Wednesday, November 07, 2007

Women at Home

The last three entries have emphasised the need for older women to be good examples, as per Titus 2 in the Bible. Now I would like to present a little study outline of Titus 2, where you, the reader, answers and discusses the questions yourself. Remember to answer according to these verses, and not from what you see going on around you in society.

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior,

not slanderers

or slaves to much wine.

They are to teach what is good,

and so train the young women to love their husbands

and to love their children,

to be self-controlled,


working at home, (THe King James says "workers" at home.)


and submissive to their own husbands,

that the word of God may not be reviled.

Questions to consider concerning these things:

Does being an older woman automatically qualify a woman to be a "teacher of good things?"

What if there are no older women doing the job of Titus 2?

Is it appropriate for older women to be somewhat more serious about life, and less silly than a young person?

Do you think she is a good influence if she is out drinking with friends, has a beer can in her hand, or smokes, even if she is a good person?

Look up Noah Webster's 1828 definition of "good", and Young's Analytical Concordance definition, and make a list of some good things an older woman could teach.

How can a younger woman be taught to "love" her husband. Isn't she "in love" with him already?

What are some examples of love in action throughout the day, the week, an a lifetime, today, and in the Bible?

For example, what is respect?

What sort of things should a younger woman avoid saying that would discourage her husband and show lack of love?

What sort of things would be helpful regarding the teaching and training of your children?

How can an older woman help you understand what you should be doing daily with your children?

Is the teaching of character important? Why?

Which is more important in raising children: having a lot of material things, like great clothes, and fun food, or teaching them to be good, honest, just, obedient, respectful, and loyal?

What is self control? Write the meaning from Noah Webster's 1828 dictionary (you might get it online, as well) and the meaning from Young's Analytical Concordance (also online) as well as looking up the passage in Adam Clarke's Commentary of the 1700's.

How would lack of self control make people sneer at the idea of a woman being at home full time?

Are there things like television shows and movies, reading materials, certain friendships, social activities, etc. that will rob a young woman of her youthfulness, sweetness, innocence and simple trust? In other words, what influences make us jaded and sarcastic, even to the point of saying things that are not becoming to an older or younger woman?

Do you think that modern man has become confused with the phrase "workers at home" and made something of it other than home making? What do you think "workers at home" really means?

Is it right to have a business at home to earn money if your home is neglected and the laundry piles up and the dishes go unwashed, the meals unprepared, and you lose your sleep over it?

Do you think there will be seasons in a woman's life when she can sell something to earn money, or take on different projects besides homemaking? If a homemaker is in business, discuss what kind of businesses would be most complimentary to her role as wife, mother and homemaker?

Define the word "kind" from Young's Analytical Concordance, and Noah Webster's 1828 dictionary.

Make a list of kindnesses, according to these definitions, that are essential in having a strong family unit and a good marriage. and an orderly home.

Divide the word submission into two parts and define each. What does the word "sub" mean? What does "mission" mean? HOw do you think love can be connected to submission?If a woman loves her husband, should there be constant conflict regarding decisions?

Discuss the following reasons that the word of God is mocked?

-Christian women do not live the way the Bible teaches

-Older women do not fulfill the role given to them in the Bible

-Some people are just mockers

Discuss the following:

What is faith?

Can only rich women be at home?

Trace your grandmothers and great grandmothers and great-great grandmothers activity at home. Were they rich, or poor? What were their responsibilities at home?

How can being at home improve the health of your family?

Make a list of things that can be done at home, all the way from hairdressing to horticulture.


Mrs. Anna T said...

"Is it right to have a business at home to earn money if your home is neglected and the laundry piles up and the dishes go unwashed, the meals unprepared, and you lose your sleep over it?"

I believe there are seasons in a woman's life when making some additional money from home might be an option, and doesn't hinder her duties as a homemaker. But I don't think it's worth it if everything else falls out of her hands.

Anonymous said...

Just ONE of these discussion questions, Bible phrases or word definitions could generate a huge amount of 'teaching'. I'd love an article from you on each! :) In the meantime, I've lots of Bible study and thinking to do.:) What am I doing to be a good example?.. I'm 'keeping at home'. I'm still loving my husband, my married homeschooled 'children', always endeavouring to learn and improve in the 'Titus' areas mentioned. That's why I'm so grateful for your blog and your articles which are packed full of wisdom, inspiration, ideas, encouragements and challenges. Thank you so very much dear Lydia. L.M.L.

Alexandra said...

Thanks, I'm linking. :)

Anonymous said...

Hi Lady Lydia....thank you soooooo much for the posts on your beautiful site. I have learned so much from you. You are inspirational and motivational. I can't wait to finish reading some of the past posts. I am really enjoying your blog. I grew up with no homekeeping skills and I am finding your blog such a blessing. Thank you for helping all of us out there and being a Titus 2 woman for me. God bless you.

Anonymous said...

Some meanings of 'sober'-'Tranquil' which means undisturbed, serene. Also 'Sedate' which means composed, free from agitation or hurry. These are beautiful words and just reading them makes one feel peaceful. What I find so helpful about your articles Lydia is that you don't just present these lovely words for us to contemplate but you translate them into specific, detailed, precise examples of how to implement them in our everyday life and behaviour. Thank you. L.M.L.

Lady of the house said...

This is a list of questions which require much thought from me to answer. I will be printing them and answering them on my own in my free time. Thank you so much for something to think about, Lady Lydia.

Mrs. H said...

This quite a Bible study outline! Thank you for putting it together. I know it must have taken a lot of time. I plan to work through it over the next couple of weeks.

I have been giving some thought to your question about things a woman could do from home to earn money that compliment her role as homemaker, and I was surprised at how many women came to mind! When I was a teenager, my mom had a friend who a had single chair beauty salon in her basement. Her husband was a contractor and finished the basement so that it was part hair salon/ part play room. I remember her children would play happily while she cut hair! My high school boyfriend's mom made decorative flags. They were quite beautiful. A friend of mine has a degree in graphic design and does web design and advertising from home. She just takes small jobs here and there as time allows. My grandmother, who was whiz with numbers, did tax forms for people. I know a 21 year old woman who makes beautiful handmade purses!

So, the more I think about it, if a family really needs a woman to earn an income, there are really a lot of homebased options. I'm not sure if these are the kinds of things you had in mind, but I was struck by how many women I know who do work from home around their family's schedule.