tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post269191740106469672..comments2024-03-18T18:45:59.168-07:00Comments on Home Living: Questions and Answers About This BlogLydiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-80869758683919858182013-03-17T13:56:24.413-07:002013-03-17T13:56:24.413-07:00Glad to see someone say it is "our" mone...Glad to see someone say it is "our" money. We heard our parents say that! "We" have such and such amount in the bank, "We" can't waste "our" money. Tthe husband promised in the wedding vows "All my worldly goods I thee endow" and that meant income, house, everything. Its hers too!Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-78013873560724419512013-03-17T13:30:13.308-07:002013-03-17T13:30:13.308-07:00There is quite a bit of wisdom in what you write. ...There is quite a bit of wisdom in what you write. We are still paying the college bill for our child who did not finish college, and who is not using their college education in their current job. They have been out of school for 8 years and they do not make enough money to make the loan payment. We will most likely be paying for it for many years to come. Thankfully they did not continue for 4 Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-46355290231278743622012-10-11T12:26:08.933-07:002012-10-11T12:26:08.933-07:00BRAVO, LADY LYDIA! Your answers are honest and ins...BRAVO, LADY LYDIA! Your answers are honest and insightful. Mama Said Nohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17308677020217781633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-38350875585373691042012-10-11T04:09:53.445-07:002012-10-11T04:09:53.445-07:00I am or used to work as a nurse. I have three chil...I am or used to work as a nurse. I have three children at home. They are a bit older 11, twins, and 15 now. I haven't worked for three years. When I was working as a nurse, I had nothing left to give at the end of the day for my family. My job was so stressful. I worked every other weekend and when I worked my husband would be grumpy because I wasn't at home. Yet he is the one who wanted Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-75995030712770155592012-10-10T20:35:19.580-07:002012-10-10T20:35:19.580-07:00College was supposed to be a great experience, but...College was supposed to be a great experience, but it was the pits, and a rip-off. During college, I was crying out to the Lord to show me something more - I really wanted to be a woman, not compete with men - though I was more than capable, that just didn't seem right to me, and I wasn't happy. <br /><br />One day, I was at the Christian bookstore, and picked up Helen Andelin's Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-48713838338343288432012-10-10T20:08:25.071-07:002012-10-10T20:08:25.071-07:00I agree with the concept of staying home no matter...I agree with the concept of staying home no matter what. If you go to work "in an emergency" there will always be more "emergencies." And you will not experience toughing it out through trials. There is no story to tell, there. If women start rescuing men by going to work, they may actually make things worse.Stay home and manage the money and guard it and also build him up Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-66295137124560704352012-10-10T19:57:51.289-07:002012-10-10T19:57:51.289-07:00It always baffles me when home-makers say they don...It always baffles me when home-makers say they don't get paid for what they do! I work very hard, but that enables my husband to bring home a good wage, and I get to enjoy using the good income he makes. We live in a beautiful home now, after years of this, but we didn't always. <br /><br />In years that he didn't make a good income, we both worked hard to remedy that, but neither ofAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-39854193499187254562012-10-10T18:07:33.303-07:002012-10-10T18:07:33.303-07:00(Part 3 of 3)I am FREE to be at home where I have ...(Part 3 of 3)I am FREE to be at home where I have always wanted to be. I use my gifts, talents and creativity in my job as a wife, homemaker, and homeschooling mother and I find it very stimulating and challenging. I am currently continuing my "professional" education by training to be a Medical Missionary via an online course. Trust me, you can learn waaaay more than you might think Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-33067063665093092412012-10-10T18:06:43.225-07:002012-10-10T18:06:43.225-07:00(Part 2 of 3)In time, I eventually met my future h...(Part 2 of 3)In time, I eventually met my future husband. He was a local boy, a Christian, but of a different faith than mine. I really only started dating him because I was so lonely. We soon developed an unhealthy physical relationship. After "dating" for 4 1/2 years, we finally married. I was not really in love with him. I liked him, and he was the best friend that I had at the time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-15615098183009973872012-10-10T18:04:09.812-07:002012-10-10T18:04:09.812-07:00(Part 1 of 3)I write now from a perspective of 50 ...(Part 1 of 3)I write now from a perspective of 50 years of age. When I was 18 I left home to attend a Christian college several states away. I had no life experience (I attended Christian boarding schools for all 4 years of high school) and no real idea of what "career" would suit me, and so my first year of college concluded and I found myself deeply in debt at age 19. My father did Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-33739086825923947632012-10-10T16:12:28.418-07:002012-10-10T16:12:28.418-07:00My security comes from Jesus!! I have to first dep...My security comes from Jesus!! I have to first depend on God Almighty!!! Jesus told Peter to walk on water. I go against the prevailing culture which tells me to trust in things of this world. I love your blog and It was sad the women who wrote she couldn't follow the Bible.It reminds me of the parable of seed. It sounds like she may be the seed that got choked by the thorns.aka the cares of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-78324269534325605492012-10-09T23:41:12.203-07:002012-10-09T23:41:12.203-07:00An assumption is often made that college suits eve...An assumption is often made that college suits everyone; a one-size-fits-all deal. Yet there are those young women who would rather be at home and do much better at home. <br /><br />And careers: while it is nice to have money, a career is not the only source of money for a woman. She can be a homemaker and wisely handle the family income and double it through wise investing and good management.