tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post7120622451969272582..comments2024-03-27T17:31:58.315-07:00Comments on Home Living: Another Blessed DayLydiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-14158682728287479742014-07-29T18:44:41.399-07:002014-07-29T18:44:41.399-07:00Dear Lydia,
Curiously, after I made my comment her...Dear Lydia,<br />Curiously, after I made my comment here suggesting couples could look into buying life and disability insurance, the Facebook page I maintain has suddenly been showing ads for such insurance. I am reporting this to suggest that Google (which operates your blog) and Facebook probably have an agreement to mine each other's data for revenue enhancement opportunities. This may Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03009819584864535929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-66697757687109574162014-07-21T05:50:02.589-07:002014-07-21T05:50:02.589-07:00I am sorry for accidentally posting twice. I agre...I am sorry for accidentally posting twice. I agree with Susan about not providing personal information to these relatives. Sometimes they may ask very prying questions about very personal things, but you or your daughter are not obligated to answer them.<br />I also agree with Emmarinda's suggestion about life and disability insurance. No one is too young for these, either. In our case, Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10830826474076783962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-6785879868955992852014-07-20T14:54:03.530-07:002014-07-20T14:54:03.530-07:00Insurance is a wise investment in such cases, but ...Insurance is a wise investment in such cases, but it is not necessary to reveal this to those people who are so "concerned". Just say "we have it under control" or "it is all taken care of."Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-11031796521080346112014-07-20T14:41:01.103-07:002014-07-20T14:41:01.103-07:00Private things include the amount and sources of y...Private things include the amount and sources of your income, your savings, the amount of your expenses,nthe cost of anything you buy, or any troubles you have making ends meet. Practice the words "we are doing well and everything is okay". As an answe to any question. I had a noses woman doing that to me, asking when we were going to retire and where we were going to live, and what I Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-36303082408658813562014-07-20T10:29:48.608-07:002014-07-20T10:29:48.608-07:00I just wanted to add one more thing to my previous...I just wanted to add one more thing to my previous comment that has been very helpful to me. Do not provide these ladies with any private information that can help them move forward with their gossip. Lady Lydia has wonderful information on this blog about how to handle these types of conversations. I am still learning but even with the closest of relatives it is possible to remain private. Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10652722187997770868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-73332414408007816362014-07-20T10:15:35.455-07:002014-07-20T10:15:35.455-07:00Susan I had not even thought of that. Maybe there ...Susan I had not even thought of that. Maybe there is some belief going around that women who do not bring in a wage will hurt the income of those who retire. Who knows. More ignorant things have been said. All I know is the economy was worse for many of us in the 1950s and our mothers stayed home. Eventually they all became quite well off, owned land and had no debt, even able to give Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-73426534074400675742014-07-20T09:59:03.914-07:002014-07-20T09:59:03.914-07:00I do not like to comment on the negative side, but...I do not like to comment on the negative side, but is it possible that these relatives are more concerned about their own welfare than you and your daughter's. Since you say that you are an only child and responsible for their care as they age, perhaps they are concerned about the financial situation. Why are they dependent on you for their care? A single career woman should have money Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10652722187997770868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-56398867507140316062014-07-19T19:18:55.846-07:002014-07-19T19:18:55.846-07:00I would like to suggest that folks get some kind o...I would like to suggest that folks get some kind of life insurance and long-term disability insurance if they are able. In the unfortunate event of one's husband dying, the life insurance can go a long way to cover living expenses. At age 60, women are also entitled to a "widow's pension", a small sum to help tide them over until they reach retirement age. Long-term disabilityGailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03009819584864535929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-41579233877840884882014-07-18T18:13:49.317-07:002014-07-18T18:13:49.317-07:00Dear Christy H,
