Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she shall rejoice in time to come.
~Proverbs 31 verse 25
There are several meanings of the word dignity, which is sometimes interchangeable with honor. Definitions can be read at the end of the post. Today I am going to talk about the practical application of this word, particularly in regard to the conversation of women. Bible classes, tea parties, friends, the telephone, blogs, message boards and instant messaging make it easier to "tell-all" or give detailed descriptions of personal things, but is it expedient to do so? I believe there can be a danger in it. I believe women can have good conversations and give wise counsel without losing their dignity.
Christian women should seek personal dignity.
Some people have the idea that it is not right to have personal honor or personal dignity, but the Bible teaches that dignity and honor are to be sought:
"A gracious woman retaineth honour. [dignity]" Proverbs 11:16
There is a common belief that things involving manners or personal dignity are shallow, superficial, lacking in depth, or snobbish, but according to Proverbs 31 dignity is part of being a woman of worth. The Bible speaks of honor as something to seek.
Julia Among the Roses
by Daniel Ridgeway Knight
The Trend of Transparency
In an era that encourages transparency and openness, women have lost their dignity and sacrificed their mystery. The tell-all television shows have helped make it culturally acceptable to reveal every detail of every weakness; every mental anguish in life. While modernists call this "honesty', it is not necessarily dishonest to keep some things private. Cautious speech is important when preserving dignity.
Someone recently sent me an email forward about the airport policy of making airline passengers walk through X-ray machines. In view of the popularity of transparency--- revealing every thought, every habit, every thing we do, I was amused at this reminder of literal transparency.
There is a problem if we want to expose everything to everyone, in the hope that we might win some to our beliefs. Women lose their dignity when they do this. Philippians 4:8 says to think about things that are honorable. It may not be honorable to discuss sinful things among a certain type of audience. Women need to be wise, and distinguish between what things should be said or written for the public, and what things are only fit for privacy.
One of the dangers of the new transparency is that those who seek our harm will use it against us. Unbelievers do not understand repentance. They focus only the sin. They may report things you have confessed and give you a reputation you may find difficult to live down. Converted women who have come up out of that watery grave of baptism should not live as though their sins are still clinging to them. They should walk in "newness of life." They should think like new creatures. They should avoid discussing personal things among acquaintances and online. They need to find ways to come across as being friendly and personable without giving up their privacy or losing their dignity.
by Daniel Ridgeway Knight
Dignity Should Fit the Description of a Godly Woman.
The phrase: "Strength and dignity are her clothing" is a figure of speech referring to the dignified bearing and personality of a worthy woman. One of the meanings of dignity is "honor." At the end of this post is an explanation of the way the Bible uses figures of speech to explain the meaning of something. Strength and dignity are referred to as clothing, so that the learner can understand the meaning of dignity as part of a woman's being. They should be dignified in the way they dress, the way they live and the way they speak.
The Village Seamstress
by Daniel Ridgeway Knight
Obviously dignified speech eliminates things like swearing and popular slang, especially when it is suggestive. It eliminates graphic descriptions of personal bodily functions or things that are not part of pleasant, edifying speech. James Herriot wrote in his book "Dog Stories" that he was happily reminded of the days gone by when people's sensibilities were too delicate to describe troubles with their livestock or pets in graphic detail. "How different it is now,"he wrote, "when the young farmer's wives often make me gulp with their recital of explicit anatomical details."Public blogs and other forms of online communication can be a temptation to reveal personal things that should be private, or limited to a certain group of trusted friends.
Peasant Girls in a Flower Garden
by Daniel Ridgeway Knight
Dignity is Like a Covering.
Dignity is something Proverbs 31 calls "clothing." Those of us who are "in Christ" know that we are also "clothed in Christ." It means to be protected or covered. Ist Peter 5:5 refers to being clothed in humility. Anyone that understands insurance coverage can understand the concept of being covered by something that is not tangible but is a protection. A worthy woman is clothed in dignity, a figure of speech that means held in honor.
Many young women seek the example of a dignified older woman. Practice dignity in your youth, and you will become the woman whose personality is clothed in dignity. Be especially careful what you say in groups of women or discuss on public blogs. Private blogs will allow more leniency but even then, women need to be careful to make sure that their speech is pure.
The Flower Boat
by Daniel Ridgeway Knight
Practice a High Code of Living.
