Tuesday, May 27, 2008

The Old Picture Box -

Grandma's photo box reveals the life that was important to her and many others at that time. She kept this love of home and family and the nation even through a time of turmoil when young people were throwing off the loyalties of their parents and the restraints of their forefathers. In this box contained pictures of her and her family in front of every house they ever lived in. "This was our house in Kansas," she would say. "Here is where we lived in Washington." As I rummaged through some old photos in an antique store, I noticed many Victorian families standing in front of houses. The house was more than a shelter or a place to "crash" or hang out. It was a place where the family shared loyalty and good values that would build up and establish the home, not tear it down. It would be a home place for future generations to gather. It was not there for resale value. It was there because it made a statement about the permanence of the marriage and the family.

Other photographs show just her in a different dress. When she got a new dress, or when I sewed one for her, Grandpa would take a picture of her wearing it. Sometimes she took a picture of the table all spread out with food ready to serve company. Other times pictures showed her husband's prize dahlias growing in all their colorful splendor in the flower boxes outside. Grandma had many photos of her in front of a throng of flowers, wearing a dress in the same color as the flowering bush, flowering tree or flower bed.

There were a few photographs of presents she got on her birthday or on other special occasions. In these, she held all her gifts on her lap, smiled broadly and had her picture taken. Every single birthday and anniversary was a huge event. They stayed home for most of them but the house was alive with a feeling of celebration. She dressed up before she had her picture taken and never was there a photograph of her in her sleeping clothes.

Cars were another favorite. Photographs abounded of every single car she and her husband owned, with the two of them or the entire family standing in front of the car. I have an old photograph of all 7 of the children in my family standing in front of an old car that my parents owned. It was something everyone enjoyed doing and it symbolized ownership and progress, and also symbolized many other things: a man's care for his family so that they could freely travel from one place to another, and a family's fascination with automation.

The thing I like best about the diaries and the photo albums, is the evidence of the happy home and the hard work that she did to get it that way. She rose up early in the morning and began her day, free from the dictates of any corporation. She decided on her own menus and her shopping list. She went where she wanted to go and she looked after her home the way she chose. Even in the early days of the diaries and the photographs, when there was no money, she managed to make a day special for her family and create moments to remember. I think that it takes enormous intelligence, alertness, resourcefulness, thoughtfulness and love to do what she did. Sometimes people would say, "Don't you want to make a lot of money and do better

than your parents?" I used to hear this a lot in the 60's. I think it is very hard to do better than parents who had a lasting marriage and raised children and kept a home place. We always hope the younger generation will make a better pie, though, and be great homemakers, and be able to manage their time better, or be healthier, or know the scriptures better and spare themselves the heartache of a broken home. We hope they will study and "do better" spiritually and be able to be good stewards of their houses and property.


To the Christian Feminist,
Read Phillip Atkinson's essays on the study of our decline, here
here are some links that show the connection between Feminism and Marxism: http://no-maam.blogspot.com/2007/02/what-is-marxism-and-how-does-it-work.html

Vox Day has an article called "Feminism, the Failed Experiment" http://voxday.blogspot.com/search?q=feminism

and Glenn Sacks has articles about feminism here http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=137

type in "feminism " in his search area and there are many more articles to look at.

Read the truth about feminism in an article by Henry Makow here http://www.thetruthseeker.co.uk/article.asp?ID=1890

Monday, May 26, 2008

Changes in Time: Reading Grandma's Diaries

Dappled Sun by Roberto Lomardi

Her diaries began when she was 19 years old and spanned approximately 80 years. It was very interesting to see the changes in society that formed the mood of these diaries. Prior to 1965, regular entries record weekly visits from friends and church members who came by for pie. Interspersed evenly with these are the words, "We went out for pie at Viola's (or Pansy's or Rose's) house for pie. Their husbands were named "Joe, Jim, Frank or Fred." Every day she recorded at least one sentence about the day. If she didn't go anywhere she noted that she had baked something or written a letter to her sister. These were not diaries used to express resentment or inner anxiety. They were for the record.

