Thursday, May 05, 2016

Proverbs 31: Career Woman?

(I thought you would enjoy the picture of this flowering tree that I took from a window)

Hello Ladies,

There has been a trend in the last two decades to turn the Proverbs 31 woman into a real estate seller, a shop keeper, a business woman, a career woman: and always with the emphasis on money.

Please notice in this last verse that money is not mentioned. The fruit of her hands refers to the results of the work that she did at home, whether it be raising children or taking care of her husband and looking after the house. She would get the things she made, the family she raised and the praise of her husband. These are some of the fruits of her efforts in the home.

There is a continual effort to focus on money, when reading about women in the Bible, which is one reason why so many people miss the real richness of this passage of scripture. The fruit of her hands 
becomes money, to most people.  Being so hasty to point out that she gave her hand-made products to the merchants to sell, or that she made a profit with her garden, they overlook the many other things in the list of what makes a worthy woman, and things that would bear fruit in her life.

What other things besides buying and selling and making a profit, did the King's mother teach him about a worthy wife? 

The first thing that comes to mind is the part that says the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. After that, there is the part that says she makes garments out of cloth. Then, she works with willing hands. Also, she stretches her hand to the needy.  There are many more qualities in Proverbs 31 besides these.

In the last 20 years that I have been writing about the women being home, I have received many letters telling me the Proverbs 31 woman must have been a career woman because she earned money selling things.  There is nothing wrong with making something at home and selling it, but there is no example here to leave your husband, children and house in the care of others, and pursue a career. See the article in "Adventures in Keeping House" which explains this in more detail.

In all these years I have never received a letter asking how a woman can learn to have "the teaching of kindness on her tongue", which is also on the list of requirements for a wife, that King Lemuel's mother taught him.  What is the teaching of kindness? Where is the desire to develop the teaching of kindness? Instead, most of the letters are about the Proverbs 31 woman and her marketing ability and her money-making skills. 

Next, she makes clothing, and her family is clothed in the most high quality fabrics--clothing she made for them. Obviously she did not sell those garments.

Where are the letters asking how to make your family's clothing out of scarlet, a rich, high-end fabric?  What about the tapestries made by the Proverbs 31 woman--where are the women desiring to know how to do that for their homes? Instead, most of the things listed in Proverbs 31 are ignored, while eyes are drawn like magnets to the words: buy, sell, makes a profit.  It just shows where people's minds are these days.  But, give it another twenty years and a new trend will emerge telling us the Proverbs 31 woman worked in a cotton or woolen factory, making cloth all day. (Because she used spindle at home).

Also, as she "looks well to the ways of her household," why are there so few women wanting to know how to do that? Instead, when it comes to the Proberbs 31 woman, all they see is the way she markets a product.

Ladies, let us teach the younger woman to see the many other things in the Proverbs 31 list, besides buying and selling.  There is something very lopsided about the modern view of the Proverbs 31.  I hear a lot about how she was a career woman, but never does anyone demand that women at home be responsible for sewing clothing for her family (and servants) as listed in the Proberbs 31.  Neither do I hear these women ask how to "seek food from afar" --one of the things on the list. 

"Look at Lydia, in the New Testament," they say. "She was a seller of purple cloth!"  How excited it makes them, when they read the word "seller." (Not excited about the wonderful, high-quality cloth, usually fit for a queen, but the selling!)

 Of course there is nothing wrong with selling something if you are a homemaker, but there is an obvious overlooking of the many other things about Lydia.  The more important spiritual points of the account of Lydia in the book of Acts were:

-She was a worshipper of God who gathered at the river with other believers, on the Lord's Day.
-When she heard the message of the Apostle Paul, the Lord opened her heart.
-She compelled Paul to come to her house, where he taught everyone that lived there.
-as a result of the gospel message, she and all her household who believed were baptised that very day.

