Saturday, June 08, 2019

Homemaker Support: Using Isolation as an Advantage

Brittany Girl Fishing, by Daniel Ridgeway Knight

(You can't have a noisy group around you when you go fishing. You have to be a little isolated!)

Hello Ladies,

Today  I am addressing the subject of feeling isolated, when you are a homemaker.  It doesn't just happen to homemakers, of course, but it can be more keenly felt because you don't have group approval or any kind of support group.  Therefore, make a support system from the family by discovering life together and learning together.  I cover some of this in the video, plus a few other tips that might be helpful.

You can be helpful too, if you will leave a comment!!



Songsparrowgarden said...

You are so wise Lydia!! This is very helpful, lots of wonderful tips. Thank you for always sharing the beauty that is you!

Lydia said...

Hmmm, I’m not sure about wise but I’m just telling you my observations.

Feminine Belle said...
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Lydia said...

Much appreciate the thoughtful comments.
Loneliness is not the same as isolation. Will address it in future video

Feminine Belle said...

Just because one is isolated does not mean they are alone. True~

I'd venture and say there are some women which would say isolation IS loneliness from past conversations, but I do not agree with that statement.

Isolation COULD be counted in as a factor, though I wager there are other stimulates involved. Makes me think of a movie called The Wall by Julian Pölsler.

Here's the link:

Did get the bed striped and get my ironing in gear!

Lydia said...

A lot of things you listed are great for people who are more mobile and whose children are old enough to participate, but new mothers confined at home won't be able to jump right into to such social things. There is a period of time when the baby is all they can manage. I'll be doing a video on this subject in the future. There are other ladies in similar situations where they aren't able to get out and have limited energy.

Homemaker's Heart said...

Dear Lydia~
Thank you so much for this video. I feel encouraged from listening to you. I live in the country about 25 min outside of Durango and there are few Christians, let alone homemakers. While I can see my neighbors homes, they are a distance. The idea of focusing on the "next right thing today" helps, just as you said. What can I do today?

I had learned, 20 yrs ago when I first started being a homemaker, that if I was gone from home the chances are high that I will be spending money. I lived far from town then too, so I would go to town 2 x/ a week - one for errands and one for "outing" or social time. This often included thrift shop or consignment shopping and maybe meeting a friend for lunch. Again,spending. When I would plan before i left "no spending, just see how many folks you can share a smile with" It was a lovely afternoon. Much more so than if I "spent money".

Thanks for this reminder. PS - This video is not background noise. You have a lovely encouraging voice and it's a joy to listen to you

May God's peace be with you,

Laura Smith said...

Thank you for the inspiration to visit the different "rooms" of my home. Today I will visit the music room (a music stand in a corner with my flute and keyboard), and also my sewing room (a desk with sewing machine and cubicle for supplies) to sew a Kitty for a new baby in the extended family. The idea to visit these rooms makes one get out of the routine or rut of staying in one place. It's also nice to hear a Titus 2 woman such as yourself when I am "alone" at home.

Helena said...

I was making a similar observation yesterday that you articulated in this video, Lady Lydia. I was out of sorts until I started to DO something. Then I fell in line with what I was doing. Action is an antidote to feeling isolated. Self pity and action can't stand each other either, I find. If I'm feeling sorry for myself the best thing I can do is tidy up the kitchen, go through clothes, even have a shower. God is good that he provides remedies to our problems.

Unknown said...

I have been watching and enjoying your videos on youtube for some time :) Thank you for all of your insight. My kiddos are still little and I appreciate the wisdom of a mama and wife who is further along this journey! Super helpful! I agree with your thoughts about how important it is to share a smile or a kind word when we are out and about. Having worked in retail and restaurants back in the day, it always made a difference to us. Living mostly in the Midwest and the South, folks tend to be "chatty" if you give them a chance, which I think is becoming a lost art. Sending love to all the others out there who have felt this isolated feeling. Thanks again for presenting it to us as an opportunity to grow vs. a chance to allow anxiety to rule.

Lydia said...

Ladies these are brilliant observations about isolation. In my observation there are two kinds of isolation. One is when you actually live way out in the country where it is quiet, and another is when you are sidelined or ignored or given silent treatment no matter where you live. The latter is designed to control you and trouble you, possibly because you don’t conform to someone else’s opinion

Lydia said...

What I mean is, when you don’t conform to the prevailing culture you aren’t socially acceptable and you feel isolated. This is designed to make you miserable so you will reject that walk and go the way that will get approval and friendship

Stacy said...

Hi! Thank you for your videos. I enjoy them so much! You have a great deal of Biblical wisdom and positive outlook to share. Some days I think the opposite of isolation can be true as well. With phones, computers, shops, and appointments, my time can be quickly taken away. I like the idea of taking an intentional break and also of being a pioneer to accept being different from other women around me.
I love being able to visit my "sewing room" today, and think of ways I can set up other areas to sit and enjoy the day. I'm convalescing today, so some time has been spent in my room. I've tried to set it up nicely like a hotel room, even with a tiny table and chairs for teatime.
Thank you for your good words!

Paula said...

Thank you for addressing this topic. It is nice to know I am not alone in sometimes having these feelings of isolation. When I do experience this it helps me to do something creative around the home. Sometimes it's a big project, but other times it is just something small like rearranging some things on my mantel.

Gigi said...

Lovely video.
I find most isolation quite calming. It is nice to have friends over, but it can be so time consuming to have a busy social life. One cannot accomplish all the chores and duties that are required to be attended at home. A good balance, I suppose, of social life and solitude is acceptable.

Lydia said...

It is quite a different Perspective to turn isolation, gloomy thoughts,uneasiness, anxiety, etc. into something useful.