The first 40 years of these diaries gave a sense of innocent happiness, as she and her husband and children interacted with others in her community and the church. It seemed like they were often at each other's homes for pie! She often told where the pie was served: someones front porch, the kitchen, the living room. The adults played horse-shoes outside, in the summer. There was no need for youth groups in those days because everyone came to visit and they got their socialization within the families that intermingled so well. She also recorded a number of marriages that took place in the church where they served, and every baby that was born was given a brief write-up in the tiny daily spaces in her book. It made a kind of routine: visitors, wedding, dropping in on someone else, a baby being born, a recipe tried, ironing done, visitors, pie served, wedding, etc.

They also used to dress up for each other to visit in their homes. Children were made to change clothes and wash their faces and hands and comb their hair before they accepted visitors. They were happy to sit on chairs and take pie with the rest of the company. In her diaries, she would briefly express her feelings with words like, "I really enjoyed that couple. They had nice children," or "The Jones are so interesting. Mr. Jones is always telling jokes." "My husband won, at horse-shoes." Reading this was a peek into the happy times of the century, that even I experienced as a child.

As we read further into the last 40 years, the tone of her diaries changed. There was a sadness expressed, without words. In the 1970's, instead of the usual, "Friends came over for pie tonight," the entries, for the first time, begin to sound rather depressing. She writes: "Mrs. C. came to visit and ask how she could get her son out of prison." "We went to call on Mr. B., whose teenage daughter is in trouble, " or something like: "Mr. J. came to see us because his son is on drugs."

One can only imagine how bizarre the events seemed to a woman who had spent most of her life in a friendly routine of a typical family, visiting friends and neighbors, going on trips to see their aging folks, shopping, cooking, and taking part in her own personal hobbies and interests. Though she wrote of various problems in the church before the 60's and 70's, they were minor, compared to the family-splitting problems she faced during the last 40 years of her diary.
Instead of visiting church couples to encourage them, they now visited families that were torn apart by alcohol, drugs, music, irresponsible handling of money and crazy life styles.

One entry described an interesting visit, followed by the words, "Some people!" A great amount of the problems had to do with the "new" morality of the 60's, people living together (shacking up, they called it) marriage, divorce, remarriage, the drug problem, immodesty, and the worldly philosophies that weakened the family and the local churches.

Near the end of her diaries, her world had gotten so strange, that she pens these words: Mr. S. wanted money so he could leave town; Mrs. M. wanted money because she needed gas to go and visit her husband in prison.

Recently a 9 year old girl told me that she was living with her father's girlfriend's mother, because her father couldn't take care of her and her mother was not responsible. Even while living with someone she was not even related to, she says, "We are a really mixed up family, but we are just like all the other families in the world."

It is sad that she really believes this and that a whole generation thinks it has to be this way, because it does not. I hope the next generation will have the determination to insist on giving their families a life of friendship and pie and family visits on the front porch. To the cynic and the jaded, it seems simplistic and unintelligent. A few years ago I wrote about a visit from a woman in England, who said she had grown tired of listening to young women boast about their degrees. "That's very nice, dear," she would tell them, "But can you bake a pie and serve coffee?"

Families used to thrive on the social life of going to one another's houses for pie or ice cream or coffee or tea. We all used to sit around a table when we ate our meals. Our houses were not particularly decorated or grand, but each home was a great source of stabilty and emotional warmth. In Grandma's diaries, I can almost see a dividing line for when this all changed. It was a time when so many women went to work. They were led to believe that it would not affect their marriages or their children. Though they had finer material goods, the social life of the family seemed to diminish.
As one commenter said, it does not take a study from a sociologist to figure out the sands of time. This diary revealed two things. The first forty years was pie. The last forty was prison. And the reader is right: we had no prisons previous to 20th century--at least not like today. Criminals were put on chain gangs to split rock or sentenced to hard labor.
Check out Tocqueville's observations of American men's attitudes toward women here http://lamar.colostate.edu/~grjan/sexequality.html
Since posting this, someone sent me an interesting study done by a guy in Australia, about the decline of manners, and behavior, etc. It is harder to read than grandma's diaries but very good, just the same and has great points.
Be sure to drop this author a note of appreciation for making this available.

Table Settings

Sometimes all that is needed for a centerpiece are the pieces from the china set. Here is a set that has colors in it that afford several different types of combinations in table cloths and placemats. This one is set with dark red chargers. The gold cutlery match the gold trim on the rims of plates and cups. The patchwork pads were created by my daughter when she was very young. I saved them and didn't use them much because I knew there was a slim possibility of ever getting more, once her life got busier. I was right: she now has four children and when she has "spare time" she lays down or reads a book! The design was copied from the round quilted potholders of her great-grandmothers, which we still had. It consists of fabrics from some of her own dresses which I sewed when she was younger, and batting and bias trim. It is all machine stitched.