Her selling of purple was not addressed at all except to identify her. After that, the story reveals her teachable heart,her hospitality, her influence over her household, and her obedience to the gospel message.  Yet, I never hear about these qualities when the feminists write to me. They always say, "After all, even Lydia in the New Testament was a seller of purple!"  

I wonder if they want to be just like Lydia or like the Proverbs 31 woman, why they do not desire to sew or work with fabric, but rarely, if ever, use these verses to propel them to make clothes.  And if they so admire Lydia in Acts, why they do not have a strong desire to show hospitality to a preacher and listen to his message, or, why they do not teach everyone in their homes about the great commission. 

If we go into scripture wanting to find something to justify what we are wanting to do, rather than trying to find where we are wanting (lacking) we will miss the whole story with the real wealth scripture offers.

Finally, as I said in the previous Proverbs  31 posts, Titus 2 is the pattern for Christians today, and it is much simpler than Proverbs 31. It does not mention money, buying, selling, profit, or any enterprise. Titus 2 focuses on LOVE: the Christian woman's love of her husband, her children, and her home.

The Bible contains the pattern for us to follow. Some people want to change the pattern to fit themselves, rather than change themselves to fit the pattern. 

Monday, May 02, 2016

Proverbs 31 and Servants

Hanging the Washing, a Beautiful Spring Morning

By: Helen Allingham Item #: 10606947

For decades I have heard and read that  the Proverbs 31 woman having servants, is equivalent to our modern household appliances like washers and vacuum cleaners.

The problem with making our washers, dryers, vacuum cleaners and slow-cookers an equivalent to servants, is that none of these things do anything on their own. While the servants in Proverbs 31 did the tasks assigned to them, the lady of the house (married to a King who could afford the servants) only gave verbal or written instruction to get the tasks done.

In reality, our modern conveniences do nothing for us by themselves.  It would be a different story if we plugged in an appliance and it required nothing of our own effort and went to work immediately by itself.  However, every convenience and every appliance we have requires someone to fill it, empty it,  replace parts, push it, clean it, put it away, and often these are operated at some expense, especially the oven. When an appliance will not work anymore and has had all the repairs possible, we have to load it up in the car and take it to a recycling place.  

There is no appliance to make beds, move furniture, put a meal on the table, clean windows and mirrors or clean a bathtub. Even with all the cleaning agents,  these things require the homemaker to do the work.

The grocery store and market do provide a little more service. When you buy pre-cut vegetables and meat already seasoned, it is somewhat like having hired help in the kitchen. When you buy a rug, or clothing, it is like having hired someone to make it, so in that sense, manufactured things are a servant, because you do not have to make everything yourself.  When company comes unexpectedly you can buy bread and many prepared items and that is a great service.  

However, a washing machine still requires work on your part, so it is not fully a servant.  You still have to "do the laundry" and wash day for some people is very time-consuming, especially when they prefer to hang the clothes on a line outside, bring them back in the house when dry, fold and put away in various places, and maybe iron some of them.  The iron also is only a servant in that you do not have to build a fire in the cookstove and heat the iron. You still have to iron the clothes yourself. Permanent press clothing is a better servant than the iron, because it is ready to serve your needs without the labor of ironing it.

Yes, you may consider all these machines your "servants" but when there are dishwashing inventions that gather up the dishes, scrape and rinse them and load them in the dishwasher without your help, then put the whole collection away in the shelves after it is dry, the dishwasher will truly be a servant. 

The best servants today are: grocery stores, hotels, restaurants, ready-made clothing and furniture, train, bus and airline trips, and activities where everything is done for you.  Although our cars may be thought of as servants, we still have to drive them ourselves and be alert and make quick decisions.  In the house, running water and electric lights are good servants.

So, in saying our modern appliances are servants, I can agree, to a point. The refrigerator seems to be content to keep the food cold without us supervising it,  and I think it is a great servant. We do not have to get the dray wagon to bring us big blocks of ice to maintain it, and we do not have to check on it  constantly to see if it is doing its job.   

