tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post130301853995702158..comments2024-03-29T05:18:36.107-07:00Comments on Home Living: Hospitalty Can Revive the HomeLydiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-50886600345595780272008-06-29T14:33:00.000-07:002008-06-29T14:33:00.000-07:00Ugh, I hear you on the rude guests issue. I've com...Ugh, I hear you on the rude guests issue. I've come to just expect it, and laugh about it hilariously with my husband afterward. Recently we had guests whose child actually urinated in one of my guest beds and then defecated in another! <BR/><BR/>The parents then continued to let the child run wild through the house and didn't leave till well past 11 PM. The child, of course, was completely Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-10789634278710406282008-06-20T10:04:00.000-07:002008-06-20T10:04:00.000-07:00Yes, you are welcome, but you'll have to follow me...Yes, you are welcome, but you'll have to follow me around and keep up with me ;-) Today I am doing the gardening and it would be very nice to have someone talking to me. When the children were growing up sometimes I would have them read things to me when I had things to do that required a lot of time and sameness. I miss that.Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-84563440498839419392008-06-20T08:57:00.000-07:002008-06-20T08:57:00.000-07:00Lady Lydia,May I come visit you? I don't have a t...Lady Lydia,<BR/>May I come visit you? I don't have a tv to sack out in front of and would love to come sit on the front porch sipping lemonade or hot chocolate by the fireplace while visiting with an "older" Titus 2 woman. There are so few of those today!! And so many of us desparately need them. Thank you for all the wonderful posts! They are so encouraging when there is so much daily to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-27095558953573898112008-06-20T07:42:00.000-07:002008-06-20T07:42:00.000-07:00Mrs. Wood, you are probably right. People are gone...Mrs. Wood, you are probably right. People are gone from the home all day long and they are in institutions most of their lives, which require such casual behavior, and no correction, that this filters back into the home. When women left the home, it was left unguarded, and this is what we got: grown ups who are boorish and demanding, unable to appreciate the niceties of home. there are lots of Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-59596251963383924902008-06-20T05:49:00.000-07:002008-06-20T05:49:00.000-07:00I think all the rudeness you describe is a direct ...I think all the rudeness you describe is a direct and inevitable result of women leaving the home. The business of manners is the business of women. When they no longer see it as a central task in their lives, no amount of nagging by strangers is going to correct people's ways. It takes years for women to cultivate manners in their children and husbands. I think it's important to remember that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-78007079813407425622008-06-20T01:35:00.000-07:002008-06-20T01:35:00.000-07:00This isn't to do with hospitality, but we used to ...This isn't to do with hospitality, but we used to have a Bible study at our home.<BR/><BR/>One thing that got to me was one man that came that never removed his hat for about the first half hour he was there. I hated it.<BR/><BR/>To me it was rude, I just found it that way. I never said anything, but I didn't like it.<BR/><BR/>My last act of hospitality was a sudden one. This married couple dorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04217974916636215672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-46892753923902555772008-06-19T21:51:00.000-07:002008-06-19T21:51:00.000-07:00Yes I've had awful guests. Some would not go home ...Yes I've had awful guests. Some would not go home at a reasonable time, leaving me exhausted and unable to clean up the mess. <BR/><BR/> Others didn't like the seating arrangement so they rearranged chairs and even moved the table closer to the window, further from the fireplace, or some other place.<BR/><BR/> Sometimes a guest has gone to the kitchen and got a different eating utinsel because Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-39666637249517382542008-06-19T14:49:00.000-07:002008-06-19T14:49:00.000-07:00I have been blessed when I have had others over fo...I have been blessed when I have had others over for supper. It is a great incentive to clean and organize and I have fun making special desserts like tira misu and creme brulee. I especially like having our pastor and visiting missionaries over (my children, my husband and I are always fascinated by their stories). <BR/>We had an Independance Day barbecue (quite casual, of course)with barbecued Mrs. McGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13595062317679462936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-90405729611342639362008-06-19T11:05:00.000-07:002008-06-19T11:05:00.000-07:00What a great post topic! I need to work on this a...What a great post topic! <BR/><BR/>I need to work on this area in my life!☺Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-6165390239729563802008-06-19T10:30:00.000-07:002008-06-19T10:30:00.000-07:00I love this posting. And I truly feel sorry for al...I love this posting. And I truly feel sorry for all the ladies who have had to put up with the shameful behaviors of their guests.<BR/><BR/>I read this post at just the right time, because yesterday a dear friend made the comment to me "You live in a house of make believe. Whenever I come here, I feel free to make believe everything is ok for just a little while." <BR/><BR/>I felt really touched dreamsbooksteahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01498359801890076963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-32308235465934681112008-06-19T09:03:00.000-07:002008-06-19T09:03:00.000-07:00TF, I can sort of relate. Not so much when we jus...TF, I can sort of relate. Not so much when we just invite one family or couple over, but when we have parties of the type that I actually send invitations in the mail, I am always, always amazed at how many people don't RSVP anymore, even though I clearly write my phone number AND my email address along side "RSVP."