Friday, May 23, 2008

Lights of Home

Lights of Home by Klaus Strubel

I was thinking today of the effect that cleaning a house has on the people in it. It lights up the place. It gives it a fresh, new feeling. Just as God designed the earth to revolve around the sun, so the home revolves around the needs of our loved ones. Things change constantly, it seems, but it certainly keeps the home interesting. When things are orderly and bright, everyone seems to be happier. Sometimes when one or more members of the family are "out of sorts" it comes from the neglect of the home.

There is nothing like home. No place of business or other institution has the same feeling as home. That is reason enough to give it top priority in the care of it. Children must be taught and family members must be able to discuss the important issues on their hearts. These things are not as easily done elsewhere. The home is where true freedom exists. It is here that we can be who we are and express our beliefs with confidence. The home is your own little country, where you fly your own flag and have your own culture.

There is an endless supply of poetry and stories written about the lights of home. Home provides more than a physical light to the neighborhood. It also provides a feeling of love an warmth, The homemaker's time there creates a special feeling. We always remember our home life better than anything else, for it is there we have been safe and happy.

Tuesday, May 20, 2008


Everyone has something that can be used as a centerpiece. Here are some ideas that do not require fresh flowers.

I can't remember where I got this but I like it because it is similar to the 19th century painting called "The Shell."

The tea tray is a always a perfect centerpiece because there is an endless selection of teapot styles. Add a fake cake that you make yourself from silk florals.
Then, there is always the glass reamer or juice squeezer. Here, it is with those pine cones that look like roses.

And here it has a selection of pastel treats in it.

This is a floral garland wrapped several times around a wax pillar.

An ordinary votive will always do for a centerpiece.

A place of shells and rocks in sand. You don't even have to go to the beach to get them. Sometimes you can find them at the dollar store.

There are some beautiful fake cakes available online which make great centerpieces.

Fruit centerpieces go way, way back to the earliest of times. Paintings of them can be found on the walls of ancient cities. Baskets or bowls of fruit were always considered a great luxury.

These are just a few things you can do without a great knowledge of centerpieces. Just arrange them, and step back to have a look. Rearrange and look again, until you get it the way you want it. Use your own colors and styles. You probably have more things than you realize, to make centerpieces with.

I had other centerpieces but they were too tall and would look better on a mantel, a piano, or a buffet, or any other shelf. The table centerpieces, even coffee table ones, have to be kept short enough to see your guests eyes across the table. It is uncomfortable to dodge the centerpiece while trying to talk to someone. The first photograph shows a vase that would be too tall on a table but it looks fine on the piano. The jar I bought at a GoodWill store and put a "wallie" rose on it, and added glitter and a ribbon. The florals are a velvet bunch I got for $3.00 at WalMart.

Monday, May 19, 2008

Table Centerpieces

Here are some centerpieces you can make on your own, without a knowledge of flower arranging, with flowers you have in your own garden, or from a mixed bouquet from the grocery store. These are all from my garden.

This first bowl of water looks great on its own. You could just float a few flower petals in it.

Hawthorne Tree

Heliotrope, Keys of Heaven, Lavender,

Put a jar of water in a round gift box.

Place container of water inside basket for the white lilac arrangement

Fill candle cup with water for bird cage


Set pan of water inside basket

Hawthorne, Lilac, Bee Balm, Lavender, Columbine, Forget-Me-Not, Peony

Birdbath with Dahlia

Wrought iron planter with silk roses

There are many other things that can be used as containers, such as large sea shells, hats, toys (even doll carriages and wagons) and pottery. It is a lot of fun to clean up the dishes and then start playing with them for photographs and centerpieces.

One helper, Pansies.

Thursday, May 15, 2008

New Link

I am getting read to post a side link on the issue of Modesty. It will be a collection of links to good articles on modesty. If you have written any on your blog, please post your link here and then when the collection is finished, I will put it on the side under "Modesty Issues" where it can be easily accessed. If you know of any good articles on the web on this issue, especially for youth,please post the link. If you have an opinion on the subject that supports the issue of modesty, be sure and write about it in the comments and I'll include that, too.

Thank you!