Part of dignity, or honor, is to rise above the sinful things of the past and not dwell on them. If you are a mother, your children need to see dignity (honorable things) in you. To put the past away is not to be dishonest with them, because it is a way of protecting them. You have to be careful what you confess to your children, your friends, and yes, even church members, because of the way it can be used that is not edifying.
The story is told of a man who went to prison for selling drugs. While doing time, he was converted by a prison ministry. When he was released and attended worship, he let everyone know that he had been in prison and how he had been converted. He told his story so often that people began to refer to him as "the man who went to prison for selling drugs." His sinful but colorful past loomed larger in people's minds than his current change of life. We all need to be careful what we say, whether it be online or off so that our dignity is preserved and so that others will be thinking on things that are lovely. Women can do a lot to prevent a stereotype being spread about them, by not talking of the shame of the past, except in very personal situations.
Maria and Madeleine on the Terrace
by Daniel Ridgway Knight
Loss of Privacy
There may be young children or weaker members who can get the wrong ideas about confessions involving past sinful living.Their minds may dwell more on the dark side of the story than the bright side. Discernment and good sense should be used when deciding whether or not to relate past sins to certain ones. Some people have spread things around that have caused problems in people's lives, and that is a good reason to keep some things private.
Previous Generations Were More Dignified.
Many of us have parents living who did not see the need to broadcast every feeling, every angst, every bitter disappointment, every plan, or every move they made. Children were not told how much money their fathers earned, how much the family car cost, how much their father had in retirement funds, how much their mother weighed or how old adults were. Adults kept a lot of things private and did not have to divulge personal things in order to remain interesting to their friends. When impertinent questions were asked, it was common to hear the phrase, "That is none of your business." Today, people think you are hiding something or being dishonest unless you divulge every personal detail of your life, but women need to cultivate privacy and develop personal dignity.
The Fear of Formality.
Grace Livingston Hill wrote in her book, "Re-Creations"
"You know formalities are good things sometimes. They are like fences to keep intruders out and hedges to keep in the sacred and beautiful things of life."
Do not be afraid to keep up your fences and keep personal things to yourself. The practice trains others what to speak and what to refrain from saying or asking.
by Daniel Ridgeway Knight
Dignified Living Requires Cautious Speech.
Some mothers make the mistake of exposing their children to the knowledge of the follies of their own youth, not realizing that it may create in the children a desire to repeat the behavior. Mothers are responsible to guide and guard their children. They need to pay special attention to building the character of their children. Without good judgement, children talk and spread personal things to others, causing great harm in a woman's personal dignity.
While women can be very particular about which magazines they allow in their homes that expose children to sordid things, they need to be just as careful not to expose their children to their own past sins. There is a danger that the children will lose respect for their God-given authorities. Women need to attain and retain dignity and honor so that their children will not lose respect for them. The apostle Paul wrote:
... this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
The past can be valuable to remind us the pain of taking the wrong way, but we must be discerning in what we say to friends, to church members and to the public whether it be through casual conversations, the telephone or the internet. There are some people who lie in wait to find some flaw in Christian women in order to spread malicious gossip about them, gossip which might cause great damage to them later on. There are those who look down on people who talk about unsavory, or sinful things. A gracious woman should seek honor and dignity, rather than causing others to think of sordid things.
Revealing Personal Things Can Harm Your Influence.
Previous generations were more dignified in the things they talked about. They would have been horrified at the current transparency trend, knowing that it would cause loss of personal dignity and harm their future influence on others for good. They knew that if they expected to be an authority they had to live the part and retain personal dignity.
by Daniel Ridgeway Knight
Parents Need to Exercise Caution.
Parents do need to use their knowledge to protect their children from the follies of feminism. In doing so, however, it is a very dangerous thing to describe every sinful thing that they did in their youth. It is not good to broadcast the details of their sordid past life to immature minds. Later, in a moment of resentment or rebellion, a son or daughter may think, "Mother did it, so why can't I?" Or, a child may lose respect for their mother if they know that she once did the things that she is now telling her children not to do. Children also spread personal secrets to their friends, which can cause great havoc in a woman's life. Since a child's mind and reasoning is not fully formed, parents have to be very wise in the way they portray themselves. They may lose their authority if they show the children a weak side of themselves, and they also lose their dignity.
