tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post5222771067626185443..comments2024-03-18T18:45:59.168-07:00Comments on Home Living: Raising Your OwnLydiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-84191219089694034112011-10-10T20:34:51.937-07:002011-10-10T20:34:51.937-07:00While I do not believe that grandparents should be...While I do not believe that grandparents should be forced to send money every month to their children to help support the family, I will say that our own parents received occasional monetary gifts, such as birthday, Christmas, or when they received their bonus or interest from a CD. It was just something they liked to do, and it helped a lot. That being said I think it is up to them, and that Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-65542136114264897202011-10-10T17:53:39.005-07:002011-10-10T17:53:39.005-07:00The mention of bottle feeding in the post reminded...The mention of bottle feeding in the post reminded me of something. A friend told me about this years ago; I think her doctor told her. I can't find anything on search on it but it makes sense. Think of a baby looking up into mother's eyes while breastfeeding. When a mother breastfeeds, she usually switches the baby from one side to the other. This affects the focus of the child'sAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-62451384771120597302011-10-10T17:49:33.824-07:002011-10-10T17:49:33.824-07:00I feel I must respond to the comments about mother...I feel I must respond to the comments about mothers returning to work soon after adopting. In some states the adoption does not become final for several months after a child is in the home.<br />If the mother's income was entered on forms at the begining of the proccess, to have to explain to a juge who may have had a feminist upbringing why the income has droped since she is staying home canAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-25982020612192434922011-10-10T15:51:21.707-07:002011-10-10T15:51:21.707-07:00You are better off raising your children yourselve...You are better off raising your children yourselves than to have people with vastly different values from yours bringing conflict into the home.<br /><br />That being said, there are also those parents who speak wistfully of having the grandparents in their lives and mingling together like a great big extended family. In sentimental tones and with longing, they claim they want the grandparents Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-82634963539614606912011-10-10T15:17:27.100-07:002011-10-10T15:17:27.100-07:00Some feminist grandparents and family will actuall...Some feminist grandparents and family will actually disapprove and withhold support (financial, emotional, physical assistance, etc.) for a mother who is staying at home to care for her children. They feel if she's not out working and helping financially, she's not doing all that she should and therefore deserves to struggle until she sees the error of her ways. I have a good friend whoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-73394165688530760852011-10-09T22:39:45.094-07:002011-10-09T22:39:45.094-07:00It is better to be alone than to be in bad company...It is better to be alone than to be in bad company.<br /><br />And if you have a grandparent or even a husband that is not interested in participating much in the home or helping with the children, be glad at least you are not having conflict. If you are the only one caring for your children, you can be consistent in your teaching, without having someone contradict you. So be happy to go it aloneLydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-29665976380454412502011-10-09T22:21:29.322-07:002011-10-09T22:21:29.322-07:00I could have written the same posts as many have h...I could have written the same posts as many have here. I have a terrible mother-in-law, who, when I told her I'd be having a baby, told me that I should understand that she didn't "do" diapers anymore.<br />She told me about a poem she had read in a Chicken Soup/Soul book (you can read it at bab25.com/ladyred.html) that gave her shivers, and made her decide that she, too, wouldAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-76969900254465672822011-10-08T20:18:36.148-07:002011-10-08T20:18:36.148-07:00I agree. There is a fear and an addiction to work...I agree. There is a fear and an addiction to work that makes mothers put aside their duty to their children and remain faithful to their perceived duty to the workplace and to themselves. They can't get through it to see the importance of looking after their own children, natural born or adopted, full time, and they do not see the necessity of it. They do not understand the many hours a Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-80144447535760255432011-10-08T20:10:29.743-07:002011-10-08T20:10:29.743-07:00I have also never understood why a childless coupl...I have also never understood why a childless couple would choose to adopt a baby and then go back to work 6 weeks later!!! They want this child so bad, then leave it in the hands of someone else to raise!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-37199361698192355722011-10-07T06:11:58.169-07:002011-10-07T06:11:58.169-07:00I just LOVE your heart!