The Ordinary Day

Art by Betsy Brown

Since there are some who find the idea of homemaking full time rather unusual, I thought it would be fun to connect with other homemakers and see what they are doing today. This will give a glimpse into the life of the homemaker on an ordinary day. Of course we all know that no day is really ordinary when you are caring for the home and the family.

For myself, I am going to teach the Ladies Bible Class in the morning. I sometimes get asked what book we are studying. We are studying the book of Matthew. After that, Cindy, a long time friend, is coming over with some left over wallpaper and paint and a notebook. She is an interior decorator and has done a fabulous job on her own home. She is going to put a plan in a notebook, with sample swatches and colors, for me to follow, to help hoist the old place up.

After that I know I will get a visit from that special family next door and maybe from those irritating cousins, the Bumphries. If you know who the Bumphries really are (see http://www.thepleasanttimes.blogspot.com/ ) please do me a favor and keep pretending they are our hick cousins from the hills.

Eventually today I hope to do some sewing. Yesterday I sewed a marvellous dress from some cotton that I had saved and I was not paying attention to the pattern size. I had not noticed that my daughter had cut her size from it after I had used it. I forgot to add the extra on each piece to make it fit me. As a result, she got a new dress but I am happy to give it to her since she needed it. She is always making me something or other: costumes, blouses, skirts, etc. so we can have matching outfits. I think we are even.

I have already made scones this morning and the house smells great.

I would so value and appreciate knowing what others are doing today, with links to pictures if you have any. I was just here http://pinkcottage.blogspot.com/ enjoying the little fabric confections this lady makes. I think one reason I like crafts like this is that the small ones are not a huge project and not tiring. I love to sew dresses best of all, but it is very hard labor sometimes. Sewing these little desserts is a lot of fun. I don't know if they are for sale.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Home Notes for Today

The lilacs are in full color and we are having our own lilac festival. Lilacs on a tree, in a basket, in a vase, and even digging out any lilac-themed items we might have.

I was thinking today about the relation between clutter and frugality. Someone had written a supposedly witty saying that claimed that a clean house was a wasted life. They didn't think that one through. Does it mean the opposite is true? I've found a cluttered house to be a great source of misery and expense.

If you can't find anything because the clutter is so disorganized, you end up in a store searching for it from their neatly stacked shelves, where things that are alike are stored next to each other: thread with zippers, vac. bags with the vacuum cleaners, soap with the tissue paper, dishes with the cutlery, books with the papers and pencils, etc.

Everyone has, at one time or another or maybe more than one time, wished a great big team of professional cleaners would come in and do her organizing and cleaning. It would be a nice big surprise and we would cry when we came in the door to see the transformation.

However, the best way to keep from having such a cluttered house is to first and foremost, get it cleaned up. Do it methodically by picking up things that are alike: books, then papers, pencils and crayons, then toys, then clothing, dishes, food, etc. Do that, one room at a time. Then, clean the floors and dust and decorate a little.

When I wash dishes I clean up the perimeters of the place first: the stove, the little table, the center island, the cabinet top. I neatly stack everything to the right and clear off everything on the left. I sweep the floor. Then I fill up the sink with the hottest water and put in a stack of dishes. I might go put in a load of laundry while that soaks a minute.

After the major cleaning is done, the best way to maintain it is not to letter clutter accumulate. Everyone has to dispose of anything he has used, after he is finished. No one can leave anything in any part of the house to give a clue he has been there. It is that simple. Throw away wrappings and such, from take out foods.

Clean up the bedroom as soon as you wake up. Clean up the bathroom while you are in there by wiping the sink and folding things. In the living area, pick up things when you are in that room. I've talked about this before in previous posts.

There is no need to have a disaster area if things are picked up, not passed up. You might think, "But it is not a housecleaning day," and walk down the hall, tripping over towels and toys. You never really have to have a housecleaning day if you clean as you go.

Things won't accumulate so badly if you get in an automatic habit of cleaning as you go. The good manners of neatness will accompany you everywhere, from your car, to other people's places, to public places. It costs you less, because things do not get stepped on or broken, or put in places to be forgotten about and gone to waste.

We have a rule in our house that the floors have to be bare, to prevent accidents, but also because it prevents mold and disease. A dirty, unkept house could be a sign of wasteful, rushed living. In rare cases, it is a product of someone not feeling well, but as most people know, even an unwell person can prevent sloth and filth. A clean house, rather than being a sign of a wasted life, is a sign of a busy, industrious person and a diligent family who cares enough to be good stewards of their property.