Seated Girl With Flowers
by Daniel Ridgeway Knight
Women Need to Be Careful What They Say in the Presence of Men.
While we expect men to avoid using strong language in front of women, women too must be careful in their speech around men, or as some would say "in mixed company." They should not freely talk about their hair or hair products, make-up, their personal hygiene preferences, the details of women's physical problems such as their period or any surgeries, the size of their clothing and underwear, marital relations, old boyfriends, potty training methods, and much more. Often in restaurants women indulge in laughing loudly at things that are not even amusing, or talking about things in public that are embarassing. Women need to attain dignity, and to do so, they must learn to speak about things that are higher and nobler. The quiet and gentle spirit (1st Peter 3:4) in women is something God values greatly and it adds to their dignity.
by George Knowles
Learn How to Make Good Conversation.
It may take a little study and research to find out how to participate in a conversation without allowing it to degenerate into disgusting talk, and it may take some practiced skill to guide a conversation that has gone astray. This is a refined attribute that is essential in attaining dignity or honor. Acquiring the ability to speak with dignity is like practicing on a fine instrument to participate in a public symphony. Once the music is learned, the player hardly knows he is performing it. Gracious ladies will have trials and errors but eventually will be able to discern what to say and what not to say, and when to divert a conversation back to the right path, one of dignified talk.
Constant communication is not good for women. (As some men would say, "They need to be making sandwiches" instead. ) Too much chatter, whether online or verbal, can reduce your alertness to your family and sap your strength.
Young Women Need to Be Around Good Influences and Pure Speech. Young women need to remove themselves from places that are a bad influence. "Evil communications corrupt good manners." Ist Corinthians 15:33. If you participate in such communications, you will not attain personal dignity. It is more likely that these people will pull you down to their level, than you will pull them up to yours. Online chatter is wasteful and destructive if it is not pure speech.
Young women who participate constantly in online message boards (including Facebook) that are full of off-color humor, vile messages, smart remarks, gossip and accusations need to close their accounts in those places and never go back. Scoffers and scorners are not going to get better just because someone nice is there.
A rotten apple spoils the whole barrel. It does not matter how many good apples you put in the barrel, it does not make the rotten apple any better. Sometimes, women make the mistake of staying in the company of fools, in order to make the foolish wise, but they are usually outnumbered, and at a disadvantage. Do not risk the loss of dignity by belonging to message boards or spending time with scoffers that have never changed. There are things to do in the home that are more important that will add to your personal dignity as a woman.
Polishing the Urn
by Daniel Ridgeway Knight
Older women need to be the primary example of dignity, but if there are none around, younger women need to study and prepare themselves to be the example to their daughters. Applying good conversation principles in knitting and crafting groups, ceramics classes, ladies Bible studies, restaurants, tours, visits and online can help women attain honor. Often these groups encourage the revealing of personal family information, and some of the women in these groups are not good advertisements for the Christian life. With knowledge and skill, wise women can guide the conversation into things that are lovely, good and noble.
The Honeymoon Breakfast
by Daniel Ridgeway Knight
Definitions of Dignity
Websters 1828 Dictionary: True honor; nobleness or elevation of mind, consisting in a high sense of propriety, truth and justice, with an abhorrence of mean and sinful actions; opposed to meanness. In this sense, we speak of the dignity of mind, and dignity of sentiments. This dignity is based on moral rectitude; all vice is incompatible with true dignity of mind. The man who deliberately injures another, whether male or female, has no true dignity of soul.
Wikopedia: 1.The state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect- a man of dignity and unbending principle- the dignity of labor; 3.A sense of pride in oneself; self-respect-" it was beneath his dignity to shout."
Today, we use many figures of speech in our language to describe an experience or to give a greater meaning to something. When a person says that a scripture "jumped out" at him, he does not mean that the verse literally came off the page. He is using a figure of speech. I have just written about the worthy woman in Proverbs 31 being "clothed" in honor. This is also a fugure of speech which is used to describe the character quality of dignity. The worthy woman was wearing a garment of dignity; a spiritual attribute described as clothing. When you are clothed in something, you represent it, you are covered in it, and you have acquired that personality. The worthy woman has dignity so much in her it is as if she is wearing it.