Thank you for this blog;...I just LOVE your heart! <br /><br />Thank you for this blog; it rains truth!<br /><br />Blessings,<br />AmaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-62411921849849535932011-10-05T19:55:30.752-07:002011-10-05T19:55:30.752-07:00When I was raising children, my grandparents were ...When I was raising children, my grandparents were still living, and they were determined to give away every penny they had while they could see us enjoy it, so I agree with the previous comment. They want to help, and to deny them the opportunity to give, would be a shame. And also some people are very religious and believe they should give to their children. It would be against their beliefs toAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-59851470688758237232011-10-05T19:49:18.490-07:002011-10-05T19:49:18.490-07:00If people accept an inheritance after their parent...If people accept an inheritance after their parents die, then why shouldn't they accept a gift from their parents while their parents are alive and able to be blessed by their children's expression of appreciation?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-86531025849244815482011-10-05T19:34:06.374-07:002011-10-05T19:34:06.374-07:00Coming from another viewpoint, I think the main po...Coming from another viewpoint, I think the main point of your article was that a couple does not need a larger income or a 2nd income in order for the mother to stay home, but that she might consider the freebies she gets from people, as an additional amount that help her survive. When my children were little, people at church were always doing something for us by taking us out to eat or giving Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-73924211561279974012011-10-05T18:52:40.988-07:002011-10-05T18:52:40.988-07:00Sarah,
I was merely wanting young women to count ...Sarah,<br /><br />I was merely wanting young women to count the many donations that grandparents made in the way of gifts and money when the children were little, as "help" and not to think that they would be completely without any financial aid if they stayed home with their children.<br /><br />I did write that it was not to say one should "depend" on it but to realize that Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-42611754500082400432011-10-05T18:40:32.470-07:002011-10-05T18:40:32.470-07:00Good stuff! I wonder, though,if anyone else feels...Good stuff! I wonder, though,if anyone else feels the same as I do about allowing grandparents to help monetarily outside of regular "special occasion" gifts? I feel like accepting this help semi-regularly and in even a moderate amount, would be an insult to my husband who works so hard to provide for our family. If we are to "leave and cleave", etc, wouldn't it be Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10004203870466008754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-46013767784817114492011-10-05T10:25:12.538-07:002011-10-05T10:25:12.538-07:00When I refered to orphanages, I was not thinking o...When I refered to orphanages, I was not thinking of the ones in Romania or Ukraine, where conditions are horrid. In America and Canada, orphanges called "children's homes" are usually run by churches and are so nice, with cottages containing a limited number of children, and a married couple caring for them. Their lives are so stable and even luxurious, that it is easy to see they Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-26014081102297618942011-10-05T10:20:53.048-07:002011-10-05T10:20:53.048-07:00I agree completely with your post, Lady Lydia. I ...I agree completely with your post, Lady Lydia. I had a different experience. First, I thought I was going to go back to work after our first child was born. We asked my mother to help us, she agreed, but very reluctantly. This was after we asked my H's mother and she outright refused. We were hurt at first...but ultimately it lead to realizing that I really needed and wanted to stay homeLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16130907707715832131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-73962202304236229762011-10-05T07:00:58.576-07:002011-10-05T07:00:58.576-07:00Lady Lydia, I wholeheartedly agree with your post....Lady Lydia, I wholeheartedly agree with your post. I was a single mom for a time and chose a nannying job for a family whose mother had just died so that I could not only make money, but bring my son with me and help the other children (whom I love dearly still)...but that is a special case. If the world worked the way God intended, all mothers would be able to stay home with their children. But Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10546180405393389908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-8552289420596537932011-10-05T07:00:01.864-07:002011-10-05T07:00:01.864-07:00Also, for those who are concerened about insurance...Also, for those who are concerened about insurance costs, check into Christian medical sharing plans...they are very afforable options for those whose husbands jobs do not provide insurance. The children and I are on a private pay traditional insurance plan, but hubby was denied due to prexisiting conditions. So he is a memember of Samartian Ministries Christian Medicial Sharing plan.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01286418014358269661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-4421188530271871672011-10-05T06:57:01.102-07:002011-10-05T06:57:01.102-07:00Great post, I feel reallys strongly about a mother...Great post, I feel reallys strongly about a mother staying home with her children...I also love the reference to breastfeeding, one of my favorite memories of my children's baby days...I miss it so much at times.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01286418014358269661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-47184289468361111322011-10-05T06:04:03.582-07:002011-10-05T06:04:03.582-07:00Rightthinker...I joined your blog. You are an ins...Rightthinker...I joined your blog. You are an inspiration to me! I spent a good portion of my afternoon reading your posts!<br /><br />Jo (actually, Sarah R, if you look at the newest person on your blogfeed. I'm wearing a yellow polka dot shirt!) :D<br />I use the name Jo on here because it was MY grandmother's name. I miss her tons.Sarah Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02887966641411778673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-64865713665907178332011-10-04T09:19:38.799-07:002011-10-04T09:19:38.799-07:00Thank you for a challenging post. Such an encoura...Thank you for a challenging post. Such an encouragement.<br /><br />I have found that most of the "grandparents" in our church are so feminist! I am amazed how the older generation is on one hand pushing their children and grandchildren to follow the "norm" (delay marriage, avoid marriage, delay children, etc.) and yet bemoan the time they missed with their own children, etcMrs. B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-73376206095357524442011-10-04T09:02:45.048-07:002011-10-04T09:02:45.048-07:00I stay home, and we use traditional schools (relig...I stay home, and we use traditional schools (religious), we do not homeschool. But I would also add that even if you are planning on using traditional school, do not rush into using preschools. There is a huge industry now in the preschool business, and everyone is just trying to get at your money. They lie and say that they won't be ready for school if they don't practice going to schoolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-703942078622472592011-10-04T08:53:37.381-07:002011-10-04T08:53:37.381-07:00I will try to remember to get those two posts put ...I will try to remember to get those two posts put on the Theme Articles section. Thank you for suggesting it.<br /><br />If you have once worked outside the home, and now have children, I hope you will think of the past working era as "been there, done that" and now tend to the task at hand: staying home with your children. It changes daily and yearly, so you cannot say you are doing Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-7591707423617828472011-10-04T07:54:29.998-07:002011-10-04T07:54:29.998-07:00Good morning, Mrs. Sherman!
Excellent article and...Good morning, Mrs. Sherman!<br /><br />Excellent article and very well written! What a great read!<br /><br />~AngelaMrs. Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04251390460925434278noreply@blogger.com