Ladies, this is not about homemaking, and not for very young, busy mothers to be concerned about (as it can really get your mind all wound up and running!!). This article may also become a bigger one to later be posted at
www.ladiesagainstfeminism.org. I just wanted to share with everyone the power of the pen and the cyber world, if a homemaker just takes about one hour to help someone.
I don't know if anyone reads David Barton, who writes about our county's history, the founding fathers, the pilgrims, and the original meanings of our constitution. Somewhere on his site he wrote something concerning calling your senators, your representatives and governors. You probably know that very few people do this. Yet, he said, if a senator or rep. gets only 5 phone calls, he perks up his ears, because he knows something is going on. If he gets 20 phone calls, he realize there is a real serious "movement" in the country, as each call represents about 100 people.
Our family took that to heart and as a result has changed several things. We often hear from friends how hopeless they feel about the way our courts are headed and the way that the change-agents are changing our country's laws from the ones that were established in the beginning, based on scripture. They feel helpless to know what to do about it, because they cannot afford to launch a petition or go to court to challenge anything.
There are only 5 adults in our family, and we took on a huge Christian college to challenge a textbook that was full of vileness and error, even lewd material and secular lies. In a large institution, it is easy to overlook something, and the president of the college did not read every single textbook to approve it or not.
I offerred to pay my son in law's plane ticket to visit this college and point out the damaging error in this textbook--a textbook that would have changed the minds of many students graduating and going on to infiltrate churches everywhere, but he said, "No. I want to stay home. I'll just launch a cyber-war."
From home, he emailed the professors and the president, and phoned them, quoting various atrocities in this book. It took only two months, and the president emailed all of us and announced that the textbook was removed. You can read about it here:
http://wisdomfromtheword.blogspot.com/ If you are a busy homemaker, please do not concern yourself with this. I was only able to do it during a time when my house was empty in the day and I could not sleep (as you get older, sometimes you have a completely sleepless night, and it can be put to good use!)
I repeat, do not get yourself embroiled in issues if you need to concentrate on the needs of your husband and children, or if your housework is piling up. There is a danger of young women getting too immersed in such issues--after all, they are very compelling, but they can rob you of your concentration for the more important things of marriage, home and family. Your opportunity may come in a different season of your life.
There is a scripture that says if you do what is right, that the results would be:
Lev 26:8 And five of you shall chase an hundred, and an hundred of you shall put ten thousand to flight: and your enemies shall fall.
In our case, 5 of us chased 5,000. After pointing out the attack on Christian values in this book, my husband phoned the dean of the college to see if the book had been removed. I reviewed the book in detail and kept a record of the error in it, writing directly into the text itself. I figured that if anyone got ahold of the texbook in the future, they would have the discrepancies written out in front of them and could challenge their teachers. All of us contributed in some way to have the victory. We had planned to warn parents and churches about this, but it was not necessary. The president of the college wrote that it had been removed, thanked us for the work we did, and said he hoped to meet us some day.
Some people asked us: "Why not leave the textbook alone, and let the students refute it to the professors?" We would have done that, had we found a way to distribute the information to the students. We had no access to the students. Most students were trying to pass their courses and get out of there. They did not go to college to challenge anyone, and they did not have the gumption nor the maturity or wisdom to do so. That is why we challenged it.
This happened last January, and now, this January, another person came to us for help. I may have told about it in previous entries on this blog. My friend Lori, whose husband walked out on her after 34 years, had been sued for divorce. She did not want the divorce, and begged him to reconsider. We call it "forced divorce," because the reluctant party has their life torn apart. She did not want to be a divorced person. All her life she worked toward having a happy family and a nice home. Now it was being taken from her.
Having no experience with the law or the courts (never as much as a traffic ticket) Lori went naively into court and lost everything, even the retirement money she had set aside for their future, which would have amounted to regular "wages" for her once she turneed 50. She carefully squirrelled away extra money all those years into savings accounts and retirement accounts, and even bought a house that only owed about $10,000. She had saved enough from her husband's salary in a bank account to completely pay off her debt. Other than that, because she was such a careful manager of money, she had no debt. The family built up their coffers by the sacrifices of Lori, who bought her clothes at garage sales, planted a garden, and denied herself luxuries.
My husband and I observed the courtroom proceedures with her and watched as the judged nodded off several times, sleeping, and the lawyer snidely accused Lori of being a "lazy housewife," and told her that at age 50 she was "young enough" to get a minimum wage job and start over. He accused her of squandering money because she had not paid the taxes on the house for the last two years during the divorce proceedings.
My husband, a preacher, attempted to talk to the husband, but he would not cooperate, and was determined to get out of the marriage. He said he just "wanted to be happy." We then read the judge's ruling, with the following comments:
"Husband is not obligated to pay support to Wife to live a life of leisure,"
"Wife has no intention of getting a job. She seems to have taken the position that just because she raised her own chldren and cared for the house all her adult life and because this is a long term marriage, that Husband now owes her support."
"Husband is not obligated to fully subsidize a life of leisure for Wife.."
"Wife's mother owns property and has money that could be used as a marital asset" (in other words, let her mother support her)
Spousal support from a man who earns $5,000 a month and who has 3 retirement accounts worth half a million dollars was awarded to Lori for $200.00. She was ordered to get a job. She was being punished for being a homemaker and a faithful wife and mother for 34 years.