The Bible is more easily understood when you see the many figures of speech that is used to give a greater meaning to a word or phrase. For example, when a Pharisee told Jesus to flee because Herod was going to kill him, Jesus said, "Go, and tell that fox....." he did not mean that Herod was a fox. He was applying the attributes of a fox to Herod's personality. Perhaps he meant that the king was sly or sneaky. Some would call this personification of the fox and others might apply it as symbolism, Herod's personality being symbolic of a fox.
Below are a few (there are many more) significant figures of speech in the Bible:
"You do not see American women directing concerns outside the range of the family, or handling business dealings, or entering politics." … "Nor have Americans ever imagined that the result of democratic principle would be to overturn a husband’s authority or to introduce any ambiguity about who is in charge in the family." … "if I am asked how we should account for the unusual prosperity and growing strength of this nation, I would reply that they must be attributed to the superiority of their women."
Feminist occasionally try to make a point about the use of modern inventions by homemakers: driving a car, using a computer, publishing books, having a home or cottage industry, earning money with personal talent such as art, crafts, etc., and so forth. Their claim is that without feminism, women would not be allowed to read, write, drive, or conduct business.
I have always answered that the feminist movement was never needed. Their claim of being responsible for all these privileges is false. These things were enjoyed by women long before the 20th century feminist movement.
From a Biblical perspective, Christ freed women and made them "heirs together" in the grace of life. 1st Peter 3:7. The only liberator women need is Christ, and they do not need liberation from their duties as guardians of the home. Discontent at home, feminists insist that women need not use their talents for the family, but should make their mark outside of the home. This has done great harm to the home and the family, as it indoctrinates young women not to desire the honor of being wives, mothers and homemakers.
The best way to make your mark outside the home is to do a good job inside the home. Good works from the home never go unnoticed and do create a reputation for the home.
In tiher book, "The Flip Side of Feminism" by Suzanne Venker and Phyllis Schlafly, Phyllis addresses this same comment, stating that feminism never helped her succeed in anything. You can view her speaking about it on a video here. It is also imbedded at the end of this post.
One thing I have not seen addressed much is the constant mockery that prevails toward the homemaker, and especially the Biblical homemaker who desires to home school, make her own bread, grow a garden, sew clothes, and create a home life for their loved ones. Those who promote feminism have to first break down the things that stand in their way, and this is seen in the amount of derision, deriding and despising that is aimed at this honorable and Biblically approved life.
The concept of the pedestal has been scorned to such an extent that these days, no one dares to mention it in regard to the reputation men and women must uphold in their own spheres. One chapter in "The Flip Side of Feminism, titled "The Pedestal," states that women need to get off men's pedestal, and get back on their own. Helen Andelin made this concept more widely known, when she wrote that the women needed to stay in their feminine role. She warned that sometimes people would try to shake her pedestal and want to bring them down to their level, away from her lofty position as wife, mother and guide of the home.
My own belief is that God gave women a wonderful way to live through His Word which teaches them to take charge of the home. There is plenty to do at home for the young, even without children, and when they become older, they should be teaching others about the things they just finished doing. One stage of life prepares them for the next. Young women must learn to keep house, practice it and become good at it, and when they are older, show the younger women how to do it. The trials and errors of homemaking, child-rearing and marriage prepare women to be teachers of good things. Even a woman who has learned from her mistakes can be a good teacher, as she attempts to help the next generation to have good judgement.
In His wisdom and perfection, God created the most natural way of life for women. If this is the right way, why then, do women worry that it is not enough, that it will not work, that it will give them no rights, or that it will not be possible? Why do women listen the world advising them to have "back-up-plans," or "something to fall back on"? Does God's word need a back up plan? Women need instead to back-up God's plan by putting it into practice. Yes, in a sense, we need back-up plans, but they should be re-enforcements, not substitutes. When you want to keep the wind from blowing away your soil, you plant trees and shrubs around it. When you want to stay home, you find ways of doing it, and ways of proving that it works. I repeat: we need to back up the plan God already gave us in Titus 2, Ist Timothy 5:14 and others.
Proverbs 31 seems complicated and exhausting, but in the New Testament, the last will and testament of Christ, which is our spiritual authority today, the role of a woman is much simplified, and it is for her own peace. It gives about three main things for the woman in the church of Christ, to do: marriage, raising children and keeping house. This is reinforced in several different passages as guiding the home, guarding the home, training children, respecting the husband, and having a quiet and gentle spirit. One way to acquire that quiet and gentle spirit is to limit your activities to just the important ones that are given in the Bible: the care of the home and the guiding of the family.