Saying a vacuum cleaner is a servant is like saying a broom is a servant. Both require someone to push it and pull it and make it work.  Appliances are simply good aids in housework, but it seems the more appliances we get, the more often we use them and we end up working constantly.

My personal favorite homemaking aid is the electric sewing machine, but using it can be intensive labor. When the sewing machine cuts the pattern and stitches the garment together by itself, then I will say it is a full-fledged servant. In spite of its limitations, I would not want to do without it. In fact, it is one appliance, along with my electric kettle to heat water for tea, that I take on car trips when I will be away from home for more than a day. I believe the electric kettle is one of the best servants in the home, but it will not fill itself. Somebody has to do that.  I have written  previously about how I like hearing the electric kettle come to a boil and shut off all by itself.  It is like having someone in the kitchen. 

I do not believe we as homemakers can claim to be the same as the Proverbs 31 woman. She was a description by a mother to help her son, a King, chose a good wife. A queen has servants to do things for her, and she has to have the skill to manage those servants.  Though it was a description of  a future queen, every homemaker is a queen of her house and can learn from the Proverbs 31 description.

I have also heard that our children are the equivalent of the servants in Proverbs 31, but I do not agree. We should allow children to be children and although we teach them to come alongside and help us, they are not the same as servants.  The Bible does not seem to support that anywhere.

Since the New Testament is for Christians, and the last will and testament of Christ, we need to do His will and follow the law He left for us. 

Titus 2, and 1st Timothy 5:14 are the instructions in the New Testament for members of the Lord's church today.  

These and other New Testament passages do not mention servants or the details of physical work as described in Proverbs 31, but instead, talk about being the guide and guard of the home. That is the same thing the Proverbs 31 description is saying, but people get so caught up in the details, that they forget the over-all intent of the passage. The point of Proverbs 31 is that a woman should be serious about caring for her husband, children, and house. Her focus was her home.

More Work For Mother: The Ironies Of Household Technology From The Open Hearth To The Microwave Paperback – March 11, 1985

Sunday, May 01, 2016

Questions and Answers About the Proverbs 31 Woman

Ladies Sewing, 1848

 By: Gustave Caillebotte Item #: 13842045

The feminist view of the Proverbs 31 description continues to influence women by insisting that these passages describe a career woman and show an example of women having careers outside the home. Some people go so far as to say the verses do not portray a woman as a homemaker at all.  

Some of the best answers to these erroneous views are in the article on the European blog 

Common Questions About Proverbs 31 Woman:

 1. Who was the woman described in Proverbs 31:10-31


Verse 1 reveals it was a description written by the Mother of a King, to her son about the qualties of a good wife.

 2. Does this description apply to all women?

Answer: No, because it is a description of the way a future queen would live.  She would have servants  to do many of the things we at home do ourselves, while she did charity work, watched how the household was run, planned meals and more.  She may not have actually cooked, washed and cleaned, but she was in charge of how it was all done. 

3. Was she a real person?

Answer:  No, it was a description of qualities desirable for a future wife for a son, who was also a king.  However there are many attributes to learn from which the keeper of the home will benefit,such as diligence and wise use of time, dedication to the family, teaching children, and seeing that things go well for her husband.

4. Was Proverbs 31 intended to prove that Christian women should have careers outside the home and provide a living for her family?

Answer: There is no command in that passage for women who follow the Lord to seek careers and money beyond what is said. Women who do not truly desire to be homemakers and be at home guiding and keeping the family, are continually analyzing this description and trying to make her into a breadwinner, career woman, working wife.

We need to remember this is a fictional woman provided by the mother of a King to teach him about women, both negative and positive.  It is not a list provided by his mother to urge him to find a wife who is going to have a career and be a co-provider.  

There is nothing wrong with women earning money at home, and throughout the ages women have sold the work of their hands, but that was never intended to eliminate the duty of a husband to be a provider by working.  Selling your own handiwork does not imply taking over the role of the man in the home.

