tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post116901107489228942..comments2024-03-27T17:31:58.315-07:00Comments on Home Living: Living the DreamLydiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comBlogger69125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169463234002539172007-01-22T02:53:00.000-08:002007-01-22T02:53:00.000-08:00Dearest lady Lydia and Readers,,The dilemmas brou...Dearest lady Lydia and Readers,,<BR/><BR/>The dilemmas brought to the fore wen discussing the way forward for women young and old traditionally and Biblically speaking especially in situations where hardship comes about), can be challenging for we born into the post family, welfare state era to invisage. <BR/><BR/>concepts ranging from practical yet compassionate solutions; where the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169373409586754602007-01-21T01:56:00.000-08:002007-01-21T01:56:00.000-08:00I think, that regardless of your marital status, a...I think, that regardless of your marital status, age etc, if there is a genuine need in the congregation then there is a responsibility to meet that need. There is a verse that says it is pointless saying to someone hungry - oh, I hope you find some food mate, good luck with that - but instead we should reach out and give that person some food. Yes, obviously it is speaking regarding an Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169360806690038272007-01-20T22:26:00.000-08:002007-01-20T22:26:00.000-08:00Dear Lady Lydia,I have read your blog a few times,...Dear Lady Lydia,<BR/>I have read your blog a few times, and having read this thread, I have a question for you. What do you say to people who live in places where it is truly almost impossoble to live on one income? I am a SAHW/M, but I have a dear friend who moved to New York City when her husband accepted a job as a Christian school principal. This job is very time-consuming (he would not beAliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05694521143609595819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169361254699110302007-01-20T22:34:00.000-08:002007-01-20T22:34:00.000-08:00Lady Lydia, I'm still having a hard time understan...Lady Lydia, I'm still having a hard time understanding that. If support can't be depended on but is only given if the church happens to feel like it, that doesnt feel like a real church family. I've heared it said many times that churches could not handle the onslaught of needs today. But i still think that's a poor excuse, since if it was felt as an actual duty instead then I suspect solutions wendybirdehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01937771656490357049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169361519090137552007-01-20T22:38:00.000-08:002007-01-20T22:38:00.000-08:00PS I too feel the help usually comes from certain ...PS I too feel the help usually comes from certain church members feeling someone's problem tugging at their heart and they step in, at their own expense. I think more often than not that was probably how things were in the early churches too, and how they probably should be, it is more personal and direct that way. But there still I feel has to be a safety net if there is a need that is being wendybirdehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01937771656490357049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169354995099427112007-01-20T20:49:00.000-08:002007-01-20T20:49:00.000-08:00Mrs. E. I can't find any Biblical example, mandate...Mrs. E. I can't find any Biblical example, mandate, inference, etc. of the church financially providing a living, as would a husband, for an unwed mother, a young widow, or a divorced woman. In the Bible, the family was the major social structure, and everyone had some kind of familial authority. In other words if a woman's husband died, the husband's brother if available, would marry her and Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169347963509324882007-01-20T18:52:00.000-08:002007-01-20T18:52:00.000-08:00Dearest Lady Lydia and Annonimous teacher worried ...Dearest Lady Lydia and Annonimous teacher worried about solutions for tough times ,<BR/><BR/>This is indeed often a daunting prospect for folk new to the idea of Biblical and by extension family-based society. over the past 150 years, the extended family unit in much of Western Europe, the US, Canada, Australia etc has been entirely whittled away; thus leaving wives, mothers, widows singles etc Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169353719389546332007-01-20T20:28:00.000-08:002007-01-20T20:28:00.000-08:00Wendy, there is nothing wrong with people who are ...Wendy, there is nothing wrong with people who are in a church helping anyone materially if they choose, but people should not come to expect the church to support them. The church funds in the NT were used to send aid to those in need who were members of the church, and also for evangelism, but there is no example of churches providing a living for women other than widows of aged years who had noLydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169350549878988172007-01-20T19:35:00.000-08:002007-01-20T19:35:00.000-08:00Lady Lydia, I feel badly leaving two dissenting co...Lady Lydia, I feel badly leaving two dissenting comments on this post now, I'm really not trying to be argumentative. But what was just said about excusing a church's responsiblity just chilled me to the bone. I do realize that being a pastor's wife you might be more often on the giving end of church help than recieving it, and perhaps that changes one's experience and perspective. But from wherewendybirdehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01937771656490357049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169351707624680142007-01-20T19:55:00.000-08:002007-01-20T19:55:00.000-08:00I may be wrong, (not to discourage a woman from do...I may be wrong, (not to discourage a woman from doing a home business, if she finds it works well for her husband and family life), but, I believe the Proverbs lady, may not have been 20, or 30...Maybe some ladies on this blog know better. <BR/> Katy-Anne you are blessed. Treasure your husband and prepare for your other little treasure.