tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post3717533198006553519..comments2024-03-29T05:18:36.107-07:00Comments on Home Living: Pressuring Homemakers to Seek EmploymentLydiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-58918986216775209402015-08-15T19:44:12.463-07:002015-08-15T19:44:12.463-07:00Dear Lady Lydia,
Thank you for your admonition to...Dear Lady Lydia,<br /><br />Thank you for your admonition to stand my ground and hold onto my beliefs. The Lord reminded me last night that there have been times I've wavered in my commitment to the calling He gave me and when I do, the comments and subtle attacks begin and I begin to doubt and fear. My husband is a pretty easy going kind of guy and he gets very uncomfortable when I start Sandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04654426724268693711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-41381428108899335012015-08-15T12:35:35.220-07:002015-08-15T12:35:35.220-07:00I agree with Lady Lydia: who is going to go force ...I agree with Lady Lydia: who is going to go force you to work if you don't want to. I know everyone I meet is pressuring me but I do not listen for I am not married to them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-57254285891940912262015-08-14T22:08:01.191-07:002015-08-14T22:08:01.191-07:00And if you do give up your home life and seek empl...And if you do give up your home life and seek employment elsewhere, then you are a breadwinner and you cannot expect to do both jobs. Does your husband do half the housework now? If he doesn't , he won't do it when you go out to work, either. You have to make it clear to everyone that if you are expected to being home the bacon, you cannot also be expected to clean and look after Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-7478573841957705232015-08-14T21:49:06.069-07:002015-08-14T21:49:06.069-07:00Sandi,
It is still your choice and your free will...Sandi,<br /><br />It is still your choice and your free will and everyone that pressures you knows that fact. Otherwise why would they bother to try to convince you all the time? Because basically they know it has to be by your own will that you would leave home. So you have that power to stay home. If you really did not have the freedom to stay home, one of them would get you dressed in the Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-32889274294548908012015-08-14T20:08:15.834-07:002015-08-14T20:08:15.834-07:00Thank you so much for this timely writing. I'...Thank you so much for this timely writing. I've been an at-home wife and mother for the past 16 years. There have been times I have not appreciated this incredible blessing and found myself buying into the lies that I should be more, do more. The battle to have women leave their homes is very real. Right now, the battle for me comes not from those on the outside but from within the very Sandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04654426724268693711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-84140317107040236902015-08-12T15:52:24.904-07:002015-08-12T15:52:24.904-07:00Hi,
I'm a 36-year-old stay at home mother he...Hi, <br /><br />I'm a 36-year-old stay at home mother here in Manhattan, NYC. I remember feeling like I'd have to fend off so many "wolves" like mentioned in your article when I made the decision to be a SAHM 8 years ago. I felt like I needed to have a rehearsed answer........but I've been pleasantly surprised at just how understanding people here are! <br />I think the Jaclyn Juliettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18179429572104319596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-29608651869003323922015-08-11T16:20:55.464-07:002015-08-11T16:20:55.464-07:00Another expertly-written article Lady Lydia. You h...Another expertly-written article Lady Lydia. You have such a wonderful way with words! I love visiting your blog. <br /><br />I've been married for 20 years, and a homemaker since my first child was born, 18.5 years ago. You are so right. Critics (wolves) will seek out the weak and unconfident, and attack them when they are least expecting it, simply because they know they are easy targets Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00985633980759028502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-45201366654687467922015-08-10T01:54:02.914-07:002015-08-10T01:54:02.914-07:00During the 1970's many women in my neighborhoo...During the 1970's many women in my neighborhood left home to go to work. Much of the time their children would come to play with my kids and congregate at my home after school until their mothers got home from work, many times well after dark and the dinner hour. I never asked a dime for feeding their children snacks or entertaining them for those hours.<br /><br />Some of them had the anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13214621646003640118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-74847298849132207722015-08-09T18:32:53.415-07:002015-08-09T18:32:53.415-07:00People can be so rude...They should be interested ...People can be so rude...They should be interested in their own lives instead of dictating others what to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-15622089810530687942015-08-08T21:11:16.967-07:002015-08-08T21:11:16.967-07:00"Oh I am so busy. There is so much to do at h..."Oh I am so busy. There is so much to do at home and never time to do it all. I know you understand!"<br /><br />I saw someone who used to be a cashier at Safeway, in line with groceries and asked her if she was off work. She said she had retired and I quickly guesses correctly that she was not having any problem finding things to do at home. I said, "now that you are retired, Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-15543158286990102132015-08-08T17:02:38.402-07:002015-08-08T17:02:38.402-07:00I usually smile and say, "I guess we each hav...I usually smile and say, "I guess we each have to live our lives as we believe is best!" I sometimes follow that with another smile, a little hug, or gentle pat on the hand. I then ask them about something I know they enjoy and we change the topic and move on.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02485255900269180528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-60480846517427087822015-08-08T13:28:19.450-07:002015-08-08T13:28:19.450-07:00Yes confidence is key here. Saying you love what y...Yes confidence is key here. Saying you love what you do and you are very happy is a deterrent to those who dig. The wolf circles to see who is weak and who might be timid.Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-86520890327613232522015-08-08T13:18:09.277-07:002015-08-08T13:18:09.277-07:00You are right that sometimes not engaging in discu... You are right that sometimes not engaging in discussion is the best approach of all. I don't get many remarks, other than "homeschooling! I could never do that!" I just smile. <br /><br />I was once told by someone close to me that I am so intelligent I should be working in policymaking or the legal field so that I could "make an impact." I simply said "I'm Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09403233175071026416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-51051087214748308932015-08-08T13:00:17.041-07:002015-08-08T13:00:17.041-07:00I had another who was a nurse foamy years. We were...I had another who was a nurse foamy years. We were at home many afternoons by ourself, my brothers and i. I think she had to work so we could eat. If she didn't work, I'm not sure where we would be. So this influenced my decision to stay home and be a housewife and mom. I got remarried 12 years ago to a godly Christian man. He is older than I. We have 6 kids. 3 in college 3 at home,ages Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00096929442048877716noreply@blogger.com