5.  The many things in this passage shows what women are capable of. Does this mean ChristIan women should do all these things today?

Answer: This was not a list of commands for Christian women. It is a record of teachings of a mother to her son, about women and how a good wife is worth more than rubies. The beginning of chapter 31 warns the son about liquor and women. 

The second part of the chapter shows the good alternative in choosing a wife who would be serious about her life at home.  It certainly does not describe the duties of a single woman, or a woman at the office, in a university or running a corporation. Proverbs 31 is about the good wife who is serious about her home. Women need to aspire to be good homemakers. Proverbs  31 is not telling women to work outside the home, as some people are insisting. 

Saturday, April 30, 2016

Sewing Tips and Tools (video 13)

 (Thanks to Lisa Anne for making this video)


I think you will like this video, even if you are not familiar with sewing. I used to place spoons as weights on my patterns, but these little weights made of washers are so much better.  Patterns used often are either ironed on to interfacing to preserve them, or cut out of muslin. The cotton muslin fabric patterns require no pins or weights and making the cutting process so easy.

What I said in the video was: i like to choose fabric that goes with the time of year when a flowering tree is blooming. My mother and mother in law and grandmothers liked to do that, and I have pictures of them wearing dresses that matches the blooming rhododendron or azalea of the season. 

Below: not yet finished, the dress is on the dress form for a fitting.

Below: still some work to do, but I wanted to see how the shoulders fit and take tucks where needed.This  is something I will wear at home because it is cool, comfy cotton: perfect for housekeeping.

Tuesday, April 26, 2016

Mrs. Minerva


Hello Ladies,

Several times I have mentioned the column written by England's "Mrs. Minerva" published in the English Home Magazine.  

The issue of particular interest is the one I have posted here from March 2011, which you may be able to enlarge and read.

 Those of you who are older may remember your mothers retreating to the bedroom when life got stressful.  I remember mothers making their children stay in bed when they were sick, surrounded by books and art materials. 

  She did not include taking a rest when the children are napping. Its tempting to do a lot of things while they are down, but important to rest during some of that time.                                                     

From the article:- (note:  a lot of it is a wry style of stating truth trough tongue-in-cheek wit. Mature audiences will understand.)

"While I firmly maintain that one should strive to maintain a stiff upper lip during most of life's trials and tribulations, I do think the Victorian custom of taking to one's bed has a lot to be said for it. At times life can be so trying there is little to be done but to retire to a room of one's own and draw the curtains firmly shut.

"One of the reasons Mr. M. behaves so well is that he understands there is always a risk that if he upsets me I might simply slip upstairs only to come down some  days later. This would, of course, interfere greatly with dinner and he may be forced to eat at his club.

"There are many reasons to take to one's bed: heartbreak, disappointment, irritating husbands and influenza among them. However, in the depths of winter - when the Minerva household is on the inhospitable side of chilly - the only warm rooms are the kitchen and the bedroom...."

Sunday, April 24, 2016

Lady Reading

The practice of ladies getting together to read aloud cannot be traced to an exact date, but is referred to sometimes in historical writings and old stories.

My friend, Lisa Anne, who is also my video lady,  gave me the idea to have "A Reading" by telling me about something she read:

Ladies  in the past would sometimes ask the youngest girl in a reading group to read to them. The hostess would decide what was to be read and who would do readings. That way the material was first looked over for suitable content.

A reading is not same as a book review.  Materials used can be letters, poems, articles from periodicals, fiction, history and even old cookbooks with all the notes of the cook. 

With a friend, I have been doing "A Reading" every day. My friend is reading from a new category of fiction called "clean romance." The book, "Immigrant Brides" has 12 stories of immigrant brides from various parts of the world in the 1800's. She reads one chapter each Reading, and stops to read dictionary definitions, locate places on the map, and make observations about certain points in the story.  