Lori was left with the most worn out car and lives in the country, far away from any kind of employment. She had her propane tank taken out by the company because she could not afford it any more. She was the frugal wife who bought her clothes at yard sales and grew her own garden for family food. Now, after 34 years, she was being sued and punished.
I wrote all this to tell you the power of one person. My husband preached a sermon about the power of one, but I have never been able to find it and share it with anyone, so I thought I would test out the idea.
On one of those freaky nights that I could not sleep, I got online and examined the state law regarding divorce and spousal support. I found it very easy to understand, very concise, and very short. I emailed the lawyers and the judge and asked them to obey the law. It said that the wife was to be given suport based on the longevity of the marriage and based on her needs. I hammered that home to them several times, showing them that they must obey the law. I told them I saw this as a blatant attack on career homemakers, in an attempt to punish them and force them out in the work force.
In my letter I reminded them that the world was watching this case, and that it would be written about on a very important site that gets over 100,000 new views per day--
www.ladiesagainstfeminism.org I asked the lawyers and the judge to create the ending for this story and showed them how they could either become heroes or scoundrels, depending upon what they did.
I am only one person. I was quite skeptical that anyone would pay attention to me. They might put me down as some wacked out extremist and dismiss my emails.
I emailed my comments to the judge (whose name was Murphy, and who made ups several of his own laws, (for example, "the wife can be supported by the mother", and "The mother's land can valued and be subtracted from the amount husband owes wife") which I called "Murphy's Laws" in my letter. I encouraged him to do what was right and obey the state law, rather than Murphy's law.
The letter was also to be given to Lori's lawyer, who had failed her miserably while living on a retainer from her for two years (the money she had put in savings to pay off the remaining debt of her house). Lori wanted to take the letter herself at her appointment on Tuesday. I was to accompany her. I emailed the letter to the judge, (which was just a copy of the letter to the lawyer, not an actual letter to the judge) thinking that the lawyer would get his letter within a few hours.
The phone rang and Lori informed me that something strange had happened. Her lawyer had cancelled the appointment because the judge had suddenly called both lawyers into his chambers. He was headed for the courthouse and couldn't meet with her after all. He would not say why.
The judge called them in to inform them about my letter. Since the lawyer had suddenly cancelled our appointment, he did not get the letter. He was shocked to hear the judge say that in view if this letter, the ruling he sent out was not exactly "final."
We know not what his final ruling will be, but I just wanted to tell you ladies that homemakers have more power than they know, if they do what is right. God will requite (repay, compensate) and compensate them for injustice done them and for the good that they have done in their lives. There is a judicial attack against the Biblical wife, mother and homemaker, all over the country.
However, we can't sit back and say "oh,well, that is the way it is. Our judges and lawyers and courts are so corrupt." As citizens we have a duty and an obligation to see that our public servants (including judges)
OBEY THE LAW instead of making up their own. This is how they are changing our land and making it miserable to live in our own country--and we can correct it. You have to correct them the way you correct your children--at the slightest infraction. If you don't, you have a bigger problem later.
The point of this is, I only had to leave my home one time, to accompany my husband to the courtroom to observe the proceedings (a polite word for "shennigans!) and from then on, I used my computer and the telephone. It took very very little time. My laundry was caught up, my beds made, the kitchen clean, and meals still on time. I'm not saying everyone should do this, but there are seasons in people's lives where something like this could be done. I am not saying homemakers would make a steady habit of this kind of thing. Maybe one person would do one thing one time in their life. If that happened,it would still be very effective.
The year before last, I wrote to a local paper to show the problem of the nude calendar that the farmers had put out and the bad influence it had on our town and our youth. When others saw the letter, they got up the courage to join in protest. This year, the calendar is not being sold.
When you read this you might think I have been awfully busy, but remember, these were incidents that took place one time each year. The rest of the year was spent normally. I am not always embroiled in some kind of controversial battle. The Bible says that there are some people who do not sleep unless they are doing wrong. There are those who cannot sleep when they see wrong being done, and cannot sleep unless they do right. So if you are the sleepless type, you can use that time be helpful.
(Pro 4:16 For they sleep not, except they have done mischief; and their sleep is taken away, unless they cause some to fall)
Homemakers: These are our courts and our laws. This is our land. Our judicial system is based on the Bible. The Bible is full of laws and statutes. The lawyers and courts and even the laws are now threatening the homemaker's rights to be what God allows them to be: wife, mother and homemaker for a lifetime. If you would like a copy of the 9 page letter I sent to the lawyer and the judge, please email me
ladylydiaspeaks@comcast.net This is our country but it is being subtly taken over and the laws changed through the courts. Our laws were designed by our forefathers to protect the innocent and punish the wicked, not the opposite.
If you want to put a stop to it, then when an opportunity arises--such as when you hear about something or see something, you as a citizen have a right an and obligation to correct our government and appeal to them to do that which is right. I am happy to report to you that this effort cost me nearly nothing but a little time, some paper and ink.
What I am saying is: you don't need a huge organization behind you to have power. You don't need the NOW, and you don't even need Christian organizations. You don't need an act of congress. You don't need new laws. All is needed is for one person to make another person obey the laws that already exist. Although I hate the no-fault divorce law, I was able to use that against them, because they weren't obeying it. They were finding fault with Lori and using her homemaking career as an excuse to punish her.
Here is a link to a very interesting letter from a lawyer, showing the divisive tactics they use to split up a couple's assets and make the couple hate each other and ensure that there will be a divorce
http://www.divorceinfo.com/letterfromlawyer.htm
