The advantages to being a full time homemaker when you are sick are manifold. There is no pay loss and no hurry to get well. There will be no anxiety about whether or not you can keep your job if your recovery is slow.
When you are ill, I think the best thing to do is go to bed. Taking too many remedies often covers up the illness, whether it be a cold or aches, and then you feel better so you keep working. In actuality, you may still be sick, even though you are walking around. Colds and other illnesses can keep you from sleep, but you can doze off at your leisure if you will get comfortable in bed. Flanked by a stack of soothing magazines and some favorite projects, you can set up camp in your own room.
My husband has always been very helpful when I have been ill. He calls me and asks me to tell him what to bring home. What would help me feel better? Just name it.
I was thinking about the husbands that we know, who are so much like this, mainly from the church we attend. One man has a wife that is in the advanced stages of the debilitating disease of memory loss. He holds her hand at church, and at home, he tries to see that she is warm enough, helps her eat, and is ever so tender hearted with her.
It is interesting that although she cannot speak to us anymore, she sings every word from the selected song in the songbook. Today he brought her to the ladies Bible class that I teach, helped her be seated, and brought her a cup of coffee. I led the song, "Shall We Gather at the River" and I heard her sing every word of it.
Another husband here is himself handicapped. He walks with a limp, because of a vehicle accident some years ago. He is still young, though, and he has such a concern for the comfort of his wife. He is always, always fixing things in the house: changing wallpaper, re-painting, adding shelves, removing things, replacing carpet with flooring, installing heat or air conditioning, adding safer windows, and so forth. It is all for the comfort of his wife and little girl. He just loves them so much. He also cares for his widowed mother and built a ramp on the side of his house for wheelchair or easier walking for the elderly.
One woman at church found out she had a terminal illness. Her husband immediately built her a sewing room and painted it pink. It is all equipped with sky lights and heat, a warm floor and everything she needs to spend many happy hours in her love of sewing and quilting.
There are a lot more husbands like this that I know, that show such careful attention to their wives during illness. It would take a lot of posts to describe them.
My friend who takes me to tea sometimes, says that her husband is always watching over her and asking what he can do for her. He is young but he appreciates her so much and appreciates having a home and family.
There are some men, I suppose, who are not so understanding or mature, that will not tolerate illness in their wives. These husbands that I described, seem to be even more attentive when their wives do not feel well. Perhaps they know it will hasten their recovery and they can be back to being companions to them. Their good care of their wives reminds me of the scripture from Proverbs: "Two are better than one, for when one falls, the other will lift him up."
picture from Victorian Trading Co.
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