She is also reading parts of "Flowers That Never Fade" by Leroy Brownlow, a gift-book with wisdom and scripture and interesting observations about life.

In our readings we also tell about the authors and the era in which they lived.

Included in these daily readings are poems and character lessons from the Fascinating Womanhood workbook, which is a classic. Homeschoolers could glean a lot from this workbook that would help both boys and girls, and it contains scriptures pertinent to character, work, suffering, and more.

My reading yesterday was  from the recent Tea Time magazine, (May-June 2016) "Will You Share a Dish of Tea With Me?" (This reminded me of  Prudy in the 2015 movie "Poldark" saying to the under-servant "Brew me a dish of tea while I mend my broken wing." when she had sprained her wrist.)

A friend in England meets with me sometimes on Skype and reads from the Miss Reed series of books.  I read to her parts of Linda Lichter's book about the customs, character, beliefs, work and art of the Victorian era.

If you are homeschooling, I would recommend a daily reading in place of curriculum.  

If you are a homeschool graduate, have a reading once a week or daily, with your mother. Choose something that delights you to read to her, and let her read something to you.  

If you are a veteran home schooler whose children are finished school, you will be revived by having a daily reading. You can do this on Skype or some other media.  It is enormously comforting and fulfilling. 

Our reading ladies are veteran home  schoolers who miss having discussions with good values. We call these discussions "Home school Revisited" and have mutally agreed that "Readings" are superior to any homeschool curriculum.

 One lady in the gathering, so impressed with "Readings" as ennobling the spirit and refining the soul, said the cure for homeschool burn-out is to "burn the curriculm." She had discovered so much learning for children in the daily readings that she was no longer  dependent on the boxed curriculums. She promotes the gentle home teaching method of "readings" and discussions, enhanced by reference materials such as the dictionary, map books, Haley's Bible Hand Book and Young's Analytical Concordance.

Had there been more time  during yesterday's "Reading" I would have pointed out the reason the Mothers and the homes are the best curriculum and how to tap into that source, as well as how curriculums can distract you from actually raising your children.

I hope you consider having "A Reading" one day this week with someone for half an hour.

To prepare for a reading, we dress up, fix an elegant tray with a shining tea pot and fine tea cups, gather our reading materials and take turns reading. If the day is cold we wrap ourselves in comfy shawls. The sessions last 20-30 minutes out of the ladies daily home responsibilities.

I am looking forward to today's reading because my friend, a fellow-homeschool Mama, is reading with great expression and drama another section of the Immigrant Brides historical romance book. The story is "Blessed Land." My friend will bring her shining Spanish fan with her (she has a partial Spanish heritage) because the characters in the chapter are Spanish.

Things I have read aloud in "A Reading": The Wife, by Washington Irving   -- takes some careful concentration and expression, as it was written in the 1800's and you have to read it understandably with expression.  When Queens Ride By -- both available on the side bar of this blog.  Also Poems by Edgar A. Guest can be found by using the search area on the upper left of this site, by the  "e" -- type in Edgar A. Guest in the space.  Also you can start reading my story about Cowrie Point, or write your own stories to read aloud!  May I also suggest using the phone with someone for a brief reading and discussion.  I like  a coumnist named Mrs. minerva who writes for English Home magazine. Her article on how women used to take to their beds when they needed relief from tiredness, stress, a vacation, some luxury, was so good.

Please enjoy the photos here, and I hope to explain more about this in a video. You are welcome to post these on your pinterest.

(photos courtesy of Lisa Anne

Friday, April 22, 2016

Cowrie Point Dreams

This 1800's painting has similarities to the Cowrie Point area, particularly the rock formation on the left, with the ocean and beach in the background.

Cowrie Point, Tasmania was a small cove with summer  homes called "shacks" owned mostly by residents of nearby towns. These were simple dwellings designed for temporary summer living, but occasionally there were year-round occupants like my family. We spent the lonely, dark winter months indoors away from the cold wind and rain, when there were no tourists or holiday visiitors. 