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-88671589874659828322012-10-09T14:22:45.541-07:002012-10-09T14:22:45.541-07:00I have to say, as one who has been to college (I h...I have to say, as one who has been to college (I have both an undergraduate and advanced degree) and has worked in the world much of my young adult life, who, even as a Christian, did not live God's plan for a woman, being at home full-time (with all the daily duties that home and children require) has been by far better than the daily grind of working in the world! There was time, when I Mrs. Bnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-76874079863570603852012-10-09T14:07:30.312-07:002012-10-09T14:07:30.312-07:00I love your answers. I moved out at the age of 24....I love your answers. I moved out at the age of 24. I was blessed to have family support regarding direction and extra money if needed. What I was not prepared for was loneliness. It took me years to realize that a desire to stay home on the weekends was ok. It was alright to WANT to go to church on Sunday mornings. We live in a culture that glorifies this supposed free single existence. It is fallenstar80https://www.blogger.com/profile/13678306999885011546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-41428351727780236452012-10-09T14:06:49.475-07:002012-10-09T14:06:49.475-07:00LadyLydia I found the same experience many years a...LadyLydia I found the same experience many years ago. I am now safely married at home where I need to be and where there is no terror or uncertainty. My daughters are all raised to be homemakers to spare them that awful inbetween time of singleness where there really is no "fun" outside of the wordly concept of fun. I was sent away to work at the age of 17. There I wept the first day Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-46610781453561353992012-10-09T13:10:53.294-07:002012-10-09T13:10:53.294-07:00You are 100% correct about what young women on the...You are 100% correct about what young women on their own go through. It is harrowing. Over two decades ago, I found myself alone in an apartment at age 18 because I had to leave home due to circumstances beyond my control. I was hungry and cold a lot, and very tired from working very long hours. My employer knew I had no one to protect me and took advantage by not paying me as much as other Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-91390736848222936202012-10-09T12:37:18.156-07:002012-10-09T12:37:18.156-07:00I enjoyed the answer you gave to the person who as...I enjoyed the answer you gave to the person who asked about girls staying home until marriage. You were absolutely right in the reasons you gave for a girl not venturing out alone at that time. My parents were of the mind that after high school, I should either go to school full time or get a job and move out. I did both (school part time, job part time) and moved out as they wished. It was aAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-24966994133086757132012-10-09T09:43:13.602-07:002012-10-09T09:43:13.602-07:00I hope more women will comment about their working...I hope more women will comment about their working experience, single life experience and college experience and tell the truth about the bleakness and the uncertainty and even some of the things that are rarely exposed. A small town is much different than a city, and so many children go to cities to work, and find out that they are not making it. The advice given to young women about college Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-6546555569028515702012-10-09T04:49:28.319-07:002012-10-09T04:49:28.319-07:00I was raised by a feminist mother, who oddly enoug...I was raised by a feminist mother, who oddly enough, was a SAHM. I was one of those young ladies who was encouraged to get out and "fend for myself". It was a terrible time of my life. Only by the grace of God did I make it through that rough period of my life and finally find my way back home to raise my children. I do not want that kind of life for my daughter (much to my mother'sAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-57086602782332703052012-10-08T22:28:53.348-07:002012-10-08T22:28:53.348-07:00I am enjoying your questions and answers and thank...I am enjoying your questions and answers and thankyou for sharing. But I do disagree in part with your views on collage/university. There is much that is taught at university that can not be learnt at home and certain occupations such as doctors, lawyers, teachers, nurses etc.. all need to have specialist skills and should never be undervalued and they are all necessary. I went to University Finding Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09882774610725490491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-88431682548696989412012-10-08T18:53:04.533-07:002012-10-08T18:53:04.533-07:00In your most recent comment, you said, "while...In your most recent comment, you said, "while it may seem "easier" to stay home, it requires some dedication and some personal determination and commitment, as well as creativity and a higher purpose than just the material aspects like cleaning and orderliness." I have to say how much I AGREE WITH THIS STATEMENT!!! I have been a stay-at-home mom for the past 8 years, and it iskrankemommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14671776768512381627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-23944405131013465632012-10-08T15:21:23.262-07:002012-10-08T15:21:23.262-07:00Well answered! I love your blog. You have a beau...Well answered! I love your blog. You have a beautiful spirit and it shines through your writings.tamlovesranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10204188181874681366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-25152909223228623902012-10-08T11:20:56.100-07:002012-10-08T11:20:56.100-07:00I come here throughout the day for a bit of peace ...I come here throughout the day for a bit of peace and sanity during my hectic work day. You see, I fell for it. I thought I could do it all. I went to college and have loans to pay off. My "equality" is being yelled at, hung up on, and disrespected on a daily basis. Oh, had I known. What I wouldn't give for not hearing that alarm clock go off in the morning. To have leisure Sarah Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02887966641411778673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-41515618561417416402012-10-08T07:35:39.357-07:002012-10-08T07:35:39.357-07:00This is true. It is rarely as convincing to read s...This is true. It is rarely as convincing to read something as it is to experience it or see it in action. Take a month at home to get it in order and maintain it, while making daily meals and working in the garden or sewing, or while looking after your own children, and you will discover some things as you go, that maybe no one has even written about. While it may seem "easier" to stay Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-32542719070044044862012-10-08T05:57:08.222-07:002012-10-08T05:57:08.222-07:00I have been reading your post off and on for quite...I have been reading your post off and on for quite a while and I always find it to be refreshing and encouraging. It's such a sweet, gentle reminder to me to strive to be graceful and lovely in all things. It's difficult to find such encouragement anymore. Thank you for being lovely.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10459131266155230659noreply@blogger.com