God knows the nature of women and the danger of being over loaded with the worries of this world, and wisely allows her to be a home, where she can choose how she will look after it, what talents she will pursue, and how her children will be trained. In order to retain the quiet and gentle spirit, a woman must not take on the role of a man.
Fully embracing and enjoying the role at home is not dependent on money, as feminists would make us believe. Read my comment about one of the gods of this age, the economy, which women submit to as an excuse to leave their homes and families and pursue wages, on The Thinking Housewife.
Painting Description: Wearing a long blue gown, and holding up one side of the hem, a woman stands the lowest step in front of a lily pond. Her dress is adorned with a white shawl-collar, edged in a wide ruffle on the shoulders. The collar is tied in the front at the waist. The curved stone stair step leads behind her through a gate opening, and the entire background of the painting consists of foliage with dark pink flowers. The water shows a slight blue reflection of the gown, as the woman casts her glance downward to see the lilies.
Here are a couple of ways to create home made cards and letter-writing materials:
To make these you will need some pages from a daily removeable page picture calendar, some heavy paper or card weight paper, scissors and glue. Match up the pictures to the card and glue in place.
Since the inside is blank, write on it as though you were writing a letter, and use the back, too. Or, just stamp your greeting, if you have one, that fits the occasion.
Using decorated stationery might develop your interest in writing letters.
Decorate blank paper to make special writing paper by rubber stamping various areas around the paper, and then placing a ruler on the straight edge of the paper. Draw lines with co-ordinating crayon or special pens just to join the images, like this:
It nicely frames your letter with a lovely border.
I was given a chance to look at two interesting publications today. On the left, the Jean d'Arc Magazine,
which yielded these two lovely ideas. Above, a shaded patio table created with swaths of lace over a metal structure, and below,
making bouquets using columbines, a spire-like flower that apparently comes in several colors. Sometimes these common flowers that are so easy to grow begin appearing in expensive, store-bought bouquets, along with things like Queen Anne's Lace, forget-me-nots and daisies.
The magazine on the left, "The English Home" featured an interesting recipe for a tea bread, above, and some beautiful scenes, below. That was not all: - each magazine had far more splendid pictures and reading than these, and the ads, all relegated to the back pages, were in keeping with the theme of the magazines. Each ad was a pretty as the pictures in the publications themselves.
The English Home magazine features a regular ettiquette lady named Mrs. Minerva, who has a tongue-in-cheek style that makes you smile. This issue featured a personal home tour, an article about taking afternoon tea, a study of damask fabrics, and country homes. I'll have to start getting my own copy.
Wal-Mart had a new batch of cotton prints so I got a small piece of several patterns. The daisy print also comes with a pale background,
And this is a close-up of the pink swirly print that has a sheen on it.
It is always nice to have a bit of leisure time and enjoy the things that delight the heart. A friend of mine wrote to me recently and suggested that women at home take non-spending pleasure trips by viewing what is new in the shops and savoring new ideas. It is important to take time out to rest and enjoy just being alive.
I am reading a book called "An Enduring Love," about the modern Queen of Persia. A chapter from the book can be read here, and it was also made into a Miramax movie. This is a story of a family without a country, and shows the dignity in which Farrah handled all the things that happened to them from the time they fled their homeland to the death of her husband and youngest daughter. She wanted to be seen as an over-comer and refused to succumb to self-pity.
I looked for an unaccompanied (ACapella) version of "God's Choir in the Sky" but could not find it. This version, however, is quite nice, (filmed in the small village of Urk in the Netherlands) and the words are posted below it here.
I heard the angels sing "Glory Hallelujah!"
A mighty chorus way up high;
I heard the angels sing "Praise the name of Jesus!"
Singing in God's choir in the sky.
I heard a thousand trumpets sounding out His Glory,
telling the story how he came to earth to die;
I heard a million voices praise the name of Jesus,
Singing in God's choir in the sky.
I heard the glorious song coming out of Heaven,
The sweetest music ever heard;
I heard a mighty song sung by all the angels,
My soul thrilled at ev'ry loving word.
I fell down on my knees when that chorus ended,
They shouted out a glad Amen!