In the mornings I walked the empty beach before the day got underway. With no one around the area all those months,  I felt I owned a piece of oceanfront property. 

A little bit of warm air indicated spring was near, and I saw something from a dream.

As I came to the end of the path leading out onto the ocean rocks, young woman in a long blue-gingham dress was walking on the low-tide wet sand. Her long, dark hair was covered with a wide brimmed white picture-hat tied with a light blue satin ribbon. 

At that time in history, fashion had left the sweet dresses of the 1950's; the severe designs of the 1960's were now prominent, though longer lengths were not popular yet. Long dresses like Kathleen's light blue gingham had not been worn as daywear for several decades and were only read about in historical fiction. This young lady's dress, hat and her smooth, graceful way of walking was like something out of a 19th century painting. To a young girl like myself who was attracted to "pretty," the scene was angelic.

As we we came upon each other, we stopped to talk.  I asked her where to find long dresses like the one she was wearing, and she told me she had sewn the dress herself, using a pattern. The dress was peasant-style with long sleeves and a ruffle at the wrists.  

Her name as Kathleen, and the reason she was wearing this dress and hat while walking on the beach, was due to her skin being so sensitive to the sun, but also that she thought ladies should dress modestly.  I admired her willingness to say it outright, especially during a time when modesty was being abandoned by the public. She was 20 years old and I was 16. Her skin was soft and smooth, no doubt from her careful shielding against the harsh elements, and her eyes were a picture of innocent contentment.

I saw her several times more in similar dresses of various pastels. She said, "Although I am not dressing like this for attention, girls need to realise that people appreciate them wearing long dresses more than pants and masculine clothing. They get a lot more attention in a pretty, modest dress."

The year was 1967. I wish I could remember every word she spoke to me on that subject and that I had kept a correspondence going with her so that I might know how her life went, and what became of her.  All I have is that clear and wonder-filled vision in my mind of her walking lazily on the beach in the pretty blue-gingham dress. She looked like someone from another era.

Sometimes we do not think our ways and our beliefs and example matter much or impact anyone, but it may touch someone many years later when the memory visits them. I see the picture of Kathleen so clearly, I believe I could sketch it from memory.

On the left side on this photo, below, lies the house where Kathleen stayed the summer I saw her on the beach. It is the white one with the gray roof just facing a private little cove of Cowrie Point. You can see it there to the left of the house wirh the red roof.

This is an areal view of Cowrie Point. It is hard to indentify things as so much has changed in 45 years, but I think the blue house may be the one my parents owned and where we lived in the 1960's.

Tuesday, April 19, 2016

Cowrie Point Memories

A friend sent me these pictures of my former homeplace of Cowrie Point, Tasmania, Australia.
You can see the iron-ore mill at Port Latta, where my father worked, in the background.

In the 1960's I lived here in Cowrie Point with my family. Since then, other families have occupied this place, but I want to relate some special memories of being there.

The house faced this beach which my siblings and I frequented daily. We could hardly wait to get the morning chores overwith and be free to walk and run and sea-bathe.

This is the house, and it may have changed paint colors several times since we owned it, but it holds what seems like a lifetime of memories, even though we only were there a few years.

This 1800's painting, below, reminded me of days at Cowrie Point because we often spent time propped on the rocks with reading, writing and art materials. The background looks exactly like the sea behind the rocks at Cowrie Point. I can still feel it.
One day, a young woman and her husband were sitting on the beach,  and seeing me reading a book, the woman spoke to me:

"I wanted  to marry a prince," she told me. "So I went to Europe to stay with some relatives, hoping to find one.  Now I live here in Cowrie Point with my husband of 10 years."

"Oh, " I said, "And so you met your prince in Europe!"