<BR/> Your comment just triggered a memory from my Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169333569344352902007-01-20T14:52:00.000-08:002007-01-20T14:52:00.000-08:00I am so blessed. My young husband (he's 22) just ...I am so blessed. My young husband (he's 22) just took on another part time job in addition to his full time job because he is low income and I am pregnant and we need to provide for the baby. He doesn't want me working, so he went out to get another job and now works no less than sixty hours a week. <BR/><BR/>Nobody here has mentioned a woman working from home as in a family business or Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169330995248764822007-01-20T14:09:00.000-08:002007-01-20T14:09:00.000-08:00The family culture of the Bible is such that women...The family culture of the Bible is such that women would desire to have a husband and a family. If provision is made through churches or government for unwed mothers and divorcees, or widows, then the motivation to get married and care for a man in return for his provision, will cease, as it has done in many societies.In the case of single mothers if they are very very young, they need to get Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169328803888829912007-01-20T13:33:00.000-08:002007-01-20T13:33:00.000-08:00Also I don't know who spread the idea that the chu...Also I don't know who spread the idea that the church is obligated to provide for anyone. The collection that was taken was for two things: missionaries, and for helping other church members who had suffered in disaster--maybe a flood, a famine, etc. It was not church welfare as some people preach. Families are supposed to care for each other, not the church and not the state. The widows Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169327518814189132007-01-20T13:11:00.000-08:002007-01-20T13:11:00.000-08:00This subject of widows and divorcess has been cove...This subject of widows and divorcess has been covered many many times in previous articles. Even in Bible times there were such needsk, as it is a part of real life. We discussed over and over again the fact that the husband's retirement and insurance is the widow's, also, but as someone mentioned firmly: this generation of new parents needs to train their children to look after them in their Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169326212796982282007-01-20T12:50:00.000-08:002007-01-20T12:50:00.000-08:00I read this blog regularly in spite of some of my ...I read this blog regularly in spite of some of my views. There is definitely a place in society for stay-at-homes. When a new crop of kids come through my classroom door every September, within days I can tell who's got a SAHM and who doesn't. Most of them don't. As a result, they are lacking in basic manners and social skills, and are incredibly needy and clingy. When someone is at home all the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169314419020815852007-01-20T09:33:00.000-08:002007-01-20T09:33:00.000-08:00I appreciate the spirit of this blog. We may not ...I appreciate the spirit of this blog. We may not know all the detail of what should be done in all details of life. But, in general terms, the Bible states for the woman to be a keeper of the home, loving her children her husband. Etc. If we are concerned about what God says, this will probably influence our choices. Along the way, we may blow it as well, for a variety of reasons. One of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169270537213096602007-01-19T21:22:00.000-08:002007-01-19T21:22:00.000-08:00I have to disagree pretty strongly with some of a ...I have to disagree pretty strongly with some of a previous comment:<BR/><BR/>"Ladies I don't want anyone to get the impression that they can stay home no matter what. My situation may have been much different than women today (better role models and training before, less rebellion before, and more acceptance before)...<BR/><BR/>I don't think it is right to demand to stay home if you are not wendybirdehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01937771656490357049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169278990006210302007-01-19T23:43:00.000-08:002007-01-19T23:43:00.000-08:00I love that I have a "safe" place that I can come ...I love that I have a "safe" place that I can come and not have to defend my decision to be a stay at home wife. Thank you and may God bless you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169228235907357292007-01-19T09:37:00.000-08:002007-01-19T09:37:00.000-08:00Neither is there a verse that commands a man to se...Neither is there a verse that commands a man to send his wife to work, nor a verse that commands the woman to provide for the family, nor a verse that tells a man to command his wife to go to work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169217601696908772007-01-19T06:40:00.000-08:002007-01-19T06:40:00.000-08:00Remind them of these things, and solemnly charge t...Remind them of these things, and solemnly charge them in the presence of God not to wrangle about words, which is useless and leads to the ruin of the hearers. Be diligent to present yourself approved to God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed, accurately handling the word of truth. But avoid worldly and empty chatter, for it will lead to further ungodliness, and their talk will spread Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169187387952281312007-01-18T22:16:00.000-08:002007-01-18T22:16:00.000-08:00Regarding the marxist/communist plan to destroy th...Regarding the marxist/communist plan to destroy the home, note in this list how many of the quotes were directed at changing the women's role in the home so that they could no longer influence husbands and children:<BR/><BR/>Women's Studies 101A, Winter Semester - Professor Rob Fedders <BR/>In this class, we will see how women have been sheep who have bought into the Marxist anti-society Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169177161600664032007-01-18T19:26:00.000-08:002007-01-18T19:26:00.000-08:00The New Testament teaches the concept of principle...The New Testament teaches the concept of principles, and when one lives by principles, they don't worry about every little rule to regulate their behavior. The woman at home is practicing love rather than a rule to stay home. Her principles of loyalty, duty, honor or purpose, motiviate her. She isn't being legalistic, although often the first response when a woman is challenged as to her reasonsLydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169172734450166312007-01-18T18:12:00.000-08:002007-01-18T18:12:00.000-08:00WOW!!! What a lot of comments. This was a great ...WOW!!! What a lot of comments. This was a great article and I always enjoy reading here.<BR/><BR/>My comment is for the lady who brought up legalism. I think many people hide behind legalism. If something comes up that they don't want to do or don't agree with then is "legalism". I don't want to "fill in the blank" and if you say I should then that's legalistic. Well, by definition, saying Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169171319937501072007-01-18T17:48:00.000-08:002007-01-18T17:48:00.000-08:00Very good point about the next generation. We won...Very good point about the next generation. We won't be able to live entirely the way our great grandmothers did until we are able to teach women the truth about feminism and the home. I saw some quotes today that really were alarming: quotes from the designers of communism/marxism, saying that the only way they could achieve their goals was to break down the home, and the first thing to do was Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-1169168399386660622007-01-18T16:59:00.000-08:002007-01-18T16:59:00.000-08:00Dear Ladies,So many comments on this issue! Obviou...Dear Ladies,<BR/><BR/>So many comments on this issue! Obviously, this subject strikes a nerve with many of us, for good or bad. <BR/><BR/>I agree with Mrs. Alexandria when she states that each situation will be different depending on the family circumstances. In some cases, it will depend on whether the husband and wife were even Christians at all when they first got married! <BR/><BR/>OftentimesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com