I fell down on my knees, prayed that when in heaven,
Alan R. Banks was one of the artists whose work was included in the Russian art exhibit in Moscow.
Description of Painting: The subject is a woman wearing a long skirt patterned with gold and yellow flowers, a white blouse and a white hat with a dark green band of ribbon around the crown. She is seated on a black, wrought iron bench in a garden, reading a book. Her expression is one of contentment and peace. Behind the seat are delicate white climbing roses, and the sunlight makes a pattern on the path beyond to a lattice fence. The thick green grass looks like a soft carpet for her feet. Beyond her is a lattice fence and more roses. What a wonderful place to find quietness, sweet scents, and happiness.
Every decade has its bad news. No matter where you live or when you were born, there is something tragic going on in the news. The great painters, though living in perilous times themselves, still brought loveliness into the world through their work.
If you are a homemaker, you have to consider yourself an ambassador of your own kind. A gloomy attitude towards life will discourage others from joining the wonderful world of homemaking.
Speaking in a positive way can make a day brighter for yourself and others. This poem expresses it well:
Note: When reading poetry, it is not necessary to pause at the end of a stanza or line. Read fluently, pausing only at the punctuation marks. You will find that it make better sense. This is a great read-aloud poem.
Talk happiness. The world is sad enough
Without your woe. No path is wholly rough.
Look for the places that are smooth and clear,
And speak of them to rest the weary ear
Of earth; so hurt by one continuous strain
Of mortal discontent and grief and pain.
Talk faith. The world is better off without
Your uttered ignorance and morbid doubt.
If you have faith in God, or man, or self,
Say so; if not, push back upon the shelf
Of silence all your thoughts ‘till faith shall come.
No one will grieve because your lips are dumb.
Talk health. The dreary, never-ending tale
Of mortal maladies is worn and stale;
You cannot charm or interest or please
By harping on that minor chord disease.
Say you are well, or all is well with you,
And God shall hear your words and make them true.
by Ella Wheeler Wilcox, 1850-1919
The author in the Victorian era expressed the same problems in speech that we have today. Complaining about life, reporting on every physical problem, and lack of faith are things that each generation needs to overcome.
There is no denying that life on earth can get very upsetting, but we are stuck here while we live, so we have to make the best of it. Within your grasp there is probably a Bible, and in it contain the keys to happiness, whether the circumstances be dreary or bright.
Happyis the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding. Proverbs 3:13
Behold, we count them happy which endure... James 4:11
But if ye suffer for righteousness' sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled. Ist Peter 3:14
There are of course, some people who will never be happy. They love misery and they want others to be miserable too. However, Christian women are not supposed to be speaking of gloom and doom. Since talk comes from whatever is in the mind, the solution is to think about things that are lovely:
According to Philippians 4:8, we are to "think on things" that are: true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtue and praiseworthy.
To train the mind to think on those things, try substituting a cheerful thought for a depressing one, or a good story for a scary story. Think of careful living instead of careless living. Spend some time creating a cache of lovely ideas, places, things, happenings and dreams, to substitute when you find your mind drifting into depressing thoughts. If you have gotten into the habit of thinking on the dark side of life, it will take some time to break it, but by substituting the collection of happy thoughts, beliefs and ideas, it can be done.
Some people have learned the art of taking "mind-vacations" where they think of places they would like to go and things they would like to do when they need some relief from the stress of the world around them. Others use pleasant little rituals, like taking tea using their best setting, at least once a day, to remove themselves from the cares of life that could otherwise cause dark thoughts.
There are those who just know how to keep a song in their hearts, so that when stress is levelled at them, they concentrate on the words of the songs they have stored up in their minds.
In times of tedious tasks, people who sing will find the job almost done before they know it, and they did not have to suffer from unhappiness while doing it. When we were children, we had to pick berries in the wilds, and it just seemed to take ever so long to fill our buckets. We found that singing all the verses of all the songs we knew, helped to lighten the work. This is one way to substitute something lovely for something that seems difficult and tedious. Forward this video to 3.52 on the dial, and hear the wife of Itzhak Perlman say "If everyone sang every day, the psychiatrists would be out of business."