I particularly like to have a big block of time available for doing something, and tend to think that there is no use trying to get any part of it completed unless I have the time. However, I have learned how valuable a bit of effort here and there is. In just a second here and a second there, some things can be accomplished.

Little drops of water,
Little grains of sand,
Make the mighty ocean
And the pleasant land.

And the little moments,
Humble though they may be,
Make the mighty ages
Of eternity.

Little deeds of kindness,
Little words of love,
Make our earth an Eden,
Like the heaven above.

I have added Emilie Barnes to the Homemaker Links, for those who have been searching for her: More Hours in My Day

Saturday, May 10, 2008

A Visit to a 1920's Style House

My daughter and her daughter and I were coming home from a tea party in town and noticed a brand new 1920's style Bungalow house for sale in our area, and a sign that said "Open House."

We were very pleasantly surprised at the interior. It felt right to be inside; it felt like we belonged.

Little Miss Pooh-Bear enjoyed looking out the upstairs cathedral style window. For such a small looking house, the rooms were expansive. The walls were a deep beige with a beautiful white trim.

Have a look at the doorway trim, here. This gas fireplace can be seen in the dining room on the other side of the living room, here. I love the curved opening.

This is one of the upstairs bedrooms.

We weren't too bright when photographing this nice kitchen. We didn't think to photograph the sink and the window over it. The view was great.

Here is the front door: I don't know if it is 20's style or not. It looks Victorian, but it went really well with everything in this house.

This is the stairs. The white posts with the wood bannister were really nice.

This was a four bedroom house. That extra large room upstairs was so vast, it could have been divided, for children.

Friday, May 09, 2008

The Better Part

If you can contribute anything to this lady's questions on one of my theme articles here http://homeliving.blogspot.com/2007/07/stillwater-cottage-limited-edition.html
your gracious comments to her would truly be appreciated.
Here is her post:
Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "Get in on Life...": You didn't answer my questions.
I'll repeat them once again:
1. why do you and others consider that it is perfectly all right for men to go to university and have a job, but on the contrary, women who do the same are missing out on everything important and at the same time, commiting a grave sin by evading their "proper sphere"
2. What do you expect women who have no talent for household duties and no wish of being housewives to do?
And finally, a great quote by writer Erica Jong. It applies perfectly to submissive wives.“Women are the only exploited group in history to have been idealized into powerlessness"
It is okay to post on this thread here, to make it easier.
(My note: Check here for the student's reaction to Erica Jong. http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1416438/posts and read the comments and some of her own quotes. Very funny. These students caught on quickly)
Scripture has the greatest impact on the mind, so if you have any that are effective in this case, please post it . I must emphasize that to be a wife, mother and homemaker in younger years is also a spiritual choice. That is the main reason that it is "the better part." The spiritual choice always is. To love a husband and meet his needs, to teach your children and instill good values in them, and yes, even to house-keep, is spiritual..it is not a matter of just fixing a meal or cleaning up a room.
There is something deeply spiritual about it because these are your people and it is your own individual mission. You think about how the home effects these people's minds!! A great deal of thought goes into arranging things, choosing things, fixing things, etc. It has deep, spiritual value. It isn't all mechanical cleaning and cooking.
What is there to learn? Well, most of it is a learn-as-you-go method of training. Most homemaking cannot be taught from a school. It is a matter of learning the needs of your own home, as they come up, but also anticipating some things. Not everyone's needs will be the same, nor everyone's training the same.
And, then on the other end of the massive scale of learning in the home, there are the simple things anyone can do: how much training does it take to put something away? How much drudgery is involved in making a sandwich and a pot of tea? Even the most un trained women can be homemakers when the simple things are required.
How much effort does it take to run the sweeper? And, when running the sweeper, aren't most women thinking about how much they are looking forward to the next project, or the warm apple pie coming out of the oven? Aren't we always thinking ahead while washing dishes or sewing? Isn't there always something going on in our minds? Just because you are sweeping or ironing, does not mean you blank out, intellectually.
here is great intellectual challenge in homemaking, yet it can be also be done without a lot of training. How much effort does it take to make your bed, adding a new bedspread that matches your lamp, or a vase of flowers on the table? How much drudgery is involved in putting a centerpiece on the dining table?
How boring is it to hang a wreath on the door or put some plants in an attractive pot? For sure, it doesn't take a degree. It is neither too highly intellectual nor too demeaning. Please read my post called "A Matter of Good Housekeeping."
I think I've explained these answers many times in long, long, well-thought out posts, and I'm wanting to write about other things right now. Some young women are "concerned about many things" like Martha, but will one day wisely choose "the better part," or the part that will make the greatest impact on your life in the future.

