Saturday, October 15, 2016

A Lady


Lady: A woman who is refined, polite and well-spoken.

To young unmarried ladies at home:

We have a problem today in the way the culture views refinement, politeness and well-spokenness.  The brash media, work places and colleges are promoting the "tell everyone ALL" and "tell everyone OFF" practice. 

Disgusting news reports broadcast world wide have got a lot of people thinking  it is okay to talk about things that should not be spoken of (when they are not refined, polite or well-spoken, or just pain vulgar.) 

 A lady will be accused of being dishonest or hiding something if she is reserved or has the personal dignity not to tell all.

Breaking down the refinement and personal dignity of ladies seems to be a goal. These kind creatures become targets of those who want to see them brought to common cursing and criticising.

All children naturally blurt out inappropriate things and have to be taught. You don't say, "You are immodest" or "You are going to Hell." Christians know they have to teach their children to be tactful! Adults will never be won over to a better life by listenning to a child tell them how to behave, so we do 
not let our little ones just say what they are thinking. We teach them tact.

Sometimes a young lady is demeaned by her friends and relatives because she is convinced she ought to keep rude thoughts and actions in captivity and not blurt out resentment or hatred.  While others may tell-all, she retains dignity. 

She does not grovel or beg or become subservient and yet never tries to break others down to do the same.  The culture enjoys bringing people low. The Christian wants to build others up and encourage them.

Perhaps you have tried to be a lady but have been pulled down. One thing we are rarely told, is that when you rise above the petty picking on people, there will always be someone who will try to bring you down to a lower level by criticising you or pushing and testing you to see if you will be rude too! 

While the current trend says to speak what you feel to others, crossing over barriers that may cause much harm, God's word says:

"See that no one shall be carrying you away as spoil through the philosophy and vain deceit, according to the deliverance of men, according to the rudiments of the world, and not according to Christ."

The philosophy of the world says its good to talk about everything in your mind. The law of Christ says to overlook a fault, and be tenderhearted.

The comparison in the above verse is similar to this:

The popular trend  invented by people is to be brash and confrontational and call everyone out on everything they do that offends you. The Bible says to be kind and loving, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as Christ forgive you.

  Think of the way the news media acts, asking extremely personal questions and exposing shameful things to the world.  This is not the way of the lady.

In our home we learned to forgive people minute by minute and day by day without them even asking. We just learned not to get offended over every little thing, because if you did, you would feel compelled to confront them and then it would be like creating an explosion. We learned to overlook a fault. In a way, it is just as bad to get offended over things as it is to offend. When you get offended you have to carry the sorrow around inside your mind.

There is a verse we have raised our children on, "It is an honor to overlook a fault." A lady cannot be nitpicking or become a thought police. It does not mean she approves and it does not give her lease to indulge in the same behavior.  (Young ladies sometimes have a tendency to be critical.)

She may think brash thoughts but keep them to herself.  There was a vain philosohy in the past that it was healthy to open Pandora's box, letting fly all the evil thoughts, resentments, blame, etc., but we know it can only do harm and reduce the Christ-like effect of a lady.  This is because, it is impossible to retract the cruel accusing words.  And when you get in the habit of telling-all and telling-off,  you create a very bad reputation for yourself that is hard to erase.

I address this to the very young ladies who may still be at home and are not yet married. You may have a friend you tell all or complain to, but in general some words should go unspoken!  Use your time at home to develop this:

Lady: A woman who is refined, polite and well-spoken.
 

1 comment:

ladypinktulip said...

Such a good post. We can show the world we are Christians by the love we have for one another. We can be a peculiar people by being polite, considerate, courteous and thoughtful...that would certainly be opposite of how the world acts these days. May we be ladies of the Word and not the world. Kelly T

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