Monday, March 11, 2019

Dress for Respect-- Video

Dresses from Blair catalog for women.

Hello Ladies,

Today I am talking about dressing with and for respect: respect for yourself, respect for God, respect for your children and husband, and respect for those who serve you in the public market. 



I have designed this video for listenning while you work. I estimate it will get you through loading the dishwasher, cleaning part of the kitchen, folding some towels and making one bed.

This is a tree that broken during a recent storm. I'm sorry I just can't muster up a dress to wear to go with ;-)


18 comments:

ElegantLady said...

Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video! I feel greatly inspired by all that you said. I will rewatch this video several times to let your ideas and suggestions really sink in for maximum impact on my efforts towards my daily appearance! God bless you and your family!

Laura Jeanne said...

I really enjoyed this talk Lydia, and I agree with you. I feel it is disrespectful of other people to go out dressed in pajamas. We should give other people something pleasant to look at when we go out. When ladies used to go out shopping wearing hats and gloves and high heels, that was respectful not only of themselves, but of the people who would see them at the store.

I also agree that children's tastes are developed by what they see their mother wear. My own mother did not respect or enjoy her role as a homemaker - and throughout my entire childhood all I can remember her wearing at home was some form of jogging suit or pajamas. So I too developed a very casual way of dressing, and a belief that it was vain and wasteful to make a fuss over my appearance.

The moment where I started to think that maybe I should put forth a little more effort into my appearance was when I was a young woman in my early 20s. I was reading through the Anne of Green Gables books - I think it was the 4th book, Anne of Windy Poplars, and Anne is helping her sour-tempered, dowdy friend to look pretty before they went out to a party. She made them both look beautiful in brightly coloured outfits, showed her friend their appearance in a mirror, and said "There! Isn't it nice to think that we'll give other people pleasure just to look at us?" That hit me like a thunderbolt, because I had never thought of it that way at all.

So it's been a struggle my whole life to figure out how to dress nicely - I want to do it but it doesn't seem to come naturally because of my upbringing. So I always appreciate encouragement like this video. Thank you for making it. :)

lynn maust said...

SO glad you know to use the word 'who' instead of 'that' when you refer to people. (L.M)

Mrs. C said...

Another video I greatly enjoyed! Maybe it's your years as a pastor's wife or just your personality but you have a pleasant way of talking about a subject that makes me want to listen to the videos over and over again! They're very encouraging. Thank you for the time and effort you put into them.

Janet W. said...

Yes Lydia, you do have the gift of encouragement and you certainly use it to glorify the Lord. Thank you so much dear lady!
Janet

Lydia said...

I don't like hearing my own voice! But I have friends who have lovely voices and sometimes I call them just to listen!!

Laura Smith said...

Thank you for the video, would you mind sharing the name of the catalog the lace dresses are from in the picture. They look like something I would like to try.

Lydia said...

I added the info under the photo. It is from the recent Blair catalog, the women's issue. You can order online or get the catalog in your mail.

Lydia said...

One of the simplist and quickest way to show care and concern for other people is to dress to show respect to those who have to look at you. It is the easiest way to change something. It is something you have the most control over. In winter if you can't find nice clothes, at least try to get a long, beautiful coat. If you don't wear dresses or skirts, that long coat will look more like a dress.

Lydia said...

Dolores Moore, thank you for the phone call today and the nice message you left. I'll try to ring you on my cellphone tomorrow.

Outdoors said...

I love it how you macthed your shirt and that lamp behind you. :)

My experience is the same as Laura Jeanne. Though my mother worked. But when she was at home, she always wore something horrible. She still does, even though she is retired: When she goes running errands, she will put decent clothes on, but with family, she wears only really worn out and ugly clothes. The funny thing is she is actually really vain. But for some reason, she doesn't think her family is worth her pretty clothes... It is like family members were not people at all.

I am so glad I have found this blog. In my country (Finland, that is), nobody is a homemaker. Nobody cares about modesty and such issues. So watching your videos, Lydia, is a great encouragement to me.

Unknown said...

Oh this is just what I needed. I am a brand new stay at home mom. I've been a chef for the past 15 years and have been struggling a bit with adjusting, but I am determined!I'm so glad I found you!! Thank you for your advice and I am blessed as well to know you are a member of the Lord's Church! Thank you!

Lydia said...

Im sorry the blog doesn't allow people to use their name or blog, but something went awry about a year ago that I haven't been able to fix. Everyone is "unknown" now. I've been in the dashboard trying to find out about it, but it has something to do with blogger.

Gail said...

I can somehow conjure up in my mind's eye some dresses to go with that tree, and most of them are hanging in the stores right now. Thanks for the videos of late. They really minister to me.

Gail

Christine said...

This is very timely, Lydia. I am in the process of trying to change some of my at home attire. Although I am always careful to do my hair and make up quite nicely, and my clothes are clean, I definitely want to make more of an effort to "smarten up."

I really hope I am able to post this comment, as I have been struggling for some time trying to comment on your blog as well as others. I have a hunch it may be somehow related to my IPad.

I shall keep my fingers crossed that it will work!

Blessings,
Christine

Lydia said...

Ladies thank you for your feedback here.

Kim said...

Hello Lydia, I am a long-time reader of your blog. Your articles and videos have always been so encouraging and uplifting to me. And I'd like to thank you for continuing your beautiful homemaking blog for so many years.

Unknown said...

Thank you Ms.Lydia,
Your video's always cheer me up when I am feeling down or discouraged!
Jen Steelman