My purpose in writing the article she posted on (Get In On Life, Before It Passes You By) was to help girls see that the "better part" was their child bearing years when they should be married and tending to the home. While they are worrying about the many things the world is telling them to be concentrating on, they are missing out on the better part, which is the part most urgent in there lives.

You can always go to school. Schools are a dime a dozen. Husbands and children and houses are not. It is getting harder to find a mate. It is harder for women in general to have children. You can always get a career. That will always be waiting in the wings for you. But, to be married, to be a loving wife, or a mother and homemaker in your own dear little house, is something you cannot put off and expect to be there later on. Wife-hood, motherhood, homemaking, homeschooling--these are things that must be done when it is time to do them.
Without going into detail, there is a special time in youth, even proven by science, where young people are the most likely to mate. It is that time when they are the most capable of having children and of taking care of them. I've covered this in several other articles, showing how, for optimum health, you have to increase your load-bearing excercise in your youth, a time when you would naturally be lifting children and cleaning house more often.

I am sure there are many preachers whose sermons have covered the story of Mary and Martha, and that there are many wordy, theological explanations for it in various places on the web, so I am just going to give my personal application.

I don't believe that Jesus was telling Martha to abandon house work and go to a meeting or become a missionary. Several times when He walked the earth he reminded people that "the bridegroom you will not always have with you." (Matthew 9:15). There would be time to do other things after he had gone. He was only there a short time. People needed to sense the urgency of being with him while they could, while he was there. Marriage, home and family is urgent to the young. They need to capitalize on their feelings for it while they are young. They need to chose the better part. It is that era that they will do it the best. Families need to be formed in youth, because it is later they may not be able to be together.

Without repeating the entire article, I will try to explain: All that time the world has you in their schools, convinced you do nothing else, you will be wasting your child-bearing years, the time when it is the least difficult to bear children. You will be forfeiting the time most likely to find a mate. You might even pass up some very good chances, in order to "finish school."

The poster did not really address these issues, which were the main theme of my article. A very helpful article, written for the Atlantic Monthly in the early 1900's, can be studied here http://menstribune.com/abbott.htm and should be another theme article. It explains more fully the urgent reason that women need to be home while young, attending to things that can only occur during that time in their lives. For sure, a woman can fall in love at any age, and maybe even have children, but the best time is when she is young, and those years are too often spent in institutions (school, career) instead.

Most young people want the best in life. They want to wear the best shoes, the best clothes, go to the best restaurants. If they hear of a town or state that is considered the healthiest place to live right now, they all flock up there to settle, even if it means leaving their parents. In like manner, they need to understand that the best time to marry, build a home, and raise children, is when they are young. Jesus wants us to choose the better part, that part when will be the most comforting to us later on and which will impact our lives with greater force later on. Jobs will decline, companies will go bankrupt. Careers will fade. They need to choose the best part of their lives first, just like they would choose the best place to live.

Phyllis Schlaffly wrote in one of her columns that most jobs young girls study for in college, will not even be available when they get out. Industry is always changing. Demands for careers change constantly. I remember learning to type and was told the need for typists would be great. However, in just a short time, there was no such demand. Things had changed. There will always be a need for a wife and a mother and homemaker. This one thing has never changed throughout the ages from the beginning of time until now.