One lady I know has a unique approach to life. With this method, she has accomplished many things and overcome many challenges. With her permission, I will quote:
"When I have endured any suffering or reproach, I go home and draw plans for a new house. After I have sketched the house, I build it in my mind and draw it on paper. Then, I go through books and catalogs and find all the furniture I like and fill up my new house. I pretend that there is plenty of money for whatever I want. I build a beautiful house and fill it with all the kinds of things I've ever liked. After that, I fill the closets with clothes for everyone in my family, and get myself a new wardrobe too. Then I write out invitations to people I like,, to come and have a banquet with me. At each place is a gift for each person, and they all enjoy a very special meal."
She is thinking on things that are lovely, pure, noble and good. She has not changed the bleak ways of the world, but she has controlled how it will effect her. The author of "Auntie Mame" wrote, "Life is a banquet, but most people are starving to death." This is a figure of speech that means there is a way to be happy but many people just do not see it.
The Bible is a source for refreshment and relief when the rest of the world is full of confusion. It is now more easily accessible than at any time in history. Most people have it right at their fingertips in the form of E-Sword on their computers. If you want to know the secret to happiness, just type in the word "happy," and see what the source really is. It has nothing to do with riches, honor, or worldly success. It has a lot to do with training the mind. There is no reason to be starving for happiness when it is available in abundance. The only thing you have to do is put these things into practice.
In talking happiness, it is essential to think on things that are good and happy. That is what Philippians 4:8 is all about. Many people are exceptionally familiar with this verse, but very few people remember the promise that comes in the very next sentence. It promises that if you do these things, the God of peace shall be with you. Think of things that are noble, lovely and good, and peace will follow.
Besides thinking happiness, we must speak happiness. Our speech is a gift to others. We can lift them up or depress them. The poem mentions the problem of complaining about ill health. This is something I heard one woman call "organ recitals"--referring to the state of the heart, the liver, the kidneys, etc. during a meal. It is always inappropriate to discuss bodily functions, details of your recent surgery (how much blood was spilled, etc.) while people are taking tea or eating. It is more encouraging to give a good report. (Philippians 4:8)
If you are involved in a regular Ladies Bible Study, you need to be especially careful to give visiting ladies a good impression. I have heard outsiders say of these classes that they would have enjoyed it better if there had not been so much bad news discussed among the ladies after the lesson was finished.
Sometimes when people are in a group, they forget themselves and get carried away with topics that are not appropriate or uplifting. Everyone seemed eager to report personal details of their lives that are not encouraging, or gruesome details of things that ought not to be spoken of in public. This kind of talk can be corrected by taking Philippians 4:8 into the mind and applying it every time you are tempted to say something that would give a visitor a bad impression of the Lord's church. Before you speak about unsavory things, look around the room and see if there might be anyone there who is weaker or who may not be edified by what you say. Be sure that your conversation is uplifting and beneficial without being macabre.
An outsider will think that Christianity must be a miserable life, when all they hear is women in the church talking about horrible things. God's people are not supposed to be morose, fearful, complaining or gloomy. They need to talk happiness and overcome the world.
I am reading an old book online titled, "The Joy of Living," by Orison Marden, written in 1913. In it, the author chides her own generation for worrying about the future, and speaks of ways to enjoy the present to the fullest. At the beginning of chapter XXV , which is titled "Turning the Water of Life into Wine, is written, "If it is a dark day, never mind. You will add to the brightness."
Greeting cards and note cards of quality can be expensive. You can get a box of 8 at a dollar store, but the scene or art is not always beautiful or as perfect as you might like it. Here is a way for very busy homemakers to have cards on hand for quick replies and notes such as thank-you notes, acceptance notes, invitations to tea, or just thinking-of-you notes.
It only takes a very few supplies to make these quick and easy but bursting-with-beauty cards: acatalog, heavy papers, glue and scissors. This might be a good craft project for children when they need some kind of creative kit to spend some leisurely hours.
These are quite easy, using things you may already have. After sending in your order for seeds and bulbs, use the beautiful catalog for clip-art. The photographs are bright and glossy and they work well for making quick cards. You might also cut out from scrap papers squares and rectangles to make backgrounds for the pictures you choose. Use any fancy pens you have to make outlines or to write the greeting on the inside.
Seed catalogs have beautiful photographs suitable for making cards.
Find the pictures you really like and cut them out. In this flower catalog, the pictures are free of the catalog numbers (A, B, C, D etc) making them ideal for lovely cards.