The young woman smiled. "I met my prince, but not in Europe. I was disappointed, but when I came back to Cowrie Point, the family living next door to my family had come for a summer holiday. They had a home in Smithton, but this was their holiday home.  

"Their son and I had been friends when we were growing up, but we did not keep in touch after I went to Europe.  As soon as he heard I had returned home, he sent his mother over to ask my parents if I had met anyone in Europe.  After their brief visit his mother went home, and not long after that, he came to the door and asked for me.

"He told me how happy he was that I was home; how he missed our friendship, amd how Cowrie Point was such a lonely place when I was gone."

Afraid to pry too much, I carefully asked her if she had told him of her quest to meet a prince.

"He was a trusted friend and I had no qualms about telling him of my failed mission.  He held my hand as we walked on the beach, listening to my story while I expressed all my future hopes.  He asked if he could be my prince and I said yes."

Sadly, I do not remember her name, and it was over 40 years ago. If I had known about journalling back then, I would have a record of it all. 

 I do remember her telling me that young ladies should look for princely qualities when thinking of future husbands. Things like courtesy, protectiveness, faith in Christ, respect and caring for parents, willingness to do the providing, and loyalty are admirable character qualities.  Girls have to be able to recognize these inner things and not overlook the potential prince living next door.

I hope you enjoyed this true story.

Cowrie shells found in this area are the reason for the place being namd Cowrie Point.

Lady with shell, painting by William Margetson 1864-1940

Sunday, April 10, 2016

Pretty Dresses

A casual dress worn by the Duchess of Cambridge on her visit to India. 

These patterns might work for this style:

Here are some more she wore in India

I have not sewn the Amazing Fit patterns, due to them seeming so complicated and many pieces, but the styles seem be in the shape of these dresses.

Saturday, April 09, 2016

A Lady's Pasttimes (Activities)


By: Edmund Blair Leighton Item #: 12784920

Consider the pleasant things that occupied women at home which were beneficial, delightful and calming:

Leisurely Walk 
Time with the children in peaceful activities
Beautifying the Home
Church arrendance and ladies services to others

Today many young women are busy taking children to and from social and educational activities. They spend a lot of time driving, waiting in the car, running errands, and less time resting.

Some older women at tea the other day dispensed their knowlege to the younger ones who were there:

Stay home and look after your own children.
Rest when the children rest.
Be careful how you lift things
Avoid the distraction of too many activities
Do not acquire too many things to look after
Do acquire time-saving devices if they really help: a vacuum, washer and dryer, dishwasher.
Dont try to make money. Instead try to find ways to avoid spending it.
Take advantage of services such as home delivery, things brought to your door
Make vacations restful and re-creative rather than wreck-reation that wears you out.
Have calming hobbies such as journalling, reading, music, and interests that do not cause stress or expense.
If you have a husband, and a child, that is your full time work. 
Attend church on Sunday, but avoid volunteering to do extra unless showing simple hospitality. Your presence at church is a great encouragement in the effort alone.
Other advice covered time-saving tips in house-keeping, and health tips about how to avoid accidents in the home.

The labor-saving devices created in the Victorian era were for women at home, making the work easier. Do a web search for a list of inventions in the 1800's and you will see how many of them made home life easier.
The grand finale of advice to the young: if you do not treat your body well, get rest, avoid strenous lifting and jolting excerices, take on fewer problems outside your home, you will pay for it later. Illness and debilitation in later years will result, making it hard to enjoy life or be of any benefit to yourself or others. (There was also some warning about popular workout trends not being good for a woman's body, and warnings about popular posture vs. natural posture that protects women from strain and physical stress).

Wednesday, April 06, 2016

Company's Coming - Video 12

Thanks to my friend Lisa Anne for making this video!

Tuesday, April 05, 2016

Cheerful Dressing - Video 11


Hello Ladies,

I appreciate all the inquiries as to my health and well-fare, and want to let you know I am working on a new video. 

