentle.  We did not discuss this in the video but needed to add it here. You have a great influence on the parents and grandparents, even when you cannot involve them, because they may be brought closer to the knowledge of Christ through your temperament and your responses to them.

Please leave a comment, but ladies, please, do not go on and on about why you cut off people in your life that swear, smoke, drink, tell your children dirty jokes, speak against God, behave like teenagers, and mock you.  I am talking about home schoolers who had good parents and somehow get distracted from the goal of being kind and loving, cutting off the very people who are great sources of life and to whom they could extend life. In extended families we build one another up by interacting and encouraging.

 

Lydia

17 comments:

Mara said...
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Rebecca said...

Nice to meet Mr. Sherman! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. It is nice to be reminded that our goal as homeschoolers is NOT to emulate the school system including it's standards but to be different. The word "peculiar" comes to mind in a Biblical sense. "Training the heart." I really needed to be reminded of that! It is so true that homeschoolers are better socialized than their public school peers. They are not surrounded by foolishness all day but able to learn from their parents, grandparents, older siblings, etc... They are challenged in the home to rise to a higher level as they learn responsibility and service. There would be little time for this should we try to mirror the public school model. I love hearing your thoughts on homeschooling as it is a road less traveled and few real life mentors are available who are on the other side of the journey. I am so grateful for your wisdom and encouragement.

Marie Blair said...

What a charming couple you are. Yes, please, I would love to hear more from Mr. Sherman.

Thank you for the insight and wise advice. When we homeschooled our children, we lived down the street from my godly parents who had tremendous input into the children's lives and learning. This has borne fruit in countless ways over the years.

Christine said...

I appreciate your videos because I can feel your words and emotions. Adding Mr. Sherman is a great idea. I like to get a mans opinion.
Our daughter home schools. She asked me to teach a Manners Class. Today, was our first lesson on table manners and etiquette. Four grandchildren, ages 9,7,5 and 3. Tonight they are coming over for dinner. It's their test!
I am blessed!

Sandy Lewis said...

Hello to both of you! Thank you for the beautiful inspiration and wonderful advice. By all means, bring Stan back and let us learn from both of you! Thank you Lydia for all the blessings you share with each post.
Sincerely, Sandy

Lynn Maust said...

How fine to finally meet and 'talk' with your fine husband, Stanley. I have often wondered, as I know others must do too, just 'who' he is! Thank you for coming to the public in this important video. The thoughts expressed are so needed....this is a topic we all need to be aware of and keep the children having relationships with their elders as much as possible....and also have instructions that they can only use those gadgets maybe just at home and for only certain hours or at specific times. Enough is enough with those things!

Toni Marie said...

I really appreciate the Christian Spiritual wisdom on this blog, and yes, please include your husband sometimes! My children are all grown now, and I did not become a Christian until they were almost all grown up. My parents are decent people, but were not really Christians, and because of that, I had no understanding of how to guide myself or my family. I can look back at my own public schooling and see that what you speak is true, especially regarding socialization. I was surrounded by foolishness, as you say, and was never comfortable relating with people who were older than me...that has been a very hard habit to break. But now that I am older, I understand how much I've missed. Thank you so much.

Lydia said...

Thank tou ladies. Stan wants to make another video later, addressing men. We also considered talking about communication aspect of the technology ( text, email, social media) verses the human voice. We are meeting people who only use the phone or real visits because they want human contact. There is a lot to that, and how it affects people. I hope I can get him to sit down and talk like this more often, now that we know how it turned out.

Mrs. Christopher Daniels said...

I think it's really great that Mr. Stanley spoke with us on your video! He seems like a good leader and handsome to! I love how he supports homeschool. He has learned a lot about it over the years. I feel like that is a testament to how someone can change their minds about homeschool. I hope to see him again to. I got my husband to pop in and just say hi on a video I made on YouTube,and that made me so happy. Getting your husband to say a few wise words is quite the accomplishment:-) Thanks Mr. and Mrs. Stanley Sherman:-)

Mrs. Christopher Daniels said...