Collect the materials: clipped pictures from catalogs, background pieces made from punched paper*, and folded blank cards, which you make yourself from card stock or paper.
Get the card ready by cutting a piece of card stock or heavy paper (or just paper) in half.
Fold each half in half again to make two cards.
The paper here is the same size as printer paper, 8 and 1/2 inch by 11 inches.
Each cut piece is 4 and 1/4 inch by 5 inches.
The above card is made simply by pasting a picture clipped from a garden catalog onto the center of a piece of white card stock or heavy white paper.
Spend a little time making a lay-out by placing your clipped pictures on the cards or the little background pieces which can be cut with shaped scissors. Change the pictures and the cards to see which ones look best together, taking note of the brightness, the contrast, and the colors. Then, lay out all your selections, with the pictures on the cards, and glue everything, centering them as you wish. Not everything has to be centered, though. Try putting the pictures off to one side, or slanted, or in whichever way looks best to you. You can also add diamond or tear drop stickers for sparkle or dew on the flowers, but these cards are made mainly with two ingredients: one picture and one card.
If you have a punch, you can make a butterfly and add it to your card.
This picture is placed on top of one of those pieces made by a craft punch. I love the field of mauve tulips in front of a white garden bench.
Clip art can come from any magazines and catalogs, and work well if the paper is high quality. The teapot and teacup picture makes a perfect invitation to, or thank-you-note for tea.
Another catalog yielded this lovely piece showing a hammock between two trees across a green lawn.
Beneath this picture of a white fluffy flower is another craft punched piece of paper, edged in butterflies.
To make an envelope, open up one that you already have, glue it onto heavy paper or card stock, and cut it out.
Use it for a template by tracing around it on plain paper. Then cut it out. You can stack several pieces of paper and cut them all out at once.
Fold the envelopes the way the original was folded.
Print out my template below, and follow the directions written on it for folding, making the flat edge fold up over the two pointed edges of the envelop, at the bottom.
These cards make good stationery gifts. I'm giving away this stack of cards to a busy person who really needs them.
This is the way to address an envelope:
In the upper left corner, write your own name and address.
On the front of the envelope write:
First line: The name of the recipient
Second line: the number and street.
Third line: City, a comma, and the State, and the zip code (not included above, but goes right next to the state, on the same line)
Fourth Line: if you are sending the letter outside of your own country, in clear writing, indicate the name of the country.
Here is the template for the envelope that fits for the cards. Just click on for a larger view and then click "print." Follow the numbers to determine the folding procedure. Remember to paste it on to heavier paper, then cut it out and use it to trace around for your envelopes.
I personally liked the plain picture on the plain card. It took very little time. If you are a busy person, and don't have time to make a stack of these, try making just one of them.
A textured piece of card-stock, a punched piece, and a picture of tulips from the catalog.
It is easy to be creative when you already have things on hand, and it is also nice to have a stack of cards and envelopes ready at any time. I keep mine on my desk, along with stamps and a pen, so that I can answer mail easily. It is hard to calculate the cost but it does no harm to the family budget.
Use a sticker, or make one by pasting on another floral clipping, to seal the back of the envelope.
This is also a good way to use the calendar pictures from the calendar I made for you at the beginning of the year:
I used Dimensions or Scribbles for the little drops of water on the flower.
Hand-made and hand-written notes are always welcome in the mailbox, and the post office never gets a virus and loses all your addresses like the computer does.
I walked out to the mail box, which was a ways from the house, one overcast, cold day, and found in it a brightly colored magazine issue, with a bouquet of flowers on the cover. It made such a difference in my day, that I thought it must be nice for anyone to open up a piece of mail with something as pretty as that. When I make these cards, I always think of the feeling of cheer it will give someone, and wish the card itself could be seen right away instead of the envelope, like that bright magazine cover. I believe it was one of the older Victoria magazines, and I will always remember how it made me feel to see it in the morning of a gloomy day. It would be nice if the envelope was made of cellophane or some see through material so that the floral picture could be seen right away when someone goes out to get their mail. You can paste these same lovely pictures to the back of your envelope, or you can add a bright sticker to seal it on the back. Once you have your envelope template, you can trace it around a large picture or print of some kind. Then, cut a small piece of blank paper on which to write the address, and paste it on top.