For a mere minute of video, I am good at making it half a day of work! I like  to have the setting, because I know we all want something pleasant to see while we watch something. Today I have a little speech on costume, so please check back in awhile.  It will be posted here.

I appreciate the donations I have received! Thank you very much!


Thanks to my friend Lisa Anne for making this video!

Monday, March 28, 2016

Lady Resting (Video 10)

Today I am discussing one of the essential ingredients of a happy home life, particularly for  ladies who have become full-timehomemakers.  When you come home to make it your main focus in life, you become self-employed lady, and as such, you may forget to rest.  

(Because I always get requests about the cardigans and blouses in the videos, I will post pictures of the pink cardigan, pink skirt and white ruffled blouse, as well as the shawl, at the end of this post)

We all tend to gear our lives according to the way a business or an industry is conducted, but life at home requires more attention to your rest . Rest affects your mood and feeling of well-being. When this is neglected, home is not a pleasant place.

Here is a technique of rest that you can do even when you have small children, or when you are older.  There is something about it that revives you spiritually and physically. Rest restores you.

You can prove the marvellous benefits of rest by doing this:

Set aside the hours between one and three o'clock in the afternoon.

Prepare a comfortable place with cushions and blankets and lay down.  Bring whatever you will need to keep you content there, such as your reading, music, needlework, or nothing.

Lay there until you feel you really want to get up.

Get up and do some simple thing for about five minutes: take the clothes out of the dryer, straighten up something, clean the sink, etc.

Lay down again until you are tired of it and really want to get up.

Get up for a few minutes, make a cup of tea, and then go lay down again.

Repeat for a couple of hours.

You will find that little children sometimes like having you in one place. Sometimes little children want their mothers to sit down and not move around all the time.

For older women may find when the three hours are finished,  they feel younger  and revived. Ladies have told me it gives them a feeling of refreshment and health.

The one who creates the atmosphere at home is the homemaker, and without rest, she has no working tools. 

Rest is right up there next to laughter as "good medicine" described in the Bible. Remember this phrase in Isaiah 30:15 

"... in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength..."

Take some time to be quiet and rest, on purpose. Do not wait until you become tired and ill. Restore yourself. Teach your children to do the same. 

Mat 11:29  Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.

Example of the apostle Paul's experience with restlessness and trouble:

2Co 7:5  For, when we were come into Macedonia, our flesh had no rest, but we were troubled on every side; without were fightings, within were fears.
2Co 7:6  Nevertheless God, that comforteth those that are cast down, comforted us by the coming of Titus;
                                                           Lady. Resting
(A reader suggests you print the picture and put it on your fridge or somewhere to remind you to take a rest time)

Saturday, March 26, 2016


1 Peter 1:18-25

"Forasmuch as ye know that ye were not redeemed with corruptible things, as silver and gold, from your vain conversation received by tradition from your fathers;

But with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot:

Who verily was foreordained before the foundation of the world, but was manifest in these last times for you,

Who by him do believe in God, that raised him up from the dead, and gave him glory; that your faith and hope might be in God.

"Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently:

"Being born again, not of corruptible seed, but of incorruptible, by the word of God, which liveth and abideth for ever.

"For all flesh is as grass, and all the glory of man as the flower of grass. The grass withereth, and the flower thereof falleth away:

But the word of the Lord endureth for ever. And this is the word which by the gospel is preached unto you."

This is a not-so-familiar passage about the sacrifice of Christ, written by the apostle, Peter. If you remember, Jesus gave him the keys of the kingdom. One of these keys was used by Peter when he preached the first gospel sermon, which opened the spiritual kingdom of Christ which exists today, and of which we can be part of when we obey the gospel.

It is good that we can trace this event in history to the time of year it happenned.  Also, we in the churches of Christ who take communion each Lord's Day throughout the year are observing the death, buriel and resurrection until He come. We enjoy that privilege each week when we participate in the memorial ceremony instituted by Christ shortly before his crucifixtion. 


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