<BR/><BR/>An invitation is an invitation, not an obligation. But responding to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-51288409022072180052008-06-19T06:47:00.000-07:002008-06-19T06:47:00.000-07:00I loved this post, Lydia. You've described the ess...I loved this post, Lydia. You've described the essence of hospitality beautifully and succinctly. I've had many interesting expereinces in my 20 years as a homemaker. The desire to be a generous host seems to run thick in my Irish blood and yet I am not wealthy and live in a world very much as TF describes. Just this past weekend I had the largest party I've ever hosted in my own home. It was a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-52584072096687199302008-06-18T21:17:00.000-07:002008-06-18T21:17:00.000-07:00I have been thinking about being purposeful in inv...I have been thinking about being purposeful in inviting people over and your post just triggered me. I am going to look at our calendar and discuss the dates and whom with my husband. He has always been open to doing this since he is more of a people person than I am so here goes. I also wanted to tell you that besides me there are more lives that you are touching all the way over here in Jennifer C. Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03577995017158917173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-85504285053306167452008-06-18T17:30:00.000-07:002008-06-18T17:30:00.000-07:00TF welcome to the club...I've seen it all. The boo...TF welcome to the club...I've seen it all. The boorish behavior is selfish.Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-48145876016267793622008-06-18T16:00:00.000-07:002008-06-18T16:00:00.000-07:00I love having people over. It is not quiet as easy...I love having people over. It is not quiet as easy now that my husband and I are older but we try not to neclect this. We love it. Great post. connie from TexasTO BECOMEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01358989235076877037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-80540238113187889502008-06-18T15:51:00.000-07:002008-06-18T15:51:00.000-07:00I always looked forward to showing hospitality whe...I always looked forward to showing hospitality when I was an adult. My parents were great ones for it, and their dinners and other gatherings were legendary. They knew just how to make things pleasant and relaxed and their guests were always at ease and had a great time.<BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, every single time I've tried to have guests, it has turned out to be an unmitigated disaster. I can Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-91279877765868409152008-06-18T15:24:00.000-07:002008-06-18T15:24:00.000-07:00You've gently nudged me to realize that I need to ...You've gently nudged me to realize that I need to offer my home more for hospitality and to be laid back as Judi says, and *just be myself, and offer up what I have, and not worry about what I don't have*.<BR/><BR/>As you have mentioned, there are so many lonely and broken hearts about us, I pray that I might get my eyes off self and look unto the Lord for His guidance in my outreach activities :Abounding Treasureshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02518068846850814439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-7116705232282279482008-06-18T10:17:00.000-07:002008-06-18T10:17:00.000-07:00Judi, I agree with you. I've been been laughed at ...Judi, I agree with you. I've been been laughed at quite a bit by snobs, for making things instead of buying them. But, one day, these people will be seeking out this knowledge, as times get harder for them. I remember when hand made cards were looked down on, as well as hand made wrapping paper. Now, because of industrious women, these things have a high value. It is actually quite high classed Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-75684583520645305102008-06-18T10:09:00.000-07:002008-06-18T10:09:00.000-07:00This is an area that has been difficult for me, be...This is an area that has been difficult for me, because I have some relatives who are a bit snobbish, and have behaved as if my home is not up to their standards. It made me feel insecure about showing hospitality. Recently it occurred to me I could just be myself, and offer up what I have, and not worry about what I don't have that someone else thinks I should have! <BR/><BR/>So, I invited a JKayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05508777675700980389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-90327812744371021742008-06-18T09:20:00.000-07:002008-06-18T09:20:00.000-07:00Yes, having people over is a positive thing. I kno...Yes, having people over is a positive thing. I know it always encourages me to give the house a little extra polishing and tidying, which we then enjoy afterwards.<BR/><BR/>~ AnnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-43749130932414887872008-06-18T08:16:00.000-07:002008-06-18T08:16:00.000-07:00Excellent post. You're so right about that lift w...Excellent post. You're so right about that lift we get from preparing for company. It really can be a blessing, & changes the way we look at things!<BR/><BR/>BrendaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-54170857111031512412008-06-18T06:14:00.000-07:002008-06-18T06:14:00.000-07:00I agree. I was feeling a little mundane with all t...I agree. I was feeling a little mundane with all the cooking, cleaning, and laundry this week; but then my husband had a friend over to help work on his boat. All of the sudden, there was a reason to bake a homemade pie, as he brought his wife and children along with him. Sometimes it's nice to have a friend over, even if it's just for pie and coffee.Mom of Fivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13627718714138307815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-16828373801571684042008-06-18T05:52:00.000-07:002008-06-18T05:52:00.000-07:00Thank you for a gentle reminder. It's time for me...Thank you for a gentle reminder. It's time for me to have some of my son's friends over, and I think I'll invite the mothers to stay and visit--we have not done this for a while and it's time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-17887563769912492962008-06-18T05:13:00.000-07:002008-06-18T05:13:00.000-07:00This is so very true. I always enjoy getting read...This is so very true. I always enjoy getting ready for a party or even for a tea guest because the extra shine on the house makes me happy for days on end. I also usually bake special treats which make the house smell wonderful.Lilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06936698520817156276noreply@blogger.com