Please be encouraged! I think that...Dear Christy H,<br />Please be encouraged! I think that these women are meddling inappropriately into your business. Some women think that because they are family members, they can tell you how to live your life, and give unsolicited advice any time they feel like it. This is unhealthy for them, and especially for you, your husband, and your children. (Added stress hurts your family.) It is Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10830826474076783962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-78900115812788595642014-07-18T17:58:20.833-07:002014-07-18T17:58:20.833-07:00Dear Christy H,
Be encouraged! I think that these ...Dear Christy H,<br />Be encouraged! I think that these women are meddling inappropriately into your business. Some women think that because they are family members, they can tell you how to live your life, and give unsolicited advice any time they feel like it. This is unhealthy for them, and especially for you, your husband, and your children. (Added stress hurts your family.) It is YOUR Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10830826474076783962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-38989371924693988882014-07-18T12:14:37.986-07:002014-07-18T12:14:37.986-07:00Since they are not employed outside the home, they...Since they are not employed outside the home, they must be home now and are homemakers. Since they Re home, they are in the same realm you are in and ought to pay attention to their homes. They do not have any business telling young homemakers to leave home if they are home, themselves.Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-37283204646396182542014-07-18T11:58:51.908-07:002014-07-18T11:58:51.908-07:00Lady Lydia,
I want to thank you so much for your ...Lady Lydia,<br /><br />I want to thank you so much for your encouragement. I just need to tell them I hear their concern but we are not concerned and leave it at that. Their "world" is so small, with very few friends and nothing to do, as they are all retired. they can't see things from my point of view. I just need to let it go and focusing my Pleasing my Lord and husband.ChristyHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18314469368709173839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-68733707295590583262014-07-18T11:54:38.304-07:002014-07-18T11:54:38.304-07:00I am the original poster of the problem of relativ...I am the original poster of the problem of relatives.<br /><br />I have worked outside the home as a nurse when my oldest was younger and then again after my twins were born. I can say from experience that I was stressed out beyond reason. Nothing ever got done well and I always felt so torn. Told my husband I couldn't be superwoman. <br /><br />My family is the only Christian family within ChristyHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18314469368709173839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-72443824760710889782014-07-18T10:26:43.518-07:002014-07-18T10:26:43.518-07:00I'm so glad you post the comments. I too have ...I'm so glad you post the comments. I too have had "negative nellies" pester me about working outside the home in years past. I caved for a while and tried working, but it never worked out for obvious reasons. <br /><br />I'm a senior woman now and my children are grown. So most people leave me alone now. The answers you have given are reasonable, and the comebacks are anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13214621646003640118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-43912860809027411532014-07-18T10:00:02.418-07:002014-07-18T10:00:02.418-07:00If you have a supportive husband and you are in ch...If you have a supportive husband and you are in charge of homemaking, you are employed enough. To take on another job would put a burden on you and on your daughters future woke at home.<br /><br />Sometimes you have to tell people you have had enough of their pressure.<br /><br />And sometimes if they will not quit bothering you, you have to put a little pressure on them to start being good Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-69437989196538394972014-07-18T09:50:28.558-07:002014-07-18T09:50:28.558-07:00Christy H,
I doubt the comments and urging of o...Christy H, <br /><br />I doubt the comments and urging of others can sway a dedicated homemaker to change her mind about employment. Are these naysayers going to bring us job applications and force us in the car and take us to an interview? And will they pay the cost of travel amd expenses for going to work every day?They do not really have any strength beyond their words. Their influence can Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530969871397361970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9186456.post-59980192725559544512014-07-18T04:20:38.219-07:002014-07-18T04:20:38.219-07:00Perhaps you can offer me some advice. My daughter ...Perhaps you can offer me some advice. My daughter recently got engaged. She has only wanted to be a wife and mom. That has been all she has ever wanted to be. Her fiancee is fine with this, his family is fine with this. I have been fine with it for about 2 years now.<br /><br />I grew up with very strong feminist female relatives, an aunt who never married a career woman, a mom who wasn't a ChristyHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18314469368709173839noreply@blogger.com