Many people can teach your children, but it is the mothers that do it best. Anyone can be hired to wash and iron and clean, but it is the wife who knows what technique is needed and who does it for different reasons other than just getting it done. Anyone can clean house, but the homemaker does it because it is her little cottage and she loves being there so she wants to do all the arranging herself. Throughout time, the office of homemaking has never changed. Various rebels have tried to put an end to the family structure and their inter-dependence, but their ways have always ended in disaster.
Here is a link to the orphan problem in Romania. http://www.abandonedtkids.com/. I posted it because it shows you how "far" that country has come since Communism. Some of them are now rich, but many are left behind, particularly these orphans. http://www.ez-hold.com/rore/romaniasproblem.html. Christian feminists in Romania: you are always talking about getting rid of poverty and inequality. What are you doing for these orphans in your own country? It is a national shame.
Here are the links from a commenter, for your reference:
to find out if women really were oppressed in Victorian times:
Also check this:

Miss Anonymous "Christian" feminist, please read the links provided by a poster above. Also you need to read the passage about Mary and Martha a little more carefully, as well as the story of the woman at the well. Jesus was not telling her that she could continue to marry and divorce and marry and divorce. She was to quit doing that. She wasn't given permission to keep on getting more husbands. She was told to go and sin no more.

Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house.
And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus' feet, and heard his word.
But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me.
And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things:
But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her. Luke 10:38-42

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Question from a feminist: Aren't you living in the past, when men looked after women and women stayed home and took care of the men? That may have worked in the past, but come on, you can't do it today. It is impossible. Your blog is just bringing women back a hundred years away from the progress feminism has made to liberate women! Why don't you just go back to your kitchen and bake a pie and keep your mouth shut instead of trying to spread this submissive little woman garbage?
Answer from a mature woman: Part of your rant just comes from your inexperience in life. You have a lot of maturing to do. You will find that after you have been married awhile and have children, you will do anything to see to their well-being and safety. That will include letting them learn at their own pace (such as home school) and helping them develop all their creative talents (that would be homeschool) and keeping them healthy (something practiced in homeschool). You will find as you mature, your mind changes. I guess every girl is a feminist til she sees the real world and realizes the career is not going to give her all the love that a home and family will. And, remember that the feminist movement was designed by elitists and social planners who wanted to give young women careers instead of families.
As for whether or not "it works" for a woman to be a homemaker: It "worked" in the past because there was not so much debt, and we did not think we had to have everything new or every new thing. What you also see happening today is forced labor, brought on by the high price of low living. When young women get in debt for college, or develop habits and addictions and vices, they will have to pay for them, and no man really wants to take on a woman's debts. Women will be kept working outside the home forever when they have to pay for so much, and the debt is not easily paid off.

Wednesday, May 07, 2008

New Every Morning

Spring View, photograph by Lydia Sherman

It is of the LORD'S mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not.
They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23

As a homemaker, it is interesting to me that the mess I left the night before because it was too overwhelming and I was tired, is so simple to fix the next morning! We need not be discouraged. Even problems that seem to overwhelm the mind, are a little less threatening when morning comes. The house is easier cleaned in the morning, and quicker, too. The daunting projects that made you sigh in exasperation the night before, are simpler.

I remember growing up how we would have to take naps, even when we thought we were too old. When we woke up, life seemed new, better, simple.

"There is no day so bad that it cannot be fixed by taking a nap." Susan Branch.

The beauty of being home is that you can leave such jobs if you like, and do them in the morning, and still not lose your job. It will always be yours, always be there for you, and no one can fire you.

Saturday, May 03, 2008

Framing Those Posters

Some time ago, my daughter and I attended an applique-quilting class. Although we did not have time to make all the quilt blocks for a quilt, we did keep the samples we made in the class. It is a technique of turning under the edges as you sew. Here is the piece she did, and I framed it.

Tea set from Horchow

We have finally figured out how to frame the posters that we order. As you know, they are quite reasonable in price when on sale (see Lovely Whatevers for a choice of good paintings)

After several trips to places like Michaels and other framing places, resulting in quotes never below $250.00 for mats and frames and labor, my daughter bought a poster frame, wooden, at WalMart for $20.00. She took out the cardboard backing and covered it completely in a piece of fabric( from the fabric stash we have vowed to use before we die). Most of the poster frames are cheaper than $20.00 so you can still feel you have a bargain. It is better to put them in a poster frame, if that is all you can afford, than to leave them rolled up in the tube, or laying about, as I was told by the framers.

To that, she centered the picture and used folded tape to attach it. Then she put the glass in, and mounted the entire thing and it looks great. An advantage was that I could then use a piece of matching fabric for the table below it. When my staff wakes up I will share a picture of it.

My original idea was to see if the cardboard backing was white, and to use that for the matting, but it was just grey pulp board, so it had to be covered. I thought I would share this idea with those who are ordering these beautiful pictures and then find out how expensive they are to frame.


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