Marie Blair that is so nice that your parents lived near and supported you and lived by examole!! How nice. I would like to hear some good examples of things they taught you and the kids if you don't mind sharing on this post. I just took my twins out of 5th grade. While I am not fully supported yet( who is?) I am hopeful and confident and will learn to be steadfast like a tree planted on this conviction to keep my kids at home and not farmed out. One child is excited and the other feels as if their world came crashing down. it will be ok though. I am seeing little evidences of them enjoying home. Have a great day in the Lord ladies. :-)

Lydia said...

Thank you Tierra, and thank you for phoning me, in spite of the time difference. Its okay. My mind is less cluttered at 4 a.m. :-)

Miss Dishywoo said...

Very nice to meet your husband. My children are grown but we now have our first grandchild. Both of you brought out some very good ideas to consider with regards to homeschooling/training children. Thank you.

Tammy said...

What an important reminder. And I enjoyed hearing from your husband, too! I have been guilty of this, being fearful in my homeschooling of not getting enough done, making the intellectual training too important, and making us "busy". I guess how much is enough anyway? There is always something we won't know. I know my mom has said that she tries not to call at certain times to not interrupt, and while I do appreciate her thoughtfulness, I wonder if that keeps her from calling much. hmmm. One thing I did do last year that I am so glad we did was to ask my dad to teach woodshop to my son. So every Monday afternoon he was with my dad and he was able to help my parents out around the house, too. My dad said he felt like they had become good friends through that, and my teenage son loved the one on one time with them. I am going to try to do something like that again, but I need to spend more time with them myself. Thanks for the post!

Marie Blair said...

Mrs. Christopher Daniels - you should be commended for your courage to start your homeschooling life when your kids are in 5th grade. With your love and encouragement, they will adjust and flourish. It will take time for you to adjust as well!

To answer your request for ways in which my parents were involved in our homeschooling - just a bit of background might help. We started when my older son was in 2nd grade (second boy was 2 years old so just one "student" for a while) and like many families do, we thought we needed a curriculum. After all, the books that were titled, "What your Child Needs to Know in 'X' Grade" were the rage (and threatening in a way) and classical homeschooling was popular with Christians. None of it felt natural to me and it was painful for my son - not much different than regular school. We ended up doing what was closer to unit studies and just natural learning, doing our best to be led by the Holy Spirit, while giving them the tools they needed.

The influence of my parents was from simply living life with them as Lydia and Stanley mentioned in the video - not focused on educating the mind, but the heart. They did what was a part of Grandpa and Grandpa's days - working around the house, the garden, etc. They shared their wisdom and experience and love and reverence for God, the Scriptures and family. They were hospitable and warm. The other day I asked my youngest (now 19) what his earliest happy memory was and he said being in Grandma and Grandpa's backyard.

My boys have grown up to be thinking, discerning, compassionate, respectful young men and I'm thank God for the natural influence of my parents in their formative years. Hope that answers your question and God bless you on your journey!

Christine Beauchamp said...

An intelligent man is a rare and healing balm to the soul. What a beautiful message shared by you and your husband Lydia, and you're so cute together. . . of course we need more of both of you and your beautiful messages.

As an aside Lydia: I'm back now from being out of town - - and I still have 5 former marines staying at my house who leave TODAY . . thank our good God!!! 5 70+ year old former marines on caffeine. They are so stimulated they're bouncing off the walls as they relive their high school days beating each other up on the playground and in parking lots and alleys. They were in town for a high school reunion. I can't wait for sacred quiet to return to my domain.

Sorry for the delay. . let me know what day you're free to talk. . and I can call you during the week.

Warmly,
Chris

dolores moore said...

Lydia, I so enjoyed the conversation between you and your husband about homeschooling. Please have more discussions.

Lydia said...

My videos gets on average 200 visits. The one with Stan got 600 visits. I have kept him a secret for a long time because I knew he would be in demand. :-). I will try to get him to come back but catching him is the problem. He is so busy.

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